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The first one doesn’t matter. I remember an ancient poem that wrote； Leaning against the building, listening to the wind and rain, I can see Jianghu Road. We often encounter setbacks and failures in our lives. Husband and wife are at odds, work is squeezed out, business is not going well, etc. These things will make us depressed, have low self-esteem, and even become decadent. But we have decades to go in life. If we lose confidence today because of yesterday's failure, then when we get old, we will regret it. Why didn't we get out of the shadow of low self-esteem and create our own career. So when we face things that are irreversible and things that have passed, we should not care anymore. Deep in our hearts we should always say to ourselves ； It doesn't matter, I will do my best in everything. But I won’t be sad if it doesn’t work out. Because the past does not equal the future. If we can't get out of the ivory tower in our hearts. Then we cannot be successful and happy. The second thing is that suffering is a blessing. We will always have to suffer losses continuously in our lives. Suffering makes us angry and sad. But we should look at losses correctly. Because although there are many disadvantages in our life. But every loss is an opportunity for us to improve. Confucius said ； Choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones. ” We continue to discover the advantages of others and learn from them when we are suffering. * , discover your own shortcomings and address them. Then you will continue to mature and succeed. Remember that loss and failure are the mother of success. Only review, reflection and learning after failure * , is what makes us progress. The third sentence, "Riding on things to wander the mind" is a sentence from Zhuangzi's human world. My understanding is ； Everything in the world is a vessel for us to ride on, and what we have to do is to let our hearts truly enjoy a free ride. People will have this idea ； study * It is painful, but what you learn is joyful. The work is painful, but the results are joyful. So if this is really the case, is it true that if love is painful, marriage will be happy? It's impossible, so we should experience every minute and every second of happiness around us. study * Learned * It's good because it keeps you enriched. Work is good because it keeps you growing. So if you can't experience the joy of every moment and every second, you can't have a happy life. Fourth, have a childlike innocence in our lives, especially on the road to success. It definitely won't be that smooth. So these things make us anxious, make us very frustrated and depressed. This is not only bad for the mind, but also very harmful to the body. We can look at children, or think about ourselves when we were little. If we can have the carefreeness of those times, then you can take the hardships in life into perspective. Childlike innocence does not mean being heartless or out of tune, but it allows you not to worry and allows your heart to be truly happy. Fifth, the heart is full of hope. People will encounter many setbacks, ups and downs and adversities on the road to success. We may become depressed and have low self-esteem because of these things. If there is hope in our hearts at this time, then we can get out of the shadow of inferiority. People who have ideals, ambitions, and hopes will pay attention to their goals and ideals. Then you can look down on the difficulties in front of you. Because we still have to keep moving towards our goals. So they don't have time to feel inferior and depressed. Yan Hui's heart is full of happiness and hope, so although his living conditions are not good, he is still very happy. But for those of us who have no worries about food and clothing, if it is decadent, then we are shameless. In the Analects of Confucius, Zigong asks about politics. Confucius said: “Enough food. Foot soldiers. The people trust it. ”Zigong said: “He must go as a last resort, so who among the three should come first? ”say: “Go to the army. ”Zigong said: “He must go as a last resort, which one comes first? ”say: “Go eat. Death has existed since ancient times, and people cannot stand without faith. ” Confucius also advocated: We must have faith in our hearts, then no matter how big things happen or how big setbacks we encounter, we can get out of the trough and overcome all difficulties. The Sixth Indifferent Mood: The previous article was about people having hope, but this article is about making people feel indifferent. Are the two contradictory? In fact, there is no contradiction at all. We must be full of hope, but we must also be in a state of looking down upon success or failure. Because you are unlikely to succeed if you are eager for quick success. Only if you can stay rational can you make a difference. The way to keep us sane at all times is to have an indifferent state of mind. When you fail me, an indifferent attitude will make you forget the failure. Start all over again. After we succeed, a light state of mind can always remind us not to be carried away by victory. This is weak power. Seventh, don’t expect others to be grateful to you. The weakness of human nature has destined people to be ungrateful animals. Moreover, in today's society, only children are the only ones, so the doting on them by their parents at home makes us think that others should treat them well. You don’t need to pay anything, so if you want to succeed, you must have a good state of mind. The last thing is not to have a state of mind that allows others to repay you, and don’t expect others to be grateful to you. Eighth Haoran is an upright person with a clear conscience. He is always respected by good people and feared by villains. Mencius said: I am good at cultivating my righteousness, so if a person can have a clear conscience, then he will have no fear. And it can make you more confident. A person who is upright will have a good attitude and mental health for himself. As for your interpersonal circle, you can make the people around you rely on you, respect you, and think of you if anything good happens. Therefore, being upright is also very important for dealing with others. Ninth: Don’t take yourself too seriously. Many of us are arrogant and rebellious. Because we take ourselves too seriously. We regard ourselves too much as great people, so we are abandoned by society in our pride and arrogance. So don't think too highly of yourself more often than not. Taking yourself too seriously. In this way we can learn well * Only through the advantages of others can you continuously improve yourself. Tenth: Don’t be suspicious of others. Many times in our lives, there are people who are suspicious of them. * used. This is a very bad behavior. Suspicion will not only make others hate you, but also make you abandoned by society. And suspicion also makes you less confident. You can't insist on doing one thing. How can people succeed without persistence, so we should eliminate suspicion from our minds. After you do something, you should stick to it. If you think it is right, then you should stick to it.