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Human connections help create wealth and turn people into millionaires. Often, people complain that they want to start their own business, but lack a clear direction for doing so, the necessary financial resources, and hope for the support of influential people. In fact, vast resources are often right around us, and that is the countless people. As long as you know how to make use of, manage, and develop your network of contacts, you can gather support and build prestige. With such backing, funds, technology, and channels will be easily accessible – so why worry about failing to achieve your goals? In this world, what is love? Everyone has emotions and desires. Beyond love and family ties, each of us has to deal with countless social relationships in the world. Those with a closer relationship are called friends, with whom one can share both joys and sorrows ； At a more distant level, there is also a general sense that one has to spend money on weddings, funerals, and other such occasions as part of social convention” ； In relationships that are strained and hostile, resentment is inevitable; it harms harmony and damages one’s health. When looking at those who have achieved success in their careers, some are indeed gifted individuals who become arrogant because of their talents, but more often than not, they are people with many friends around the world who can provide them with support. As the old saying goes, people have IQ, EQ, and financial intelligence; when one’s emotional intelligence is high enough, it becomes possible to tap into networking potential, gather widespread support, and achieve great prestige, thereby writing a successful career story. The story we are telling today is about three people who were extremely good at managing interpersonal relationships, managed to turn these skills into a business, and handled it in a scientific manner, thereby allowing their personal wealth to grow at an extraordinary rate. By examining their stories of building wealth, this magazine has identified 7 key \"Networking Wealth Guides\" for readers to refer to. Wu Tinghua: Thousands of friends help create millionaires. Zhu Yanyan: By managing relationships with care, goodwill turns into wealth. Xu Fei: With the help of kind people, one’s life can take off. Be generous and open-hearted to make friends. The American tycoon Rockefeller once said in his prime, “If the ability to get along with others could be bought, just like sugar and coffee, I would pay more for such an ability.” ” And there is a well-known saying among Americans: at twenty, one earns money through physical labor; at thirty, through intellectual work; and after forty, through relationships. Both mean the same thing: the more friends you have, the more opportunities you have to make money. And how can friendship be cultivated? Hei Youlong, head of Carnegie Training in Greater China, believes that: “A complete interpersonal relationship consists of three stages: building networks, nurturing relationships, and encountering helpful people.” ” In modern society, building relationships is by no means as crude and simple as the so-called \"networking\" of the past; it involves many deeper aspects that require careful cultivation. In the subsequent stories, the extent of the connections that those three protagonists had is truly astonishing: when one of them fell ill and was hospitalized, over 200 people came to visit him within just half a day ； Some had the senior executives of top international investment banks help them raise startup funds ； Some also ask clients to introduce new clients for them on their own. What they have in common is that they take the initiative to build connections; they try every means to get to know those they want to meet, and once they do, they treat them as good friends and be generous toward them. Some might say: those who often eat and drink together are merely friends for pleasure, not necessarily true friends. But the starting point for building relationships is to first establish a wide network, and then identify those individuals who merit further focus in terms of development; to take the first step successfully, it is essential to be generous toward others and let them sense your generosity. Lower your stance to gain popularity. \"If others have intentions, I will try to figure them out.\" ”This is a famous quote from Mencius’ \"The Affairs of Duke Huan of Qi and Duke Wen of Jin.\" It actually reveals the best way to make friends appreciate you. John Dewey, a professor of interpersonal relations at Harvard University in the United States, once said: “The most profound need in human nature is the desire to be affirmed.” ” This statement is indeed true. Even if you are a very generous person who invites your friends out for meals and parties every day, but always maintain an arrogant attitude and argue at the slightest criticism from others, you probably won’t have many friends. Of course, we’re not advocating for people to give perfunctory answers to their friends out of insincerity; rather, we should learn to be humble and accommodating, to listen carefully to what others say, and to try to understand their thoughts and motives. By doing so, we can learn from their strengths while also making our friends feel respected and understood. In short, to expand one’s network, it requires not only physical effort but also an emphasis on giving and receiving with sincerity. Do not look down on those of lower status. Perhaps you don’t have a wealthy father or a life partner who can ease your efforts over twenty years, but by understanding the art of human relations, you can still gain the support of valuable people and receive assistance from many sources. But never build your network with an overly opportunistic and short-sighted attitude; if someone is wealthy now and has plenty of money, you treat them with fawning servility, while if they are a poor and insignificant person, you ignore them, look down on them, and despise them. In the historical novel written by Gao Yang, the character Hu Xueyan, a merchant with a red hat, boasts remarkable social skills that always impress readers greatly. Scholar Zeng Shiqiang, who has conducted in-depth studies on Hu Xueyan, argues that his strength lies in his ability to see things clearly and have a long-term perspective, as well as his refusal to underestimate ordinary people. Those who have read the book \"Red-Capped Merchants\" know that Wang Youling, the governor of Zhejiang, had a profound influence on Hu Xueyan’s rise to success. Initially, Wang Youling was just a poor scholar, but Hu Xueyan offered him full support, essentially investing in their relationship as part of a business partnership. Lai Shu-hui, the founder of the \"Mind-Body-Spirit Growth Association\" in Chinese Taipei, has a classic example of \"making friends with ordinary people\" from her time running a real estate agency. At that time, Lai Shuhui lived in a building and also worked as a real estate agent for that building. Through her careful observation, she noticed that whenever there were buyers interested in the building, their first question was always directed to the building manager: \"Has any resident recently wanted to sell their house?