This is a gift for those born in the 1980s who are running for their third year.

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I am still imagining my 18 years old, but I am about to turn 30! Really? I don’t want to think about it, but I have to face it. 　　The youthful and frivolous days were long gone. The happy days of the past have long since passed away quietly. We who were born in the 1980s have already begun to stand on the tail of our 20s, standing in front of our 30s. How many of us can hold our heads high and swear that we are still young? Yes, youth is capital. Facing the sudden rise of the post-90s generation, are we who were born in the 80s still young? 　　Once upon a time, we were all proud and held lofty ideals, running around in unfamiliar cities just to find the truest dreams deep in our hearts. In the past, no matter how difficult life was, I would always think that as long as I worked hard, I would definitely succeed. Once upon a time, I simply thought that even a small room could be where I could have the most beautiful love. When careers are still mediocre, when love becomes illusory, will we who are born in the 1980s still say that we are not afraid of failure when we are young? 　　One day, I discovered that those of us who were born in the 1980s were already old. We are no longer frivolous, we are no longer chic, we are no longer magnanimous, we no longer smile. We are full of pressure in life, we are afraid of marriage, we are disappointed in the future, and we are afraid of difficulties. 　　facing work: We have no more * * , I just hope to have a job that is stable enough. Risky jobs have been excluded. We were once unwilling to use connections to find jobs. When faced with a mediocre career and unable to even provide enough food and clothing for ourselves, we had to choose to give in, put down our most arrogant face, and began to seek to maximize interpersonal relationships. We are not afraid of the hardships of work, but the most important thing is that we can continue this job. 　　face feelings: Marriage is no longer regarded as the sublimation of love, but as family affection. We no longer long for a romantic and exciting love, but a happy and fulfilling marriage. I used to stubbornly believe that blind date was just a marriage method of the post-70s generation, or the earlier generation. However, it is only now that I have discovered that blind date has become the mainstream method of marriage for the post-80s generation. After going on blind dates one after another, I feel desperate again and again. I have become numb and repelled by blind dates, but I still run around on the blind dates. No wonder, said a friend: “I'm either on a blind date or on the way to a blind date. ” 　　face wearing: We who used to pay too much attention to the brand feel have become unfamiliar with the brands. The expensive clothes in the cupboard make us working-class people have no courage to try them on anymore. After making money, I realized how difficult life is. We no longer pay attention to the brand, but pay more attention to the quality and purpose of the clothes. They are suitable for the occasion where they are worn. We no longer go shopping for discounted clothes because of impulse. Clothing is not about having more clothes, but about being decent. Appropriateness is what we need, and brand is just an illusion. 　　face social: When more and more friends have families, they no longer have much courage to chat with them about life, because in their mouths, they all * Those born in the 1980s who are single pay more attention to personal and emotional calligraphy. I no longer like the bars and KTVs I once loved so much. I can no longer stand the noisy and crazy environment. I prefer to sit in coffee shops or teahouses, read books, listen to music, and enjoy the bitterness of coffee or the fragrance of tea. 　　facing family: Family goes beyond love and friendship, everything comes first. I no longer have the original impulse, I understand my parents' painstaking efforts, and I know how to understand their helplessness. The relationship between the family, which was originally simple, suddenly became clear one day, and I understood the relationship between people. It turns out that it has never been so simple. The most trustworthy person is yourself, besides your parents. I hate visiting relatives and friends more and more, because there are always many people asking questions about some issue in the marriage. 　　Facing entertainment: Suddenly I found that the frequency of mobile phone use was getting less and less, and the text messages were becoming less and less. Sometimes I even didn’t want to send text messages, and would rather make a phone call and hang up in a hurry. QQ is not as busy as before, and has withdrawn from many groups. Some groups have been blocked out of face, and they only occasionally choose a few groups to chat and then become invisible. I will no longer play without sleep and food just for the sake of games. I will more often hold a book and read quietly. 　　face shopping: I always think about whether there are any gifts when I buy something, instead of buying whatever looks good. You will no longer buy something you don’t like just to get a gift like before. Shopping is no longer * It turns into a purposeful behavior. After buying what you want, you leave in a hurry. Some beautiful and exquisite knick-knacks are just put back after admiring them on the counter, never to be taken home again and stuffed into the bottom of the box. 　　In the face of everything, we have already thought deeply about it, and there are no fairy tales in our hearts. We have wasted too much of our youth, which was such a self-righteous and embarrassing period of youth. There is laughter and there are tears ； There is vigor and decadence ； There's sweetness and there's absurdity ； There is confidence, but also confusion. 　　We are sensitive, we are paranoid, we are stubborn and pretend to be strong to the end ； We hurt others easily and are hurt easily by others. 　　We chase decadent happiness and revel in the beauty of loneliness ； 　　We firmly believe that we are different and that the world will change because of us ； 　　We wake up to the fact that we are no longer young, and our future may no longer be infinite. In fact, how could it have been infinite? 　　Those of us who were born in the 1980s have begun to admit that we are old. We no longer have the youthfulness of those born in the 1990s. * * , all we have is a tired heart running around for life. Occasionally tell yourself with a smile: As a thirty-year-old man, my best years have just begun. Those of us who were born in the 1980s are still unable to play a hearty game. After not exercising for a long time, my bloated beer belly began to show. 　　I can't help but sigh: It turns out that we who were born in the 1980s have all grown old, but we have never been willing to accept old age. 　　“The reason why today is different from yesterday is precisely because yesterday’s feelings are still in my heart. ”