Life-long principles for navigating the world

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　1. When someone pours you water, don’t just stand there; use your hand to guide it as a sign of courtesy.
2. When someone speaks to you, at least try to respond. Don’t leave them talking without a reply, or keep saying “ah ah ah” or “yes yes yes.”
3. When someone is staring at you, don’t look back directly; pretend you haven’t noticed.
4. Even the best skincare products and cosmetics can’t fix poor skin condition if you’re in a bad mood.
5. Lack of sleep makes people speak incoherently, react slowly, and develop dark circles under their eyes.
6. When someone emits “toxic vibes,” don’t avoid them in disgust or wave your hand to push those vibes away; act as if nothing is wrong.
7. When reprimanded by a boss, don’t lower your head; look them straight in the eye with a smile to show that you accept the criticism. This will help calm the boss down; otherwise, it will only make them angrier.
8. A woman should never ask a man for money with her palms facing up throughout her life.
9. After finishing a meal, say, “I’m done eating; you guys go ahead and eat slowly.” ” 　　10. When offering water or food to someone, one must use both hands. 　　　 　　11. Do not lean back in your chair.　　　　　12. Hold the bowl when eating; do not pick food around in the plate.　　　　　13. Remember to close the door behind you if you are the last one to enter.　　　　　14. Say “Take care” when seeing someone off. ” 　　15. After washing your hands, don’t wave them around casually; splashing water on others is impolite.
16. When handing a knife to someone, remember to give it by the handle.
17. Don’t point out others’ shortcomings.
18. When listening to someone, avoid looking away. It seems very impolite. 　　19. After pouring tea or water for someone else, do not point the spout at them. 20. There is a proper way to stand and a proper way to sit. 　　21. When encountering a door that can be opened both inward and outward, pull it rather than push it. 22. If you say something, you must do it. Don’t make promises if you can’t keep them. 　　23. Don’t be greedy for small gains or wealth; no matter how much money you have, it will eventually run out.
24. When there are people in the room, close the door quietly when leaving.
25. This world doesn’t believe in tears...
26. Instead of trying hard to keep a man, it’s better to make him try hard to keep you.
27. Poverty doesn’t diminish one’s spirit.
28. When serving food or tea to someone else, if there is someone in between, don’t pass it in front of that person; instead, go around them to hand it over.
29. True ability lies in having one’s own skills.
30. Learn to be gentle and learn to listen.
31. When visiting someone’s home, don’t sit on their bed.
32. When clinking glasses with others at a dinner party, your glass should always be lower than theirs, especially if they are elders or supervisors.
33. Carry an umbrella in sunny weather and carry food in case of rain—it’s always good to plan ahead. 　　34. If you ask someone a question and they don’t answer, don’t keep asking stubbornly. 　　35. Try not to make any noise while eating. 36. When picking up things or putting on shoes, kneel down instead of bending over with your buttocks sticking out. 37. When someone criticizes you, even if they are wrong, don’t argue right away; wait until everyone calms down before explaining. 38. Know when to stop doing something, whether it’s eating too much of your favorite food or getting angry. 39. After dining at a friend’s house, offer to help wash the dishes and clean the table—the host has already worked hard to prepare the meal, so don’t let them do the cleaning afterward. 40. In life, you’ll meet all kinds of people, and it’s impossible to get along with everyone. But one thing remains true everywhere: the way you treat others is how they will treat you in return. 41. Be generous when hosting guests, but be frugal when managing your household. 42. Retract your fist so that you can strike more powerfully. 43. To live in this world, one must first learn the virtue of patience. 44. Never easily reveal your secrets to anyone, at any time. 45. Money isn’t earned by saving it; it’s made by spending it. 46. Learning is endless—not only in terms of academic knowledge, but also in learning how to interact with others. Society is far more complex than you might think. 47. Don’t discuss your boss or other colleagues’ shortcomings with your coworkers; your casual remarks could easily be used as evidence against you. 48. If you do something well, that’s your duty; if you don’t do it well, it’s a sign of negligence on your part. 49. There’s no such thing as buying something wrongly, only selling it wrongly. Don’t just focus on saving a little money. 　　50. It’s normal to feel lonely sometimes; don’t be afraid, learn to cope on your own. 51. There are true friends out there, but I wonder if you’re lucky enough to meet them. Whether you have encountered it or not, do not deny it. Don’t scheme against others, especially not those you like. Do not use any tricks to get what you like. 52. The bravest thing is to continue to love life even after recognizing its truths. Don’t be afraid of deception, but be aware that it exists in the world. 53. When borrowing money, be prepared for the fact that you might not get it back. Therefore, the money lent out should always be within the range of losses one can afford. As long as it’s within an acceptable range, even if I can’t return, I’m mentally prepared for that. Do not borrow if you cannot afford to incur losses. 54. Between best friends, it is better to avoid any financial transactions, unless he is so poor that he can’t even afford food. Many precious friendships are ruined by money. 　　55. A gentleman can find meaning in things, but should not be preoccupied by them. 56. When outside, endure if possible; taking a step back opens up broader horizons. 57. When wiping a table, wipe in the direction of yourself. 58. The first words when answering a phone call must be, \"Hello.\" ； Wait for the other person to hang up first when ending a call. 59. One act of infidelity is unacceptable, no matter how many times it happens. 60. Do not spit or throw things around; if there’s no trash can, take them home and dispose of them in the trash bin. 61. Reading more books is beneficial for the mind – it helps you see a broader world. 62. It’s you who must adapt to society, not society that must adapt to you. 63. Don’t let others know your true thoughts; smile in front of people, but cry alone. 64. Don’t keep your hands in your pockets while walking. 65. Make simple tasks complicated, and complicated tasks simple. 66. Opportunities are only given to those who are prepared; there are no free lunches. 67. Brush your teeth carefully under any circumstances, especially at night. 68. Be sure to have breakfast in the morning; if you can’t have breakfast, at least drink some water. 69. Talk less about others’ faults and control yourself. 70. You are priceless. 71. Girls should pay for their own expenses when going out with boys. 72. Take responsibility for your own actions; don’t blame others. Think before acting, and learn to solve problems on your own if something goes wrong. 73. If you want to appear noble in front of others, you must first endure hardships behind the scenes