\" How much is it? ” Interestingly, the administrator’s reply is almost always: “Go ask Miss Lai who lives on the eighth floor; she is very interested in buying and selling houses, so there’s no need to look for other agents.” ”Furthermore, she is always the first to hear news that someone in that building needs money urgently and wants to sell their house. As a result, Lai Shuhui made a profit of over 10 million yuan from one property in the Capital Building. Why are the administrators willing to help Lai Shuhui? To put it simply, it is she who cares for everyone as if they were family members. Every day as she enters and leaves the building, Lai Shuhui always greets the administrator on duty that day, and when she returns from a business trip, she brings some local specialties as a token of her goodwill. Hard times reveal true friendship. In this story, the protagonist’s legendary experience is that when he was hospitalized, over 200 friends came to visit him in just half a day. He told our reporter that his severe illness at the time caused his breathing to stop for several minutes, putting his life in danger; when he woke up and saw many of his friends with tears in their eyes, he realized that since his friends cared so much about him, his life had meaning. According to theories put forward by Western behavioral experts, a person can have interactions with around 200 friends in their lifetime, of whom about 50 can be considered the most important. Most people seem to have many friends, but those with truly close relationships are few ； Those who are active in social gatherings seem to have a wide network of contacts, but in the end, it’s not these seemingly friendly acquaintances who will stand by your side and help you out in difficult times; rather, it’s the friends who you might overlook but who truly value your friendship. So how can you make your friends cry when you’re sick? The simplest way is to be friendly with them when they are healthy and safe, and to help them more wholeheartedly when they are in trouble. The connections made during times of crisis are not only useful but also help to build a good reputation, which can be useful when making other friends in the future. Adhering to principles earns trust. Focusing on building relationships does not mean engaging in the kind of superficial friendships that arise from just meeting people; rather, it means choosing principled friendships based on integrity. It is important to mention the female protagonist in the story, Zhu Yanyan. She always regards her clients as the core of her network, but she does not change her principles because of that. A former customer wanted to donate a batch of products to people with vision impairments as a charitable act. However, when the event was halfway through, she discovered that the products to be donated were actually close to their expiration date. She requested that they be replaced with newly produced items, but after repeated attempts to get her request met were unsuccessful, she decided to terminate the event unilaterally. As a result, not only did she lose this customer, but she also lost the money she had already invested. But the result of doing this is that when other customers and friends find out about it, they realize it’s reassuring to have a friend like her who has principles, as she is not the kind of person who would sacrifice those principles for personal gain and harm others. As a result, although she lost one friend, she gained greater popularity and respect. Appearing online to attract attention: The advancement of technology has made interactions within social networks more diverse and complex. Some people have hundreds of friends on MSN, and those who are even more successful run online shops with hundreds or even thousands of loyal customers. To some extent, the currently extremely popular \"Super Girls\" also have tens of thousands of connections, with over ten million text messages sent just to them. And in just one day on the internet, one can meet more friends than in an entire year in real life used to. Online dating has become fashionable and popular, and it is also a good way to turn virtual friends into real ones. The reporter knows a boss who runs a shop that specializes in modifying the appearance of vehicles and decorating cars. When the company first opened, business was slow. Following some advice, he began to participate in the BBS forums of various car enthusiast clubs on the Internet. Now, more than a year later, he is a well-known figure in many of these BBS forums; people often ask him for advice on car-related matters and discuss trends in car modifications. Of course, many of them end up bringing their cars to his shop to put those ideas into practice. So in this era, if one still clings to old ideas and disdains online connections, it’s truly outdated. Keep business cards fresh at all times. If what was mentioned above belongs to the conceptual aspects of the \"Guide to Human Relations,\" then this final trick is the technical aspect of it. In Taiwan, China, there is a famous \"business card management expert\" named Yang Shunren. He claims to have over 16,000 business cards belonging to different people, and thanks to the business card management system he developed, he can find the information on any person he is looking for in just a few seconds. What prompted him to develop this system was his resignation from his previous company in 2001; at that time he sent out over 3,000 emails to inform friends and family of the reason for his resignation and to thank them for their support over the years. To his surprise, he received more than 300 replies, including 16 job offers, both full-time and part-time. “It was a turning point in my life. ”Yang Shunren said, “If I had to make calls one by one, I probably wouldn’t have been able to make even ten calls before giving up.” ”So he began researching business card management, systematically entering business cards into a computer, and from the sixteen job opportunities recommended, chose a part-time job to give lectures on Internet applications at small and medium-sized enterprises. He attaches great importance to keeping his network fresh, often writing a message that reads, “Hi! I’m Shunren. Long time no see! How have you been lately? ”Messages like that, sent to hundreds of friends.