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It is an era of turmoil; beneath the surface of a peaceful life, turbulent currents stir, and restless hearts fill the air with an ambiguous atmosphere. But ambiguity isn’t something everyone can handle; it’s a trap, and women who think they’re clever might end up being misled by men. Ambiguity can be either benign or malignant. Positive ambiguity points toward love; as for whether it can develop into a relationship, that depends on various favorable conditions. There is another kind of malicious ambiguity, and that is ambiguity for its own sake. In other words, it’s about finding someone to spend time with, like at a banquet – you go there happily, see a table full of delicious foods, and just as you’re about to dive in and eat, you’re told that you can only look and smell them, but not eat them. That feeling is so annoying; if I told you in advance, would you still go? The scary thing is that no one will ever tell you in advance. That person who likes to play games of flirtation–they start by pretending to be interested in you, throwing at you compliments like autumn leaves, and saying things with double meanings. “Out of carelessness, either their shoulder or finger touches you, leaving you anxious and wondering every day whether they really are in love with me \"Have I fallen in love with him?\" …Such a fool; I can’t keep running, nor can I stop suddenly. Or, everything continues as before; you keep playing around in the same place, not knowing whether to stop or move forward. Bad luck for you – you’ve run into this guy not out of love, but just to find someone for a casual relationship. I know a man who, whenever he goes to a new place, spreads romantic entanglements everywhere. His life motto is: “Maintain a romantic relationship with every woman I meet.” ” Malicious ambiguity is the enemy of love; you think it is love, but it isn’t, and it never will be. Many people mistakenly think that love is just like that – they indulge in it despite knowing there’s no hope, thus wasting precious time needlessly. The secrets of men who engage in flirtation: Men do this for their own purposes. Women shouldn’t naively think that they are the only ones involved in such flirtation, forgetting that there’s always someone else waiting in the shadows. The man who flirts is that someone else – he hides behind the scenes, waiting for an opportunity to take what he wants from you; everything else is irrelevant. Here are secrets that every woman should know. 1. 99% of men who engage in flirtation won’t limit themselves to just one person. Since they’re willing to play this game, they’ll go all the way. Rather than having just one partner, men prefer to be around several women, enjoying the pleasure of being surrounded by many beauties. The remaining 1% are outliers among men who engage in casual relationships; the chance of encountering them is so low that it can basically be ignored. 2. When men engage in flirtation, it’s about having fun, not really being in a flirtatious relationship. Fun is enjoyable, while flirtation is a hell. That’s right; in their eyes, this kind of ambiguity is nothing more than a game. Since it’s just a game, it’s impossible to take it seriously, and it’s impossible to make promises or show sincerity. If you choose to take it seriously, then it will be obvious who wins and who loses in the end. Women who seek true love end up getting hurt 99% of the time once they are with them. 3. Men who engage in casual relationships are always full of arrogance. Men who think they can handle casual relationships tend to be a bit arrogant, a bit narcissistic, and a bit delusional; they believe that all the women around them will be attracted to them, allowing them to have those women at their disposal whenever they want. For such narcissistic men, the most effective way to make them realize their mistakes is through a woman’s firm refusal. Some say that ambiguity is a little more than friendship and a little less than love. Psychologists’ explanation of ambiguity: “It is a murky and unclear situation, an intermediate state in which people find themselves amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life; it represents a distance between emotions that is difficult to determine.” In many cases, it is an unclear attitude, difficult to express, and unspeakable. It’s not that the parties intended it to be that way; it’s simply vague and unclear. ” Ambiguity is a **distraction in the ordinary life; by being part of it and knowing how to handle it, one can find great joy in it. But seasonings can never replace food; just like tobacco and alcohol, a small amount can enhance enjoyment, but too much can harm one’s health. Women in a ambiguous relationship should be especially wary of men’s malicious ambiguity.