Attitude towards dealing with people and matters

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Principles of classic approaches to handling matters: Attitudes towards living and dealing with things (1). In this world, the most difficult things are to know how to live and how to handle matters. After living for decades, one often fails to act in the proper manner or handle things correctly. Although there are many principles that tell us how to behave and handle matters, it is useless if we only know the theory without putting it into practice. How exactly should one behave and handle things? I. Follow only the gentle path, not the harsh one: Among the people in the world, some are too forceful, persistent, and competitive; as the saying goes, “The rafters that strive to stand out first suffer damage.” The teeth and tongue in our mouths – although teeth are hard and the tongue is soft – are the teeth that get damaged first, not the tongue; the tongue begins to decay only after death, which shows that softness endures longer. The Avatamsaka Sutra says: “Abide in the practices of constant joy, gentleness, patience, and tolerance, and remain in compassion, joy, generosity, and renunciation.” ”Master Hanshan also said, “The world is filled with chaos and turmoil; patience and gentleness are the best remedies.” ”Therefore, one should act with gentleness rather than rigidity. II. Wanting only good things and not bad ones: As the saying goes, “In the three realms, it is all mind; who can understand all phenomena?” If your heart is kind, then everything you think of will be good ； You have a wicked heart; all you think about is how to scheme against others. When the sage looks at society, everyone is a sage ； Evil people see everyone else as evil people. So we should first strengthen our hearts. III. Be diligent in serving without backing down: The Youth Code states that \"the purpose of life is to serve.\" If we want our supervisors to appreciate and recognize us in our work in society, we must first possess the virtue of diligence and a spirit of service. We should be proactive in facing challenges, moving forward rather than retreating. By having these basic attitudes toward life, we can not only achieve success in our careers but also become popular everywhere and earn the goodwill of others. IV. Respect, humility, and grace: Modesty is a virtue of the Chinese people; as the saying goes, “Those who respect others are always respected in return.” As long as we can be humble and respectful toward others, we will surely win their goodwill. \"Be humble in manner, yet high in performance.\" The universe is only five feet tall; how can humans, who stand six feet tall, avoid bowing their heads while living in it? Therefore, one should be humble in life and willing to endure some hardships; just like the plum blossom, without going through the trials of winter snow, how could it possess such a delightful fragrance? Therefore, one should be like a plum blossom – respectful, humble, and filled with fragrance. Regarding how to conduct oneself in interactions: First, follow the path of gentleness rather than force. II. Only thinking of the good things and not the bad. III. Provide service with diligence and without hesitation. IV. Respectful, humble, and filled with fragrance. Attitude towards life and dealing with others (II): What determines whether a person is successful in life and in their interactions with others? One of the requirements is to have the right attitude and mindset. With wrong attitudes and biases, one will move in the opposite direction and will never achieve the goal. 　　Regarding the attitude we should adopt in our interactions with others, I offer four suggestions: First, the law and justice are more important than personal feelings: We all have emotions, which is why we are called sentient beings. But it’s not good for a person to be overly considerate of others or to be too emotional. Therefore, in the world of emotions, one must be rational; one should use reason and Buddhist teachings to guide emotions – that is, Dharma-related emotions take precedence over human emotions. Football recommendations