A few words that will last a lifetime for everyone!

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One should think before speaking. Be cautious with what you say; talking too much is of no use. The mouth is merely a speaker, and one must always pay attention to regulating it, controlling the volume knob and sound control switch, otherwise it will cause many problems for oneself. When speaking, don’t just act on impulse and talk carelessly, thinking that just because someone smiles at you it means they appreciate you; don’t keep revealing all your deepest secrets, as this will end up allowing others to fully understand your situation. I was also sneaking a smile at you. 　　Don’t rush to draw conclusions when faced with a problem. Even if you have an answer, wait a while – there might be a better solution. Different perspectives lead to different answers, so learn to think from others’ points of view. Especially when in trouble, always remember to wait and be patient; often not only will the problem be resolved, but good luck might also come your way. 　　One must learn to downplay major issues and let minor ones go, to handle complex matters as simply as possible, and under no circumstances complicate simple things. Mastering efficiency in handling tasks is an art; it’s necessary to keep a good pace. 　　One must be tolerant of those who are inferior. Taking a step back opens up vast possibilities; if that doesn’t work, give them one’s own space as well, so they can enjoy themselves like birds singing and swallows dancing in delight. As the saying goes, those with a great heart don’t take trivial matters to heart; petty people, on the other hand, have narrow minds. Troubling such people is like inviting trouble, and there’s nothing worse in the world than dealing with petty people. To this day, I haven’t come up with a better way to deal with those villains; I’m not sure whether staying away from them is a viable option. 　　In this world, there is no love without a reason, nor any hatred without a cause. Don’t engage in commenting on anyone; it’s sufficient to have your own understanding. The principle behind making final judgments is quite simple: some people are too hasty. No one has a theoretical basis for determining who is good and who is bad; it’s actually a matter of interests. Xiaoping’s 37% success rate shows that even great people are not necessarily perfect. 　　Only the money that has been spent truly belongs to you. Even if you are extremely wealthy, if you refrain from spending on food and clothing during your lifetime, once you die, it’s hard to know who will spend the remaining money – isn’t that unfair? Then there are those corrupt officials who live frugally; instead of holding high positions, they end up returning to poverty due to their greed – they don’t spend a single penny, yet all their personal assets are seized. Isn’t that tragic? 　　When doing things, one must establish moral boundaries in advance; even thieves know there are certain things that must never be stolen. Therefore, one must never go to extremes; one should absolutely avoid doing things that are cruel or harmful to others. By giving others a way out, one is actually moving forward oneself. 　　As for those who constantly cause you trouble or even bully you, try to endure it if possible; there’s no need to constantly get into fights with such people. But be sure to keep holding grudges against them. As old and new grievances accumulate, justice and truth will be on your side. Then, seize the opportunity to give them a thorough lesson, using all the rights granted by the law to beat them badly, so that they’ll remember forever that no one except your father will tolerate their bad behavior. Some people are used to taking advantage of you; they have narrow minds but big pretenses. If you get the chance to deal a heavy blow to them, making them suffer greatly, that will also remind them that there’s no such thing as a free lunch in this world – no easy gains for anyone. 　　It’s easy to avoid direct attacks, but hard to defend against hidden threats. Those who scheme against you from behind will never disappear; this is a characteristic of Chinese culture. One should never offend such people, nor should they be forgiven – this is an eternal truth. After all, even such people have their weaknesses. When dealing with them, one must be decisive and firm. You can pretend that nothing has happened, that everything is peaceful and fine, and then use clever tactics to counter them, showing them that not everyone can be a villain. It takes integrity to be a good person, just as it takes skill to be a villain.

One must respect those who love you; there’s a reason why they love you. Don’t ask why – accept their love and return it with double the care. But never deceive their feelings, no matter if you’re not interested in them or if they don’t look attractive. This is a kind of wealth that cannot be bought with money. Remember: Dismissing the emotions that others invest equals disrespecting oneself. Indulging in trivial things leads to a loss of ambition, while exploiting others corrupts one’s character. Loving others is a virtue. Those who praise you behind your back should be cherished in your heart, as such praise is usually sincere. Praise given in front of you is flattery; in more offensive terms, it’s fawning. You can simply ignore it as if nothing happened, as they might soon ask for your help. As for those who praise you in public, you cannot afford to neglect them – they might point at you the moment you turn away. Follow this principle: criticize yourself more in front of others, and praise them less, unless it’s time to recognize their merits. Small favors, when accumulated, can lead to big problems; once you accept something, you must find an opportunity to return the favor. It’s like sowing seeds in hope of reaping rewards – it’s simply a matter of cause and effect. Never let naivety get you hurt; remember: life is like a game, and everyone is seeking a balance of interests – only a balanced game can continue to be played. 　　People with mental illnesses are not held legally accountable; they may bite you without any reason. Therefore, one should stay away from such people, avoid any interaction with them, and keep a distance. By doing so, one can avoid problems. It’s important to recognize that madness is also a form of personality – though it deserves no respect, it still has its place in the ecosystem of human behavior. 　　Be a tourist in life; after all, as long as one treats others kindly, wins them over with virtue, stays away from disputes, and stays close to family, one will find peace of mind and contentment. 　　An optimistic attitude stems from tolerance, generosity, empathy, and a non-confrontational approach toward the world. A bad mood arises from insomnia; in reality, things aren’t as bad as one thinks. Life has its highs and lows, and there is no such thing as a smooth journey throughout life. After all, no matter what happens, it’s still he who decides everything in the end. What is known as fate essentially comes down to two categories: good and evil. We should cherish the good, but we shouldn’t completely reject the evil either. Believe that even encounters that seem accidental are part of fate. With nearly 6 billion people in the world, it’s not easy to meet anyone; therefore, when faced with negative relationships, we should try to be tolerant and give the other person a chance, rather than rejecting them outright. Don’t let setbacks at work affect your family, nor let family disputes impact your career. It’s not worth it to do that; it affects both family and career, and can even lead to losses. Men should be good at bearing difficulties and holding back their tears. When interacting with others, one must know one’s place – one shouldn’t always consider oneself important, act as a leader, think of oneself as rich, or believe that one is a romantic hero; one should not be overly self-assured. Even if one has achieved something or done well, one still needs to be cautious, humble, and act as if one is less intelligent than one really is. In the end, everyone ends up the same way; it’s just that people overcomplicate things for themselves. As the saying goes: never take yourself too seriously. Those who deceive you once will definitely not miss another chance to do so; don’t have any illusions about deceivers. Trying to elevate one’s status by belittling others only reveals one’s own ignorance and lack of substance.