Remembering the “ten don’ts” after starting work can save you 30 years of struggle!

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Remembering the “ten don’ts” after starting work can save you 30 years of struggle! First: Do not think that staying within the comfort zone of your mind is forgivable. Everyone has a comfort zone, within which they are very self-centered; they don’t want to be disturbed, pushed around, or talk to strangers, nor do they want to be criticized or forced to complete tasks within set deadlines. They’re also unwilling to show concern for others or to consider what those others might have missed. This is easy to understand during one’s student days; sometimes such students are even associated with words like \"cold\" or \"distinctive personality,\" which are considered positive traits. On the contrary, after work, you must make every effort to change this situation. Otherwise, you will soon become the only person at the cocktail party who is ignored, or you will quickly develop endocrine disorders due to stress. However, if you can quickly break out of the comfort zone of your previous student days and handle matters related to work, interpersonal relationships, and public opinion faster than others, you will be able to stand out quickly. In meetings, a person who stays in their comfort zone listens passively to what the leader says, waits passively, and carries out the tasks assigned by their superiors in a mechanical manner; they never show any interest in anything beyond those tasks, let alone think about going the extra mile to make it easier for others to carry out their work. Those who dare to break out of this comfort zone are willing to express their opinions and points of confusion at the appropriate time, to complete their tasks as quickly as possible after receiving approval and guidance from their superiors, and to be open to criticism and adjustments from others at any time. (Note: Never wait for someone else to express your thoughts; this is a typical example of the former behavior.) At work, when the former type encounters a new colleague, he pretends not to see them and goes on with his own work. Little did they know that the new colleague would soon become their boss. The latter, on the other hand, introduces themselves politely and generously, while trying to understand the relationship between themselves and the other person. At parties, the former always waits for others to speak and likes to comment on what others say in private ； If no one speaks at this table, then until the meal is over, no one will know you. The latter involves being brave and starting a conversation over meals, with introductions and casual talks; it may seem difficult and sometimes embarrassing, but you often find that the other person really wants to have a few words with you. These are just a few small examples, but it should be noted that as college students leave campus, they must get rid of the \"arbitrariness\" associated with campus life in their work, step out of their comfort zones as soon as possible, and begin to prepare themselves for interacting with society. Second: Don’t use “it seems like”” ； “Some people will……” ； “Probably” ； “Later” ； “Or” ； “Phrases like “who knows” are often on people’s lips. Especially when talking about work with superiors. One phrase I truly hate hearing is: “I’ll send this document to everyone later.”” ； Because this often means I have to keep reminding him not to forget. Similarly, the following phrases also come across as extremely annoying: “Someone will take care of preparing those things by then,” “It’s probably tomorrow,” “The client will come to visit tomorrow or the day after,” “I think he said…” People generally speak in this way because, first, it leaves them some room for maneuver, and second, it doesn’t put too much pressure on others, as if everything has to be resolved right away. To be honest, half of those who study hard in college are just going through the motions. A person either behaves badly in class or behaves badly after class. People who lack any trace of ambiguity are either super talented or crazy. So, just because everyone is having fun there, the campus becomes a romantic place, and it also makes people more innocent. So, the work in student clubs is often very inefficient. Looking back on the work I did at school, I thought I was putting in a lot of effort at the time, but it was only after actually starting to work that I realized what efficiency really means. Once you enter a place where time is measured in money, you should try your best to avoid this *habit formed at school. If your superior asks you when you will fulfill the promise you made to them, and you reply with something like \"tonight or tomorrow morning,\" it’s essentially the same as not answering at all, and it leaves a bad impression on them. (Of course, such answers are common in school clubs and student council activities.) There is a fable about a little mouse that had just been born; the mother mouse asked the little mouse, \"Can you see now?\" The little mouse said: Yes. The mouse mother said, “Then can you see that sweet potato?” The little mouse said: Yes. The mouse mother said, “That’s a rock. This shows that not only can you not see, but you don’t even have a sense of smell.” Plausible-sounding responses often end up revealing even more of your weaknesses. It could be one or more of the following: 1. You hadn’t thought about this job before, or you have been putting it off. 2. You lack a sense of responsibility and think these things aren’t important. 