The stronger your resistance to pressure, the longer your path will be

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Compared to my best friend Ying, I’m really more like a “useless trifle”. She worked at a television station, and when I was at a magazine company, our office buildings were next to each other; we would arrange to meet up for meals and chat whenever we had time. But it’s not particularly easy to see her; many times when I call her, she’s either working overtime, has some last-minute matter to attend to, or says, “Ah, I’m somewhere else right now.” At one point, I really disliked her for being so busy that she was hardly ever around, but then I came to admire her greatly – despite being swamped with work and under great pressure, she always maintained a positive attitude; at most she would complain that she was too busy lately, and that’s it. As peers and both women, I truly think to myself, \"She’s extremely resilient.\" She is proactive in her actions, unafraid of challenges, able to take the lead in difficult situations as well as withstand pressure – something that not everyone is capable of doing. Moreover, television stations have always been regarded as places where \"men are used as beasts of burden and women are used as men.\" It seems that the ability to handle stress well, especially the capacity to turn pressure into motivation or even to deal with it calmly, is also a form of \"soft power\" for a person. Not to become completely overwhelmed by a little pressure, nor to have emotions spiral out of control at the slightest provocation – this is certainly an ability that everyone aspires to, but not everyone possesses. ......Those successful people, whether it’s Li Ka-shing or Buffett, aside from being intelligent, capable, and decisive, which one of them does not possess an exceptional ability to handle stress? The business world is full of changes, and even the most talented people can face crises and difficulties. Only those who are truly strong are able to withstand them and not be easily overwhelmed or defeated. Everyone aspires to that confident ease of achieving success with just a few words, but not everything goes as smoothly as one might imagine. More often, we need to be prepared for the possibility of having to go all out, even at the risk of total defeat. It is only those who can remain calm and watch events unfold without panic that are true heroes. ●Two years ago, the boy Luo had a \"spiritual cleansing\" experience. At that time, he faced enormous difficulties at work. After taking on a very important project for the company, he realized that his knowledge, resources, and network of contacts were not sufficient. With managers pressing for progress and the team complaining, at first he pushed forward with determination and grit, but halfway through he ran out of strength, became disheartened, and was almost overwhelmed. During that period, his sleep quality was extremely poor; it was common for him to toss and turn all night without being able to fall asleep ； Next came hair loss; the once thick black hair thinned out dramatically, and white hair began to appear as well ； Moreover, their emotions are extremely unstable; they get angry easily... When things go well, they think they can do anything, but when problems arise they realize that they are still too young and inexperienced, and they can’t handle even a little pressure—that’s how Xiao Luo summarized himself from two years ago. Once, he didn’t respect many of his seniors and supervisors, thinking that they weren’t much better than him ； But after going through this experience, he realized the huge gap, as they carried far more tasks, had to handle much greater workloads, and faced far more pressure than he did. There must be such classmates around you: those who usually perform very well in their studies, but become panicked when faced with major exams, and as a result, their exam scores end up being worse than usual. Is it because they don’t study hard enough? No, it’s the inability to handle pressure that eventually turns into a burden. You might also know such people who seem strong and composed in everyday life, but become utterly panicked when faced with unexpected situations, ending up only screaming and crying. How can this be considered strength? It’s nothing but the deepest form of cowardice. ●One must learn to live with stress, because life is never smooth; we will always face pressure. Sometimes it’s not visible just because it is lurking somewhere. Find a suitable way for yourself to reduce stress, improve your abilities, and strengthen your mindset. Only when you gradually gain confidence and enough resilience to handle pressure can you manage things properly and live life as you desire. This is true for both life and work. Focusing solely on striving and working hard, without paying attention to adjusting one’s mindset when faced with setbacks and difficulties, will cause great disruption at the slightest obstacle, making it difficult to cope. One must learn to charge forward into battle, as well as understand how to bear the weight of pressure. I find Ke Jie’s story quite interesting. He started learning chess when he was young, but once he entered the professional circuit, he was constantly defeated miserably; as a result, he referred to himself as a \"terrible player\" for quite some time. Yet despite this, he did not give up; instead, he kept learning, kept improving, and kept striving to surpass others, until eventually he became \"the human closest to AlphaGo.\" The ancients said: Do not become arrogant in victory, and do not become disheartened in defeat. The concept of not giving up in the face of failure involves having the ability to withstand pressure and setbacks, to overcome feelings of discouragement and frustration, and to start over from scratch. There are many smart people, but not many who can truly succeed and live their lives the way they want to. Because being smart alone is not enough. Learn to persevere, know how to hold on; don’t give up easily or change your original intentions just because of a little pressure or the opinions of others. Life is long; what is this little pressure in front of us compared to that?