First day at work

Thread Content

1. Think before you speak, and be cautious with what you say; talking too much is pointless. The mouth is merely a speaker, so one must always pay attention to monitoring and controlling the volume knob and sound control switch, otherwise it will cause many problems. When speaking, don’t just act on impulse and talk carelessly, thinking that just because someone smiles at you it means they appreciate you; don’t keep revealing all your deepest thoughts, as this will end up allowing others to fully understand your situation. I was also sneaking a smile at you. 　　2. Don’t rush to draw conclusions when faced with a problem; even if you have an answer, wait a while, as there might be better solutions. Different perspectives lead to different answers, so learn to think from others’ points of view. Especially when in trouble, always remember to wait and rely on others – often not only will the problem be resolved, but good luck might also come your way. 　　3. One must be tolerant of those who are petty; taking a step back can open up vast possibilities. If that doesn’t work, give them one’s own space as well, so they can enjoy themselves like birds singing and swallows dancing in joy. As the saying goes, those with a great heart don’t take trivial matters to heart; petty people, on the other hand, have narrow minds. Troubling such people is like inviting trouble, and there’s nothing worse in the world than dealing with petty people. Up to now I haven’t come up with a better way to deal with those villains; I’m not sure whether staying away from them is a viable option. 　　4. In this world, there is no love without a reason, nor hatred without a reason. Do not engage in commenting on anyone; it’s sufficient to have clarity in your own mind. The principle behind making final judgments is quite simple: it comes from acting too hastily. No one has a theoretical basis for determining who is good and who is bad; it’s actually a matter of interests. 　　5. Only the money that has been spent truly belongs to you. Even if you are extremely wealthy, if you refrain from spending on food and clothing during your lifetime, once you die, it’s hard to know who will spend the remaining money – isn’t that unfair? Then there are those corrupt officials who live frugally; they fail to do what is right, and as a result of their greed they end up back in poverty. They don’t spend a single penny, yet all their personal assets are confiscated – isn’t that tragic? 　　6. When doing things, one must establish moral boundaries in advance; even thieves know there are certain things that must never be stolen. Therefore, one must never go to extremes; one should absolutely avoid doing things that are cruel or harmful to others. By giving others a way out, one is actually moving forward oneself. 　　7. As for those who constantly cause you trouble or even bully you, try to tolerate them if possible; there’s no need to constantly get into fights with such brutes. But be sure to keep holding grudges against them. As old grievances and new ones accumulate, justice and truth will be on your side. Then, seize the opportunity to give them a thorough lesson, using all the rights granted by the law to beat them badly, so that they’ll remember forever: aside from your father, no one will tolerate your bad habits. 　　8. It’s easy to avoid overt attacks, but hard to defend against hidden ones. Those who scheme against you from behind will never disappear; this is a characteristic of Chinese culture. One should not offend such people, nor should they be forgiven – this is an eternal truth. After all, even such people have their weak sides. When dealing with them, one must be decisive and firm. You can pretend that nothing has happened, that everything is peaceful and fine, and then use clever tactics to counter them, showing them that not everyone can be a villain. It takes skill to be a good person, just as it does to be a villain. 　　9. You must respect those who love you; there is a reason why they love you. Don’t ask why – accept their love and repay it with double the care. But never deceive their feelings. Love is the most precious treasure, one that cannot be bought with money. Don’t let setbacks in your career affect your family, and certainly don’t let family disputes impact your career. It’s not worth it; both family and career are affected, and there can even be losses. A man should be good at bearing difficulties and holding back his tears. Remember: Dismissing the emotions that others invest equals despising oneself. Indulging in distractions leads to a loss of ambition, while exploiting others destroys one’s morality. Loving others is a virtue. 　　10. Those who praise you behind your back should be cherished in your heart; there’s very little insincerity in such praise. Complimenting you in front of others is considered flattery; in more harsh terms, it’s fawning. You can just laugh it off and act as if nothing happened. Perhaps they will soon need your help. As for those who compliment you in public, you can’t afford to ignore them. Maybe they’ll turn around and poke you with their fingers. Keep this principle in mind: criticize yourself more when there are many people around, and praise others less, unless it’s time to recognize someone’s merits. 　　11. Some people are used to taking advantage of you; they have narrow minds, but you should be generous. If you get the chance, take a big revenge on them and make them suffer greatly, so that they’ll remember that there’s no such thing as a free lunch in this world – no easy gains for you to reap. Many small favors, when accumulated, can lead to a big debt; once you accept them, you must find an opportunity to repay them. It’s like expecting rain in the summer after showing kindness in the spring – giving is done with the aim of receiving something in return; it’s essentially a simple relationship between seed and fruit. Never let naivety get you hurt; remember: life is like a game, and everyone is seeking a balance of interests – only a balanced game can continue to be played. 　　12. People with mental illnesses are not held legally accountable; they may bite you without any reason. Therefore, one should stay away from such people, avoid any interaction with them, and keep a distance. By doing so, one can enjoy peace and freedom. It’s important to understand that madness is also a form of personality – though it deserves no respect, it still has its reasons for existing; it’s an essential part of the ecosystem. 　　13. Be a tourist in life; after all, as long as you treat others kindly, win them over with virtue, stay away from disputes, and get closer to your family, you will find peace of mind and contentment. An optimistic attitude comes from tolerance, generosity, empathy, and a non-confrontational approach to the world. Bad moods arise from insomnia; in reality, things aren’t as bad as you think. Life has its ups and downs – there is no such thing as a smooth journey through life. **So what? After all those ups and downs, it’s still he who decides everything in the end.** 　　14. What is called fate essentially comes in two forms: good and evil. Value what is good, but do not completely reject what is evil. Believe that even encounters that seem casual are part of fate. With nearly 6 billion people in the world, it’s not easy to meet anyone; therefore, when faced with negative fates, try to be tolerant and give the other person a chance—do not reject them outright from the start. 　　15. When interacting with others, one must know one’s place; one shouldn’t always consider oneself an important figure, a leader, a rich person, or a romantic hero, nor should one be overly self-assured. Even if one has achieved some success or remarkable results, one should remain cautious, humble, and act as if one is not that smart. In the end, everyone ends up the same way; it’s just that we overcomplicate things for ourselves. To put it plainly: never take yourself too seriously