3. You need to deal with your superiors. 4. You don’t dare to tell the truth. 5. You like to show off by promising things you can’t do. 6. You can’t work independently. When your superior suspects one of the options above, subconsciously you already possess all of the aforementioned weaknesses. On the contrary, such answers always annoy the boss. First, his question wasn’t answered; it merely served to remind you. Second, he still needs to remind you, because he doesn’t know whether you have actually carried out the work. Third, he doesn’t know how many of the things you have already done remain unimplemented in this way. (This is extremely fatal.) Fourth, often because a satisfactory answer is not obtained, the supervisor’s own plans have to be delayed or postponed, or no clear deadline can be set. So--------- A asked: When can you fix this vulnerability? B said, \"I’ve already informed them; they should come to fix it tomorrow.\" One day later, A asked: When will the repair company come back? Which repair company did you hire? B said: It seems they said they can’t arrange anyone to come; if it’s possible, they could arrive tonight or tomorrow afternoon. A day later, A asked: Why hasn’t the vulnerability been fixed yet? B said, I’ll ask them later. A said, \"If it’s not resolved by this afternoon, you don’t need to come to work tomorrow.\" Third: don’t delay your work. Many people prefer to choose leisure over studying, and then try to rush through everything that needs to be done for exams at the last minute. But please do not develop such a habit at work, because there is never an end to work, and there’s no room for last-minute rushes. Or, while you were hesitating and unsure about how to proceed, your leader could no longer wait and took action on their own. ----This is a dangerous sign. Often, we always try to plan everything from start to finish before taking the first step – and then we stumble. For example: When I first called a girl I liked in elementary school, I imagined various scenarios——1, she would be doing her homework when she answered the phone. 2. She was doing her homework when her mother answered the phone. 3. She is also very bored and wants to talk to someone. 4. She is being scolded by her parents. 5. She is thinking about another boy. 6. Her father answered the phone. 7. Some relatives happened to be at her home, and one of them answered the phone. 8. She answered the phone, but her parents were right around, so it was inconvenient to talk. . . . . Wait, wait, wait. I spent an entire afternoon thinking about it, preparing mentally for various situations and coming up with strategies to deal with them. Then, bravely picking up the phone, he pressed those buttons. Result-------She isn’t at home. So, when you hesitate and don’t know what to do, you need to realize that you are delaying your work. Hesitation stems from the fear of having to bear or deal with the consequences that might arise from this situation. When working, one needs a minimum level of confidence – believing that one has the ability to steer things in the direction needed, no matter what happens next. Also, tell yourself not to spend too much time thinking about it; if you’re unsure, seek help right away or find a solution. Worry and anxiety will only add more pressure and consume the remaining time. Also, a warning: never think, \"I get it; I’ll put aside the tasks assigned by my superiors and wait until I finish watching this episode of ‘Prison Break’ first.\" ----In 90% of cases, you will forget or run out of time, because this task takes more time than you initially thought. Doing what one says is always a great habit. Fourth: Don’t think that just because it’s theoretically feasible, the task is complete! This is extremely important; often it is only when those who are actually supposed to carry out the plan start doing so that they realize it’s completely worthless. If one does not put things into practice, those who make plans will eventually be looked down upon by those who carry them out. One must always improve their ability to take action, rather than just talking. First of all, if you do office work, or are involved in planning and scheduling. Please never ask others to try things that you yourself consider unlikely or difficult to accomplish. For example, spend an afternoon holding an outdoor singing concert in a place with little foot traffic. This will make the person carrying out it feel like you’re playing with them, using them as a subject for experiments. That’s right; in theory, singing events can be held anywhere, but in different places, the attitudes of those who organize them vary. Secondly, discuss your arrangements with the person who will carry them out. For example, for a new subordinate of yours, you can arrange for her to sit anywhere, but if it’s a corner where it’s difficult to interact with others, that might be worse than doing nothing at all. Indeed, in theory, for a person to sit down, all they need is space. But in fact, it’s far more than that. Once again, don’t expect everything to go according to your plan. Theoretically, this meeting is supposed to last two hours, but that is on the assumption that \"no one spends 30 minutes at the start adjusting their microphones,\" or that \"no such sharp questions are raised by the attendees.