Common characteristics of losers

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The Internet provides a great window through which we can observe all kinds of people, and those we see the most are probably losers. This also aligns with the distribution of the composition of society: those who are frustrated are usually the majority, while those who are successful are only a tiny minority. To overcome disappointment and achieve success, one might as well first look at the common traits of losers, and then see how many of those traits apply to oneself. One of the common traits of losers is blaming others and complaining; while others have good bosses, ours is really stingy ； Others have connections; we are ordinary people with no special backing ； Wait, using the \"objective circumstances\" as an excuse for one’s own incompetence might sound reasonable at first glance, but in reality, others’ success is just luck, while one’s own failures are due to bad fortune. It’s unfair for such people to be able to succeed. Today, whether in online communities or casual conversations on the streets, this is the most common topic of discussion: “Our boss isn’t fair at all; they’re too unfair. Look at those people in other companies.” In every industry, there are only a few top-tier talents, while mediocre people are always in excess. Once you cross that threshold, you’ll realize that your boss is actually very generous and not unfair at all. The problem is that you’re outside that threshold, looking at those inside it, and thinking that they seem to be the favorites of fate. Yet they never take this threshold into account. That’s why some people say that core engineers at certain online gaming companies earn monthly salaries of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan, and that those companies offer such good benefits, while they themselves only earn 2,000 or 3,000 yuan – yet they refuse to face the fact of how much lower their own skills are compared to those of others. The second common trait of losers is their refusal to face reality. In every IT community, whether it’s Donews or TechWeb, we can find many such people who simply refuse to admit that there are those around them who have achieved great things. They refuse to acknowledge that those who seem younger and less experienced than them can still succeed. So they cover their eyes and ears, refusing to accept the truth. For example, if someone posts that a recent graduate from Baidu earns an annual salary of 200,000 yuan (which is actually not much at Baidu), some people will immediately claim that it’s fake, that it’s impossible, or that Baidu will soon collapse. In short, it’s all illusions. After working in the internet industry for so many years, they’re still struggling with annual salaries in the five-figure range; how can they tolerate others overtaking them and leaving them far behind? Those who used to just shout things like “Baidu is going to collapse, Tencent is going to collapse, Jack Ma is going to collapse,” etc., are all part of this group. They refuse to face reality, refuse to acknowledge others’ achievements, and use an Ah Q mentality to deceive themselves, in order to maintain their pathetic sense of pride and confidence. That’s how it is. Of course, there is another type here: those who, after a certain magical ideal is shattered, refuse to face reality and come up with various fancy excuses to deceive themselves. For example, a well-known IT commentator and avid supporter of Google, after witnessing Google’s series of mistakes and the collapse of its myths once it entered China, came up with the claim that “Google is no longer Google.” In Caoz’s eyes, such people are nothing but famous losers. Have you heard the saying that “Chery BMW is not a BMW, and Beijing Mercedes is not a Mercedes”? The third common trait of losers is retreating in the face of difficulties and avoiding challenges. Losers refuse to admit that they back down from challenges; they have plenty of excuses, such as \"I only get this much money – why should I do this task?\", or \"So-and-so earns more – why shouldn’t he do it?\", or \"This isn’t my responsibility.\" In short, on one hand, they think they are just as capable as those other people, while on the other hand, they believe that difficult tasks are meant for those other people. They never consider that if they were the boss, it would be up to them to pay salaries based on actual performance It’s still just an excuse; anyway, he thinks his salary and rank are too low, so he uses that as an excuse to avoid taking on difficult tasks, waiting every day for his boss to raise his salary and promote him. Back down in the face of difficulties, and there will never be a chance. The fourth common trait of losers is the lack of goals. Strictly speaking, losers don’t really have no goals at all; they do have aspirations such as \"winning 5 million in the lottery,\" \"having my salary increased by my company,\" \"getting a better boss,\" \"I can’t continue working at this company; I heard that another company is good, let’s see if I can use connections to get there,\" and even more ambitious goals like \"learning interview skills to get into a good company.