love tetralogy

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This post was last written by zjy_007 Edited at 2009-12-16 10:50 People always choose people who can bring them more benefits and happiness as partners. ； And all the factors that lead to love can be attributed to interests and values. Both interests and values ​​include material and economic factors, as well as social and psychological factors. The following four stages occur in sequence and will not skip the previous program and directly enter the subsequent program, otherwise the failure rate will be extremely high. first stage: Sampling and Evaluation When men and women choose someone they are willing to associate with in a certain group, the main factors considered are the benefits and costs of association and the surplus after offsetting them. If the income and surplus exceed one's own expectations, the other party is called the goal pursued by oneself. second stage: Reciprocity In this stage, both parties exchange benefits as much as possible, both providing benefits to the other party and benefiting from the other party, while striving to reduce costs. Such as chatting together, giving each other gifts, discussing topics of interest, etc., but avoid entering each other's private areas. In the exchange, both parties benefit from each other, and the intimacy between the two is strengthened. The third stage: Both parties to the commitment believe that the benefits they get from each other are greater than those from other members of the opposite sex, so they stop interacting with other members of the opposite sex. The relationship between the two parties is relatively fixed, and they begin to interact frequently one-on-one. Stage 4: Institutionalization As the sense of intimacy continues to strengthen, both parties feel that they cannot live without each other and are worried that the other party will leave them. They hope to institutionalize the relationship through contracts, such as engagement and marriage procedures. The contract makes the relationship between the two parties exclusive and loyal to each other. With this, I believe you can better distinguish right from wrong when it comes to love. Good luck friends!