\" University students have become accustomed to doing things to the extent where they \"seem perfect in theory\". Papers, PowerPoint presentations, exams, debates… These various academic competitions are all designed to teach us how to excel at theoretical knowledge. You must believe that your ability to “get things done” is weaker than you think. If you are a student at school, test yourself to see if you can handle the following situations: 1. The school needs to have a set of uniforms made, and it’s your task to find suppliers and negotiate prices; you need at least three companies’ quotes. 2. What should the school security do when they catch a student stealing? 3. The street light on a very important road in the school is broken; can you make it stay lit for three days? 4. The cafeteria needs to hire a chef specialized in preparing halal food, who should start working within a week. When you start to think about questions like these, you will find that his approach is very different from the one of \"looking at the company’s performance trends over the past two years in order to develop a marketing plan for the next quarter.\" You’ll find that with the latter, as long as you make it \"seem perfect,\" no one knows what the outcome will be if you follow that approach. And if you think about the work mentioned above, you will realize there is quite a bit of pressure involved. Because if you don’t handle it properly, the result will be an obvious failure, and bigger problems will follow one after another. By the way, this is exactly the feeling that “work” gives you! This is the difference between “working” and “theoretical talk”! Fifth: Don’t make others wait for you. Under no circumstances should you make others stop what they’re doing to wait for you. What in college might be just a few half-joking complaints from roommates can, at work, lead to losing potential business partners. While working on a task, you need to be aware of others’ progress and never fall behind. It’s not like it’s an exam; you work slower than others, who can submit their papers first. If you don’t finish by the deadline, you have to accept the penalty for it. Here’s how it works at work: it’s an exam that no one can complete on their own; everyone is assigned different parts of the test paper. Some are given reading comprehension tasks, some have to work on fill-in-the-blank exercises, and others deal with grammar problems... Once everyone has finished their part, they exchange their answers, and in this way, everyone ends up completing the exam. If everyone has finished their own parts while you still haven’t, then those who finished faster will start working on your part as well, and they will copy from each other. Gradually, people will realize that your workload can be handled by someone else, and the entire team may no longer need you. At that point, no one will ask you for answers to the tests, nor will anyone give you their own answers – unfortunately, you are no longer useful. Please be sure to remember this example. Sixth: Don’t think that details aren’t important. In college, people tend to be careless in their work, thinking it’s fine as long as it more or less works. On the contrary, the essence of management in a company lies in doing simple things to perfection. A hasty attempt to find the safe key could very well cost you your chance of being promoted to financial manager. In fact, what is needed in company management is not to achieve 90% perfection in difficult tasks – such as optimizing the core work processes of the management team, changing the company’s image among local stakeholders, improving product quality, or enhancing the working environment... What management should do instead is to ensure 100% perfection in simple tasks – such as organizing each employee’s files in an orderly manner according to certain rules, setting up a sign-in desk for visitors at the entrance, removing extra chairs from the meeting rooms, arranging for a television station to come to the company for an interview next Wednesday, delivering sample products to customers, making a cut in the coffee produced, taking photos of the cover subject for the next issue... and so on. Only if you can address all the detailed issues properly will you have the basis to ask for a promotion. Many people don’t know what they want to do in the future when they graduate, so they tell themselves, \"I’ll work in management someday!