\" But if you look closely at their goals, you’ll find that they often rely on meeting some fortunate person in order to achieve them – not everyone can be like Xu Zhu. As a result, they often complain that there are no people who can recognize their talents, and so they are forced to settle for an ordinary life. At his previous company, when Caoz would give training to new employees, and his supervisor was also present, Caoz would ask the new employees, \"For whom are you working?\" This is the most important thing, and the only correct answer is for oneself. You don’t work for your boss, nor for the company, nor for your supervisor – you work for yourself. Well, there’s a very good example of this: Yu Jun, the former vice president at Baidu. Did Yu Jun work for Li Yanhong? In fact, that’s not the case at all. Robin Li provided a great working platform, while Yu Jun works to realize his own ideals and fulfill his ambitions; such an attitude and approach to work enable him to achieve real success. Not everyone understands this principle, which is why few people can become like Yu Jun. Caoz often says that one should approach work with an entrepreneurial mindset. Why does he say that? Does it mean that everyone who works eventually has to start their own business? No, but what you need to think about is that a company provides an environment in which you can realize your ambitions. Some people say that if your current company doesn’t offer such an environment, then find one that does! Some people say that such companies cannot be found, but in fact they do exist; it’s just that you overlook them. When looking for a job, you prioritize factors such as salary, benefits, rank, location, and the company’s reputation, without considering what you truly desire. Take a look at Yu Jun’s resume from back then to see how a successful person approaches job hunting. Caoz has a former colleague who is actually very diligent in her work and has achieved a lot; she has earned several million through her job. However, she has never found joy in her work, and after taking a break she always has to look for another job. She wants to work as a junior director at an overseas-listed internet company, and she asked Caoz for advice. Caoz then asked her, Do you still need money? What is your goal in seeking this job? Treatment? Level? You should first figure out exactly what you want to do and what your interests are. Even people with millions in wealth sometimes struggle to break free from such ways of thinking, let alone those who are struggling at the lower levels. Today, Caoz leads a very small team, and he still instills in every new member the idea that they need to think carefully about their future and work with goals in mind. The fifth common trait of losers is being overly cautious. Caoz once said that pessimistic people never get any opportunities; the same is true for those who are full of concerns. What if they lose their high salaries? What if policies change? What if talented employees leave? It’s certainly good to plan carefully, but if one hesitates too much, they will keep missing out on opportunities. Over the years, caoz has noticed something interesting: the more talented graduates from prestigious universities are, the less willing they are to challenge themselves. They have too many options, too many opportunities – numerous large companies offer them jobs, and there are plenty of good prospects available to them. As a result, amidst all these choices, they lose track of their goals and direction, and end up settling for a job that seems okay, that’s all. Fortunately, if no major financial crisis occurs, they might still be able to receive a decent pension. Among Caoz’s classmates, the one who is now considered to have done the best in terms of success is actually the one who had the worst grades back then, ended up with the worst job after graduation and the lowest salary. Yet he kept changing roles, continuously improving himself by acquiring new skills, and eventually became a co-founder and technical shareholder of a fairly large company. Everything he has achieved today is the reward for his hard work; it has nothing to do with his university grades – it is in the school of life that he has earned high scores. Caoz will always remember what a fairly successful boss said to him ten years ago; he said that if he had had his own tiny apartment in Beijing back then, he wouldn’t have achieved anything. Ironically, his second business venture was a complete failure, even though by that time he already owned luxury homes and cars. Often, having no choice can actually strengthen a person’s resolve. But if you have many choices, will you still hold firm to your beliefs? The sixth common trait of losers is that there’s always someone who is worse than me. It’s like when a child comes in second to last in school; upon returning home, his parents scold him, but he still retorts by saying that there are people who are even worse than him. Thus, they can find confidence in those who are even more miserable than themselves, using that as a way to deceive themselves. There are those who irritate others, but none who make others laugh. This is my second recommendation for the comedy works of the late master Hou Yaowen; \"Looking at the World through a Small Lens\" – meant for such losers. Those who don’t want to be losers should set a goal for themselves from now on, face challenges head-on, confront reality, and seize opportunities decisively. View the workplace as a platform to realize your dreams. At any time, you have a chance.