The child is over two years old, willful and disobedient – what should I do?

The combination of the two works well, and the second method is generally not used.

My child is four years old, and the situation is similar. I wonder if it’s okay to give it to kindergarten? I personally feel that going to kindergarten has made a big difference; at least I now understand what is right and wrong. The teachers’ teaching methods are better than ours. Force is meant to be used against enemies, and the child is only two years old – it cannot be used!

The original poster should answer a few questions for me before making a decision: 1. Is it your child? If the answer is yes, keep reading; if not, delete this post. 2. Have you given birth to children before? If the answer is yes, continue reading; if not, skip the third question and move on. 3. Since you’ve had children before, don’t you know the characteristics of 2-year-olds? Think about how things were done in the past and do them the same way now. 4. If it’s your first child, then call your mother and ask her how your father dealt with you at your age; just do the same thing. What was said above is a joke, but it’s not entirely a joke either. The characteristics of a 2-year-old child are different from those of a 1-year-old child. At the age of 2, they began to learn more complex language, that is, they were able to express their most basic ideas clearly. At this age, children have very active minds; they try to learn everything they hear, whether it’s good words or bad ones. They also enjoy repeating things over and over again as a form of entertainment. However, it should be understood that children of this age still understand nothing about right and wrong; they don’t know what is right and what is wrong, especially they don’t know which words are polite and which ones are not. Under such conditions, the original poster, think about which of these two methods will work? For a child of this age, you should let things take their natural course and not rush things. When he does something wrong, you should tell him that what he did is incorrect and that dad is angry. Although he won’t understand and correct himself right away, at least it will leave an impression in his young mind, and over time he will follow your teachings. Do not hit children casually; if you must hit them, find a good reason to do so and give them a thorough beating so that they remember it. At such times, one should not be too kind – they need to feel pain, and they must remember that pain. Over time, he will forget the reason for the pain, but he will definitely remember the feeling of pain – that is the effect of force. At the same time, when speaking and acting, one must adhere to principles and hold onto fundamental boundaries; it’s not acceptable to be indulgent to the point where anything seems possible, yet to be strict to the extent that even eating and talking become problematic. This will leave your child at a loss as to what to do. At home, it was in this way that the father’s authority was established.

This post was last edited by pzhmotor on 2011-6-18 22:35. It is indeed a troublesome issue. Being too strict might cause the child to lose their personality and become timid. Let it follow its nature, but I’m afraid it will get spoiled. . It is suggested that the original poster might consider reading a few parenting books aimed at parents. (My child is 3 years and 4 months old.) I bought \"Raising Children in the Chinese Way\" and \"Cultivating Perfect Girls\". These books contain various specific methods and approaches for dealing with children. It is not recommended to hit children. (I used to be unable to do this completely; I hit my child twice, but then stopped doing it.) Additionally, one can subscribe to some children’s magazines, such as \"Young Children’s Pictorial,\" and read stories to the child before bed. (These stories are highly targeted and come with animated stories on CD; by watching them, children can learn some basic principles.) Children may suddenly become unusually disobedient at a certain stage – this could be their rebellious phase, during which they develop a sense of identity. Usually, they act in this way to get their parents’ attention. Parents might as well observe and try to ease things along a bit. The original poster shouldn’t rush either; spend more time with the child and tell them more meaningful children’s stories. The little one will gradually become obedient. Also, if the poster is confident, they can let their child learn things like roller skating. My daughter started learning to roller skate on her own at 2 years and 2 months old; ever since, she hardly cries when she falls while walking. Once she fell into a ditch, her skin only got slightly red (I was terrified at the time – the ditch was very deep, even higher than she was). What was said on the 4th floor about setting boundaries makes some sense; the rules established must be strictly followed, and no compromises should be made no matter what happens. It’s not a matter of authority, but of *habit. Yes, good habits are the most important thing for a child’s life. I remember when my daughter was a little over two years old, she was quite shy. When we go out, we tell her to say hello to more people, and when we’re at the supermarket, we have her ask the salespeople herself where things are placed. Gradually, the little one became more cheerful and more polite to people. Kindergarten education helps children learn certain rules, skills, and knowledge, but it can also lead to some bad habits, such as using vulgar language or spitting. Parents still need to correct the situation in a timely manner and communicate more with the teachers. What bothers me the most right now is that the little girl is extremely vain; I’m worried that her vanity might keep growing. Also, they tend to be impatient and can’t sit still. They don’t take the initiative to eat, which takes a lot of effort. Using the original poster’s post as a starting point: I also hope that experienced dads and moms can give me some advice. . . . .