\" Manage? Ask yourself: if the company’s assets are stolen, all employees’ morale is low, the office is in disarray, the company’s elevators are broken, the printers run out of ink, procurement costs exceed budget, products fail to sell, and customers are late… would you be willing to address such problems, starting with small things? Consider all this before deciding whether management is too abstract. Seventh: Don’t be negative just because what you’re doing isn’t your interest. It’s obvious that during our student days, when we’re doing something we enjoy, we put in 200% effort to create something great, but when it comes to tedious tasks, we tend to ignore them and try to find ways to get by. But in work, 80% of what you do is tedious and seemingly mechanical; if you become gloomy just because of that, you will remain depressed for even longer. You should know that your boss is already worried enough about this project; do you really want him to see your expression as well? Learn to enjoy your work and focus on what you can learn from your daily tasks. If you spend time complaining about your job now, then next you’ll spend time looking for a new job. Try to use words like \"fulfilling,\" \"sense of achievement,\" and \"enthusiastic\" rather than terms such as \"interesting\" or \"curious\" to describe the type of work you want. Think about the following jobs, and you’ll realize that many tasks in life aren’t things that are fun to do when you’re in top form: 1. Highway toll collector: Spending the whole day at a small window, handing out cards, over and over again for years on end. 2. School cafeteria chefs: Always cooking ribs and chicken legs. Burn for a year. 3. Writer: The deadline is approaching, and I’m still trying to find inspiration; I haven’t had breakfast in two weeks. 4. Surgeon: Just fell asleep, and they’re asking me to perform a 3-hour surgery right away. At least once a week like this. 5. Retail sales: The products are not selling well; I start work at 8 o’clock and sit by the store entrance alone until 6 p.m. No one came today, just like yesterday. 6. Bus driver: I don’t need you to give orders when I’m driving. I have been driving this route for three years. 7. Pet store employee: Business is poor, and I still have to come here early in the morning to listen to the barking of 20 dogs all day long, for a whole year. 8. Company employees: finish work at 2 p.m. and have to start working again at 8 a.m. the next day. The key is that it will take another hour to get there. It has been a month like this. Think again about whether you have only been working in this job for a month or have encountered only a few difficulties – it is at such times that complaints are heaviest. Never think about choosing an interesting career, because no such job exists. No industry is pleasant; if there were one, everyone would go into it. Try asking yourself about your own interests at most. Self exploration. Eighth: Never rely solely on company training to improve work capabilities. It is absolutely impossible for someone to undergo a single training session and completely transform themselves. On the contrary, what is learned in group training is often the least useful information. Just like when a cafeteria prepares meals in large batches, there’s never the dish you really want to eat, because it’s easier to do that way and it avoids offending anyone. Many students place great importance on whether the company they choose offers training, which shows that not only do you not know what the company does, but you also don’t even know how to learn those skills. My realization is that if you don’t know how to learn the knowledge you want, nor do you know what that knowledge is, you will only engage in two types of behavior: 1. Wait for others to teach you, and wait for them to discover what you don’t know. 2. Look for ready-made answers and copy them. Those who are looking forward to company training are very likely to belong to the first category (although there are very few truly excellent company training programs). Many people have this kind of mindset: since the company’s training program can help them reach a certain level, and that level happens to be what they want to achieve, they strive to get hired by that company. By joining that company, they assume it will naturally enable them to reach that desired level. We equate participating in training with achieving results in a very naive way. In fact, the information obtained from group training is often the least useful for practical application. Never expect to get more than others just by attending classes and relying on the teacher to deliver the same content to everyone. Focus more on observing and reflecting on your own needs; identifying the problems and then finding answers through observation and practice is what constitutes true knowledge. So, at the beginning of working, you don’t know anything; don’t think that’s normal, because the company hasn’t provided any training yet! Once I complete the training, I’ll know how to do everything. If you know nothing and wait for others to pity your ignorance and bestow knowledge upon you, you will pay a higher price for your ignorance in terms of intelligence. Ninth: Do not shirk responsibility. Shirking responsibility is a conditioned reflex of fear. Don’t think that others can’t see this. I remember something from my elementary school days. I didn’t bring one of my assignments, and the teacher scolded me, saying, \"Why do you always forget to bring your assignments?\" I said at the time: No. . . . Just as I was about to stammer, the teacher said, \"What’s not?\" Did you bring it? I said: No. The teacher said: Then it means you didn’t bring it! What isn’t! That’s it! After that, I realized that I was simply afraid of taking responsibility, and so I instinctively said \"No.