What’s wrong with today’s college students?

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College students have come up with another new trend: the practice of having a partner of the opposite sex to accompany them while studying is becoming popular on campus. Currently, there is a very popular term in universities: “partner”. Some students find a partner of the opposite sex to go to class and the cafeteria with, to study together. These “companions” are neither lovers nor ordinary friends. ““A companion” is actually another term for “a peer of the opposite sex who accompanies students at school”. On university campuses, some students preparing for IELTS, TOEFL, or postgraduate entrance exams post online looking for a \"partner to study with\", hoping to find someone who can motivate them; they feel that studying with a partner of the opposite sex is more motivating, and believe that in this age of romance, it’s necessary to have a youthful companion. 　　Xiaozheng, a senior male student who is sunny and handsome, is currently preparing intensively for his postgraduate exams. Looking for beautiful girls with similar experiences and goals, so that we can learn from each other, supervise one another, improve together, and go through the preparation process for the postgraduate entrance exam side by side. Those interested please contact me. QQ: 3815XX514, Mobile: 138XXXX9520, Serious inquiries only! 　　Whenever fresh graduates are about to graduate, similar notices and announcements can be seen everywhere on the campus bulletin boards. On the BBS sections of university websites, there are an endless stream of posts seeking partners of the opposite sex to accompany them in preparing for postgraduate entrance exams, IELTS, TOEFL, foreign language computer proficiency tests, and other such examinations. Young students, through this ultra-modern, simple, and spontaneous form of communication, have made the practice of having a partner of the opposite sex accompany them while studying popular on campus; seeking such a partner has quietly become a fairly common phenomenon in university settings. 　　Today’s college students indeed lack the shy shyness and reserve of the past; instead, they exhibit cuteness, straightforwardness, and sincerity. The author once again appeared extremely unsophisticated and became the subject of mockery; the generation gap was clearly evident. It turns out that the so-called “companion” is neither a romantic partner on campus nor an ordinary friend of the opposite sex; it represents something that lies between the two – that mythical sixth type of relationship, one that is somewhat vague and ambiguous. 　　Fortunately, I am still a humble and eager-to-learn person. Objectively speaking, in certain circumstances, if the intentions and motivations behind this phenomenon are purely positive, then its existence is reasonable; thus, \"accompanying a student of the opposite sex\" has room to exist, and there is nothing wrong with it. 　　From an age perspective, college students are at a time when they are full of energy and experiencing puberty; it is natural for them to have feelings toward the opposite sex, and there is nothing wrong with that. At the same time, university life has a dual nature: on one hand, university campuses are hubs of vast amounts of knowledge and information, and university life is colorful and represents one of the most wonderful periods in one’s life ； On the other hand, university life can be somewhat dull and monotonous, with a routine that follows a set pattern. In particular, the pressures related to studies and employment, along with uncertainty about the future, can be extremely frustrating. Teenagers of the same age get along well with each other and spend their time together during college studies and daily life, which is also a viable way to turn stress into motivation. 　　From a physiological and psychological perspective, having a partner of the opposite sex accompany one can also play a certain facilitating role. As the saying goes, \"When men and women work together, the task becomes less strenuous.\" When boys and girls spend time together, the hormones they release help to create a sense of pleasure in both parties, reducing stress from studies and daily life, and they can also support each other and enhance one another’s strengths. “None of the companions wants to fall behind; there is a strong desire to be the best version of oneself in front of the others. This leads to a positive form of competition, with each trying to outdo the other, in order to maximize their personal potential. Especially for those with weaknesses in certain subjects, finding a partner of the opposite sex who has strengths in complementary areas can help improve grades. From this perspective, having a partner of the opposite sex accompany one during studies is worth acknowledging. 　　I have personal experience to prove this. I remember back when we were in school, the number of members of the opposite sex was extremely limited, and there was a severe imbalance in the gender ratio. There are over thirty people in the class; only seven of them are girls, with the rest being nothing but aggressive boys. Thus, the sought-after \"ethnic minorities\" have become highly desirable. Except for one girl whose appearance was barely passable and thus went unnoticed, the other six all had partners. After each exam, the top ten spots are often occupied by pairs, with very few individuals standing alone. It was truly baffling at the time: could the power of love really be so immense? 　　The author believes that in the case of \"accompanying a partner of the opposite sex while studying,\" the key still lies in \"studying.\" A clear understanding of this is essential, and we must not put the cart before the horse. To accompany for the sake of “reading” – reading is the focus, something positive and constructive; it is through this accompaniment that it gains meaning ； Conversely, if it is done to \"keep company\" while \"reading\", then reading inadvertently becomes a pretext and excuse for just keeping company. “Accompanying without reading will only backfire and even lead to something vulgar; what’s the difference between this and emotional fast food? 　　It is undeniable that there are also those with ulterior motives and malicious intentions; their real aim is clearly not what they claim it to be. Not everyone who seeks a partner of the opposite sex to study with does so with the aim of studying; rather, they focus more on having company. Perhaps it is the hope that, through interacting with the opposite sex, emotional bonds can be formed and a lover who can be by one’s side can be found ； Or perhaps to pass the boring study time and free time, to find someone to keep company and liven things up ； Worse still, some people develop feelings simply in order to find an ATM. For whatever reason, the element of “studying” in accompanying study is continually weakened. It is possible that this will not only fail to promote learning but may also affect the outcomes of learning. If seeking a study companion is for the above reasons, then it is not worth promoting. 　　When it comes to such emotional games, the responder must stay clear-headed and remain vigilant. Especially for girls, it is essential to keep a sharp eye on invitations from strangers, to understand their true character, and to avoid ending up with unsuitable partners. 　　In short, in this mixed environment, if one has a good intention and a positive purpose and motivation, then having someone of the opposite sex accompany one while studying is not necessarily a bad idea!