A girl from the workplace walks in—how to build good relationships?

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In Xiao Yue’s dormitory. She has no friends. The reason people don’t like her is that when she returns to the dormitory after work in the middle of the night, she makes the door door slam loudly, which seriously disturbs others’ rest ； She likes to mess with other people’s things and to peek at their letters ； She can’t control her tongue and often spreads rumors in front of others ； In the middle of the night, she had long conversations with her boyfriend in the dormitory, which made it very difficult for her roommates to go to sleep ； As for the leftover food waste, she throws the most of it, but she’s always willing to clean it up. 　　 　　In real life, there are many people like Xiao Yue – those who aren’t malicious but have poor interpersonal skills. 　　 　　Society is a large group, and within this group, individuals do not exist in isolation; rather, they interact with others through certain means. The most fundamental function of interpersonal communication is to convey information, exchange emotions, and gradually establish more harmonious social relationships. For individuals, interpersonal interaction and communication are important ways and means for the mature development of personality. Mature personality development means that an individual develops a personality suited to a particular social and cultural environment, acquiring the behavior patterns recognized by that society. 　　 　　Factors that affect interpersonal communication and relationships Generally speaking, the factors that influence interpersonal communication and relationships include the following: (1) Cultural background. These mainly include differences in the language used in communication, semantic differences, differences in attitudes toward communication, as well as differences in educational attainment, cultural competence, and level of civilization. All of these factors can cause communication barriers. Foreign immigrants who do not speak the local language are unable to make many friends in their new environment right away, which is a clear example of this. 　　 　　(2) Social background. It mainly includes social status, social roles, personal identity, as well as factors such as age and gender. Back then, Mr. Lu Xun pointed out that America’s oil tycoons could never understand the hardships of those old women in China who collected coal slag, and Jia Da from the Jia family would never fall in love with Sister Lin. It is evident that significant social disparities inevitably affect interpersonal interactions. 　　 　　(3) Ideological concepts. It mainly includes aspects such as cognition, emotions, behavior patterns, and personality traits on both sides. Specifically, the mental sets, views and opinions, emotional states, temperament, personality, interests, values, behavior, abilities, as well as the ways in which each party views issues, can all influence the depth and level of their interaction. Research on interpersonal attraction shows that factors such as spatial proximity between the individuals involved, similarities in personality traits and attitudes, complementarity in needs and expectations, as well as outstanding abilities and appearance, can all enhance mutual attraction. 　　 　　People with popular personality traits – those whom others enjoy being around and interacting with – are referred to in psychology as having good social skills. According to foreign research, popular people generally possess the following traits: they prioritize listening over speaking, respect others’ privacy, are not overly modest, dare to admit their mistakes and apologize sincerely, do not make excuses for their wrong actions, do not try to please others excessively, and value their own time as well as that of others.