\" If you look around carefully, you’ll find that countless people around us use \"No\" as their first reaction when questioned. In fact, many people behave in this way at work these days: when questioned by their superiors, they instinctively try to shirk responsibility, and such actions usually lead to weak excuses and rather crude justifications. This will make your boss think that you are difficult to communicate with and not genuine. In another case, no matter what happens, when I accuse someone, he always emphasizes objectivity. In fact, this is the most typical characteristic of students. This shows that he is too easily influenced by other things and determined by them. If you have conversations with your boss of this type, consider whether you need to change the way you handle things. A: Why haven’t you shown your report to the vice president yet! B: C was printing just now; I was waiting for him to finish. He should be done now; I’ll go check. B: There are still a few things that need to be revised. B: B also needs to give the documents to the vice president; I’m waiting for him. B: A said that my report doesn’t need to be shown to the vice president (A is B’s peer). B: I don’t know if the vice president is in; his door is closed. B: He asked me to help him print documents! Blame him! (d is B’s peer colleague) B: I suddenly can’t find my cup; I’m looking for it. The disadvantage of those who are unwilling to take responsibility is that they make their supervisors doubt their loyalty, as the orders given to them are often put on hold or carried out only partially due to minor issues, and then altered by the opinions of others. Tenth: Don’t say to yourself “I’m a college student.” This phrase carries a lot of meaning. 1. Don’t think you’re that superior. 2. Don’t still hold yourself to student standards. 3. Don’t feel inferior. 4. Don’t wait for others to show care for you. 5. Don’t use this as an excuse to comfort yourself after making mistakes. 6. Don’t forget to find out exactly what the company is offering you in terms of compensation; be more mature—this isn’t volunteering. Another quality I’d like to share with you is that it forms the basis for handling interpersonal relationships well, and it is also key to ensuring the quality of those relationships. In addition, skills in interpersonal communication are also particularly important. Some people’s acts of kindness earn them gratitude for a lifetime, while others may go to the trouble of helping others only to receive no appreciation or reward, and even to incur envy. When selling the same product at the same price to the same customer, some salespeople may be rudely turned away, while others might secure large orders and even be treated as honored guests by the customer. The skills of interpersonal communication are a highly complex topic; due to space constraints, I can only provide some brief examples based on my own experience here, and it is inevitable that many things will be omitted. 1. Give others more encouragement and praise; try to avoid criticism, blame, and complaints, and don’t force them to admit mistakes. 2. Learn to listen. Don’t talk too much; find ways to get others to speak more. 3. If you want to join someone else’s conversation, first figure out what they are talking about. 4. Try to remain neutral and objective before having a conversation. Before expressing one’s own preferences, it is necessary to first understand the true preferences of the other party. 5. Pay attention to the other person’s social* habits and imitate them appropriately. 6. Do not interrupt, correct, or add to others’ conversations lightly. 7. When others are in trouble, offer help proactively and give them plenty of encouragement. 8. Don’t neglect proper etiquette just because the other person is a friend or family member. 9. Talk as much as possible about what others want, and teach them how to get what they desire. 10. Always treat others with a smile. 11. Be a person with a sense of humor. But when telling jokes, never focus only on laughing yourself. 12. Be someone who avoids trivial interests. 13. When talking to others, try to make eye contact, whether you are speaking or listening. 14. Try to shift the topic as subtly as possible. 15. Learn to listen to the unspoken messages of the other person. One should also learn to express one’s thoughts subtly through implied meanings. 16. You must give notice in advance when visiting someone. 17. Do not call others when they might be busy working or resting. Unless it’s a very urgent matter. 18. When calling someone, first ask if it’s convenient for them to talk. 19. Once something is known to two people, it is no longer a secret. 20. If you speak ill of anyone behind their back, it will eventually reach that person’s ears. 21. Do not speak harshly or cruelly. 22. Remember other people’s names. Develop the habit of occasionally checking your business card book or phone book. 23. Try to interact with people you dislike. 24. It is essential to respect the other person’s privacy, whether they are friends or spouses. 25. When many people are together, when you are talking to one of them, do not ignore the presence of the others. 26. Be brave enough to admit your mistakes. 27. Approach everyone around you with humility. 28. Show compassion and understanding toward others. 29. Use “suggest” instead of “order” whenever possible. 30. Don’t make promises lightly. What is promised must be done as much as possible. Last edited in this post by longdehao001 on 2009-4-16 15:29.]