The top ten troubles of single elites born in the 1980s

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1. Spending all day online, not knowing what to do. The phrase most often used by people born in the 1980s is “bored,” even though they spend a lot of time chatting online. 　　Suggestion: As a basic form of communication, the purpose of chatting is to gain recognition. It’s difficult to achieve such agreement in online chats, which is why they become more and more boring the longer you chat. Young people’s energy should be spent on studying instead. 　　2. Impatient, prone to jumping to conclusions about the unknown. When it comes to movies and TV shows I’ve watched, I can’t help but reveal the next plot point or ending to others. Regarding things one does not understand, one forms lengthy opinions based on a mere hint of information, and these are often critical in nature. An unfounded impatience toward authority, but without any willingness to challenge it openly; instead, there is a focus on influencing just a few people around, along with a strong desire for recognition. Once their wishes are not fulfilled, they stop speaking; some people become furious, which confuses those around them. 　　Suggestion: Travel more, read more, participate in group activities more, and engage more with society. The vast majority of the truths in the world are beyond our sight; impatience is a sign of shallow character development. As members of society as well as parts of nature, we need to acquire as much knowledge about the world as possible in order to reach a higher level of awareness, which will help us appear less impatient. 　　3. Thin and not fond of exercise. Mocking those who are strong, fearing muscles and strength. Aesthetically influenced by Japanese manga, it advocates for neutral beauty and pathological beauty. Related to the first point, in terms of physical endurance, resilience, and explosive power, there is a greater preference for the latter. But after being stimulated, it exhibits pathological stubbornness. This results in two extremes: on one hand, extreme weakness, and on the other hand, occasional remarkable feats. 　　Advice: Work out and engage in more outdoor activities. The body is the part of a person that is closest to nature; a healthy and strong body that is not easily overwhelmed can bring benefits throughout one’s life. 　　4. Weak-willed, and tends to find excuses for their lack of determination. They do not like to reach agreement with others through communication; instead, they compromise on the surface while feeling strong resentment inwardly, which manifests as what is commonly referred to as rebellion. A weak personality is manifested in interactions with the opposite sex by an inclination to become infatuated easily, and by having unrealistic fantasies about normal expressions of care from the opposite sex. After figuring out what’s going on, even if one really likes the other person, they dare not pursue them boldly and instead find an excuse to back down. The usual reason is that one says they don’t understand love, nor do they want to. 　　Advice: Cultivate a masculine and upright spirit, show the courage typical of a man, be willing to take on responsibilities without avoiding or shirking them. If you like her, express it so that she knows. Of course, I don’t advocate early romance, nor do I approve of sexual activity before marriage – it’s an irresponsible behavior on a man’s part. When in love, it's also important to know the limits. 　　5. Negative, resistant to growing up. I don’t like it when people call me mature, and I can’t tolerate being called an old man. I’m impatient to discuss practical issues with older people; I dislike politics and hate attending social gatherings in their presence. Things that require responsibility make them feel anxious and helpless. 　　Suggestion: Try to understand the difficulties your parents face. The dialectical relationship between taking and giving can also be understood from a philosophical perspective, just like the relationship between rights and obligations as described in textbooks. 　　6. Selective autism: talks non-stop to acquaintances but remains silent around strangers. There is a preference for using dialects or internet slang and other non-mainstream languages. Smokes, but doesn’t respect cigarettes. Drink alcohol, but don’t raise a toast. It’s not a topic they’re interested in, so it’s basically difficult to continue the conversation. When multiple people are involved in a discussion, if no one invites them to speak, they will choose to remain silent even if they have prepared what they want to say. 　　Suggestion: These are actually all difficulties encountered in communication. It is recommended to broaden one’s knowledge, expand social circles, change the way one communicates with others, express one’s opinions bravely, and strive to convey one’s views and influence others. Once recognition is obtained, motivation arises; repeating this process several times can help one overcome autism. 　　7. *Has a habit of staying up late; spent many all-nighters before the age of 25. Sometimes, in order to \"manage time reasonably,\" people simply stay up all night to reduce the number of times they stay up late. In fact, I was dozing off throughout the second half of the night. 　　Suggestion: As with point 5, staying up late is actually caused by insomnia. Those who are used to staying up late find reasons to go to bed during the day, thus avoiding external distractions. Or, even though one is not sleeping at home during the day, a sense of mental lethargy can create the illusion that \"the outside world has nothing to do with me,\" thereby serving to ward off external distractions. It is recommended to change your routine immediately and open up. 　　8. Unjustified arrogance. Believing that others cannot understand oneself, and using this as a reason to look down on them. Unwilling to listen to others’ advice and unable to take it in. They themselves don’t even know why they are so arrogant. 　　Suggestion: Due to the circumstances of the times, people born in the 1980s have more fragile self-esteem, and they are psychologically more inclined to protect themselves, which manifests as a lack of trust toward the outside world. It is recommended to learn more about social rules; no matter what the situation, as long as you abide by these rules, you will be safe and able to express your own value freely. 　　9. Doesn’t follow plans when doing things, hates following a set routine, and never knows where the money goes. I take pride in reading multiple novels and following multiple manga series at the same time. They like to tackle several tasks at once; being overwhelmed with work is the state they prefer, even though these tasks can be completed smoothly and in an orderly manner if planned properly. 　　Advice: The saying \"haste makes waste\" goes without saying, right? Learning to make plans can help avoid the risk of complete collapse in emergency situations. 　　10. Without asking questions, people trust the authority of Baidu and Google; most prefer to use search engines to think and regard them as their own advisors. 　　Suggestion: The Internet indeed brings us a lot of convenience, but much of the information available on it has not been verified and cannot stand up to scrutiny. Therefore, to avoid making mistakes, it is precisely here that those born in the 1980s need to bring a spirit of skepticism; they must not rely on the Internet and allow their own learning abilities to decline.