Advice for those born in the 80s and 90s! ! ! . . . . Don’t fall in love in your first year of college

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1. Don’t believe what those around you say; if you don’t start a relationship in your freshman year, the good girls will be taken by others. Think about it: is it worth pursuing a girl who can’t stand being alone or resist temptation in her first year of college, and ends up starting a relationship? In college, it’s possible to have a romantic relationship, but don’t insist on the idea that one must start dating right from the first year of university. 2. If a young person has no ideas at all over the course of three years, then his life will remain more or less the same, with little change. 3. Success belongs to those who have courage and determination. Once, on a train, I heard someone talk about the success of people from Wenzhou, using these three words to describe them: “bold.” This is, in fact, courage; and the ability to take things on and let them go is determination. 4. In this world, there is a small group of people whose news appears in the newspapers, whose stories are shown on television; everywhere, people talk about their news. It seems as though the world was created for them, and they can control everything and do anything they want. Your goal should be to strive to become part of this small group. 5. In this society, the fast fish eat the slow fish, not the slow fish eating the fast fish. 6. In this society, the winner takes everything while the loser gets nothing; it is always a society that judges people by their success or failure. 7. If you ask people around you about a certain term, and nine out of ten say they don’t know it, then that represents an opportunity; if all ten people know it, then it has become an established industry. 8. In any industry or market, those who arrive first get the best deals, while those who come later end up with nothing left. 9. In this world, top-tier talent can turn a third-rate project into a second-rate one or even better, but third-rate talent can turn a first-rate project into something that is even worse than a third-rate one. 10. Take advantage of your youth and go out and see more of the world. Reading ten thousand books is not as good as traveling ten thousand miles; traveling ten thousand miles is not as good as meeting countless people. 11. When interacting with others, listen more and talk less. This is why God gave us a mouth and two ears. 12. Beyond daily work, one should pay more attention to improving personal cultivation and training one’s skills. With the widespread use of computer technology, in order not to be left behind by society, it is necessary to strengthen training and improve skills in computer technology. Both corporate training and personal training are essential. I personally recommend a great training institution: the Training Center of the Institute of Computing Technology, Chinese Academy of Sciences. 13. Don’t act tough; for those who do, the best thing to do is pick up a brick, follow them quietly, and knock them down from behind in one move. 16. When buying clothes, you should choose them by yourself instead of letting your family do it for you. Although the choices you make at first might not be great, you will gradually develop a good eye for style. 17. To make progress, one must learn from lessons. Successful experiences are often distorted; once successful, one can say whatever they want, while those who fail have no say. Yet, one can use their examples to reflect and draw conclusions. Lessons should be learned not only from oneself but also from others. 18. Keep learning*, keep learning*, keep learning* again. Whether you have time or not, go to the bookstore and read books on management, finance, marketing, interpersonal relationships, future trends, and more – you can gain a lot from them. Competition in this society is too fierce; if you don’t learn*, you will be eliminated. At the end of 2008 in China, over a million college graduates were unable to find jobs. Competition is so fierce; therefore, it’s important to understand that graduating from university doesn’t mean the end of learning, but rather the beginning of it. Also, I personally recommend a great video show called “Who Wants to Have Lunch?” 19. If you’re not a singer, a painter, or someone who engages in performance art, then please pay attention to your clothing in everyday life. In today’s society, your clothing can show to which **group** or circle you belong. 20. Remember, those who watch TV for more than three hours a day on average are surely those with a monthly income of no more than 2,000 yuan. If you want to earn more than 2,000 yuan per month, don’t waste your time on TV. By the same logic, those who spend more than three hours per day playing online games or chatting are also those whose monthly income is no more than 2,000. 21. Because there are many poor people, and they have no money, that’s why they chat and complain on the internet to pass the time. Have you ever seen any company CEO or manager casually chatting in QQ groups all the time, whether there’s anything to discuss or not? 22. Whether you work in the sales department in the future or not, read books on marketing. Because, in life, you are constantly trying to sell and showcase yourself to others. 23. In everyday life, communicate more with your friends; don’t wait until you need their help to think about getting in touch with them. It is only when you enter society that you realize how difficult it is to find a true friend. 24. If you want to know what your annual income will be in the future. Find the six friends you interact with most often, add up their annual incomes, and divide that total by six – that figure will be roughly yours. This example clearly illustrates the fact that like attracts like. 26. Remember, you need to be the one to play the last card, dealing a card that catches others off guard; when they think you’re about to lose, that’s when you can win the game. 27. Regarding love, there is a saying: How can one dance without bread? Whenever you decide to truly love someone, be sure to consider providing them with the best material life you can offer. 28. Set a five-year goal for yourself, and then break it down into yearly periods, six-month periods, three-month periods, and one-month periods. Only in this way can you find your own goals and direction. 29. No matter when, remember the word dignity. One should live with dignity, having principles and boundaries. Otherwise, no one will respect you. 30. If I could give you just one piece of advice, it is this: there is no such thing as a free lunch in this world; never take shortcuts! 2. Why shouldn’t you be proud or inferior? You can say you’re the best, but you can’t claim to be the best in the whole school, in all of Beijing, in the whole country, or in the whole world; so there’s no need to be arrogant ； Similarly, you can say you’re the worst in your class, but can you prove you’re the worst in the whole school? Can you prove that you’re the worst in the country? So there’s no need to feel inferior. 3. As people get older, what matters is no longer appearance; it’s not about whether you’re good-looking or not, but rather the charm of your inner self: your spirit and determination. 4. There are many geniuses in this world; geniuses are meant to be admired, not compared to one another. 5. You say I’m a pig, but that’s not right; in fact, I’m even worse than a pig. Many people lose their happiness because they are too sensitive. A single word or comment from someone else can make me angry for a whole month. It’s really boring at this time. When it gets severe, it turns into something like Ma Jiajue – someone who becomes so upset because others don’t invite them to eat that they decide to kill someone. 6. Try to work harder every day, spending an extra hour compared to others. 7. It isn’t the sunlight that makes the world shine, but the smiles of girls. 8. To be respected, one must specialize in a highly professional field in which they are among the best – at least among the top 10 in China – so that they always have something to say and something to do. I, Yu Minhong, originally wanted to rank among the top 100 in China for studying English, but later realized it was completely impossible. So I started memorizing words; it took me a year to memorize an entire English dictionary, and that made me an expert in vocabulary. Now I publish the Red Treasure Book series, which includes more than a dozen books covering vocabulary from middle school level to GRE level. These books sell 1 million copies per year, and the royalties I earn from them are much higher than those from my regular job. 9. What college students should do is: (1) In terms of their major, strive to rank among the top 100 in China ； (2) In terms of humanities, read 500 books. (3) English. 10. If you want to draw attention, make yourself a tree, standing tall among the earth ； Instead of being a blade of grass, have you ever seen anyone step on a blade of grass and then say sorry to it, saying, \"I’m sorry\"? 11. Learning English is like learning bird calls. You learn these calls in the forest; when four birds land on your shoulders, it means you have passed the Level 4 English exam, and when six birds land there, it means you have passed the Level 6 exam. When many birds land on your shoulders, it means you have become a bird person. 12. A woman’s gentleness is directly proportional to a man’s achievements.