If it weren’t for one’s own kin, they could use the torture chair and pepper spray~~~:lol:lol:lol

Reply to 4# huawei: That makes sense. It’s natural for children to be mischievous; it depends on how you handle the situation. Just like humans use fire – if you use it properly, it serves you; if not, it turns into ashes

This post was last edited and replied to by zbx on 2011-6-19 at 10:13. Reply to 1# Niuniu: Here are a few approaches I used before for your reference: 1. Once, my daughter defied her mother, which led to her being beaten; in the end she still did as her mother asked. I told her that either she should stick to her principles to the end or simply obey, and now that she’s suffering as a result, it’s worth asking herself whether it was worth it to do as her mother wanted. 2. Kids all like to go to KFC. My daughter, who is about five or six years old, used to go there often, so I took her there and let her choose whatever she wanted; I also let her spend the money herself. The next day, which happened to be a market day, I took her to the market as well and allowed her to use the same amount of money to buy many dishes she liked, such as fish, meat, chicken, and other things she enjoys eating. The amount of money was roughly the same, and it was still spent by her. Of course, the meals prepared at home were much more varied than those at KFC. In the end, I asked my daughter to decide for herself whether she wanted to go to KFC or cook at home in the future, and the answer was predictable. 3. When my daughter was in the first and second grades, she was quite fat and had the same dark skin color as me.:lol Her surname is also Zhu, so someone in her class started calling her “Pig Bajie.” She cried when she got home, and I asked her which is smarter, humans or pigs. She said obviously humans. I said then that if anyone calls you that again, you should say that you haven’t learned as well as me; if they call you a pig, it means you’re not even as good as a pig. As a result, no one called her that anymore (my daughter was the class leader at that time and was good at studying):lol 4. Starting from the age of eight, I made it a point to have my daughter prepare her own breakfast – cook it herself and eat it herself before going to school. So now that she’s in the seventh grade, she doesn’t need anyone to worry about her breakfast at all. 5. When my daughter fell as a child, I never helped her up; she would get up on her own. 6. When taking her to the supermarket as a kid, I would let her handle the payment each time. If she thought something she wanted wasn’t necessary, we wouldn’t buy it for her, and this taught her to check the expiration dates of products. Now, whenever my daughter goes to the supermarket to buy things, she first checks the expiration dates. So you need to figure out what motivates your child. Children have rich imaginations. In short: reason should be the main approach, with force used as a supplement. One should not abuse force like the American imperialists do, but nor should one rely solely on verbal protests like in our country**; both approaches should complement each other. Finally, I’ve been away from home since my daughter was eight years old, yet she has always been among the top students in her class and has also served as a class leader

Reply to 6# A Shan: If it’s not your biological child, doing what you’re doing will result in you being drowned by your own saliva – we’re in the digital age, after all.;P

Don’t worry, just let things take their course; contrastive education is the best!

For overly willful children, especially in early childhood, hit them when necessary, even until they cry. After hitting him, ignore him and pretend to be doing something else; sneak glances at him. When his gaze follows yours, just spread your arms and he will throw himself into your arms. After that, ideological education is carried out. When teaching children, other people (grandparents, etc.) must not help them; they will only spoil the children.