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Life is a process of seeking love. Each of us must find four people: one is ourselves, the second is the one we love, the third is the one who loves us, and the fourth is the one with whom we can spend our lives. First, we encounter the person we love the most and experience the feeling of love. Because of this feeling of being loved, we then find the person who loves us the most. It is only after experiencing both loving and being loved that we come to understand what we need most and identify the person who is right for us and deserves to be with us for life.Unfortunately, in real life, these three people often aren’t the same person. The one you love may not love you back, and the one who loves you might not be able to win your heart. The person who will stay with you for life isn’t necessarily one of those we mentioned earlier; rather, it’s the one who appears at the right time. So, what kind of person will you become to others? No one intends to change their feelings toward you. When they love you, that’s true; when they don’t, it’s also true. When they love you, they can’t pretend not to love you. Similarly, when they stop loving you, they can’t pretend to still love you. If they leave you because they no longer love you, you should ask yourself whether you still love them. If you no longer love them, don’t continue the relationship out of pride. But if you still love them, you’ll wish them to live happily with their beloved forever, rather than keeping them by your side. If you insist on keeping them around, it means you no longer love them. And if you don’t love them, you have no right to blame them for changing their mind. Love isn’t like a possession; you can’t capture the moon, but its light can still fill your room. In other words, if you love someone, you can possess them in another way, preserving your love as a beautiful, eternal memory.
If you truly love someone, you should love them as they are—accepting both their strengths and their weaknesses. You shouldn’t try to change them into the person you desire them to be. True love goes beyond logic; it means wanting to be with that person wherever and whenever, regardless of your mood. True love means staying together through difficult times, without any conditions. After all, love requires sacrifice, not just gain. Parting is an inevitable test; if your love isn’t strong enough, you must accept failure without resentment. When lovers are in a romantic relationship, they often ask each other to make promises or commitments. We do this because we don’t fully trust our partners—we don’t truly believe in love, and such promises are impractical. Promises like “Even if the sea dries up, the stones break, the earth ages, and the sky collapses, I will never change my love for you” are absurd, because we know the sea won’t dry up, stones won’t break, the earth won’t age, and the sky won’t collapse. Even if all these things happened, we wouldn’t be alive to see it. So when making promises, avoid those that can’t be kept. Remember, the unfulfilled promises are the most memorable! In love, we often act contrary to what we say—both the speaker and the listener don’t believe their own words. And you? Which of the four people we mentioned have you found? In the crowd of people, who have you met, and who has met you?
thank you,veRY MUCH
I have found two people, myself and the one I loved. There is a long road to find the other two people.
I really like it; it’s all true. “Love requires sacrifices,” and love sometimes means giving up. I found someone among thousands of people, but it was already too late. Sometimes, one must learn to appreciate things – to appreciate the fact that one has the chance to meet that person, to appreciate the chance to get to know them. And “Love is not equivalent to possession.” Let him go and be who he is meant to be.
hehe, maybe we should cherish those who love us!
I have met two people: the one who loved me and the one who is right for me!
We should cherish those who love us!
This post was last edited by sethfly on 2010-3-4 at 16:29. You wrote it? It’s a nice article. Sorry, it was a stupid mistake. Ahha, when I typed those words, I immediately realized there was something wrong with them, but I failed to correct it. Then you got it right. Thank you very much, Tomato and Egg Stir-fry.
A good article. In the ocean of crowds we should treat others with honesty.
Life is a journey of seeking love. Everyone must find four people in their life: the first is oneself, the second is the one who loves you the most, the third is the one who loves you the most in return, and the fourth is the person with whom one wants to spend a lifetime. First, one meets the person who loves you the most, and then experiences what it feels like to be loved. It is only by understanding what it means to be loved that one can discover the person who loves you the most. Only after having experienced both loving and being loved, and after learning how to love, does one know what one truly needs, and can thus find the right person to spend a lifetime with. Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one who loves you the most often doesn’t choose you, the one who loves you the most in return is often not the one who loves you the most, and the person with whom one spends the longest time together is neither the one who loves you the most nor the one who loves you the most in return – it’s just the person who appears at the right time. What will you be to someone else’s life? No one intends to become unfaithful; when they love you, they truly do love you, and when they don’t love you anymore, they truly no longer do. When they love you, they can’t pretend not to love you, and similarly, when they don’t love you, they can’t pretend to love you. When someone doesn’t love you anymore and wants to leave, you should ask yourself whether you still love them. If you no longer love them either, don’t refuse to leave just for the sake of pride. If you still love them, you should wish them happiness and hope they’re with the person who truly loves them, without trying to stop them. If you prevent them from finding true happiness, it means you no longer love them. And if you don’t love them, then what right do you have to accuse them of being unfaithful? Love isn’t about possession. You may like the moon, but you can’t take it down and put it in a basin. Yet its light can still shine into your room. In other words, when you love someone, you can still possess them in another way, by keeping them as an eternal memory in your life. If you truly love someone, you should love them as they are – their good qualities as well as their bad ones, their strengths as well as their weaknesses. You shouldn’t try to change them to fit your own desires, because if they don’t change, you’ll stop loving them. True love can’t be explained with reasons. All you know is that no matter when or where, regardless of your mood, you want that person by your side. True love means staying together through difficult times, without any expectations. After all, love requires giving, not just receiving. Separation is an inevitable test; if your relationship isn’t strong enough, you have to accept defeat. True love never turns into resentment. When lovers are in love, they like to make each other swear promises. Why do we ask them to swear? It’s because we don’t trust them; we simply don’t trust lovers at all, and those vows are unrealistic. Even if the seas dry up and the stones crumble, even if time itself ends, my love for you won’t change. We know that the seas won’t dry up, the stones won’t crumble, time won’t end, and the world won’t cease to exist. Even if it did, we wouldn’t live long enough to see it happen. Be careful when making promises – don’t make promises that can be fulfilled. It’s better to make promises that can’t be kept; it doesn’t matter if they can’t be kept. Remember, “Unrealistic promises are the most touching.” In love, people say one thing but do another. Those who speak don’t believe it, and those who listen don’t believe it either. So, what about you? Which one have you found? Among all these people, who have you met? And who has met you?