Are you that donkey of Briar?

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Are you that donkey of Briar? Chris: This weekend, I received a call from a master’s student majoring in fluid machinery. He told me that he had had three opportunities, but hesitated because each of the three companies had its own advantages and disadvantages in terms of compensation and career development prospects. Once those opportunities passed, he felt very regretful and had to start looking for jobs again, hoping to find a suitable position through the Pump Valve English Talent Network before the end of the year. ANNA: You can’t have both fish and bear paws; losing either one is regrettable, so by not making a choice, nothing is achieved. Susan: I encountered a similar case not long ago as well – a college graduate from 2008 who had studied both foreign trade and accounting. There are many concerns when looking for a job; I want to work in foreign trade but am worried about losing my job as an accountant, and if I choose to be an accountant, I’m afraid of giving up my expertise in foreign trade ； Going to an accounting interview while worrying that the company won’t hire you makes one feel even more depressed. Chris: Clearly trapped by his own words and unable to get out. ANNA: Have you heard a story about a Brigid’s donkey? The French philosopher Brindamour kept a donkey and bought a pile of fodder from the farmers in the vicinity every day to feed it. One day, the farmer who delivered grass, out of admiration for the philosopher, gave an extra pile of fodder. The poor donkey stayed where it was, trying to decide which pile of grass to eat; it considered the quantity at one time, the quality at another, and analyzed the color and freshness as well, until it died of hunger from being unable to make a decision. We’re busy choosing the best option, Susan: Someone once said that happiness comes from having more choices, but that’s not necessarily true. When having a meal with friends, we stand on streets lined with restaurants or look at food maps, but in the end we end up having an unappetizing dinner ； When we have the money and time to travel, Southeast Asia is more charming, while Europe has a more refined atmosphere – which route should we choose? Who am I going with? These are all troublesome problems. ANNA: Take watching TV for example. Back then there were only a few channels, and people enjoyed watching them very much. But now, all night long people keep pressing the remote control, and in the end they don’t see anything at all. Susan: I have a friend who, as her position improved, became more self-deprecating. She bought a house in Wuchang because of its good environment, but now she regrets not buying one in Hankou, as it has greater potential for value appreciation ； She opened an advertising company, and when she saw that her friend’s internet company was doing well, she regretted having poor judgment. After making a choice, she would always regret not choosing the other option. Struggling to find the \"best decision,\" she often mocked herself as \"stupid.\" Chris: Desire is the devil. I have a friend who started looking for a property when house prices were around 2,000; at that time he hesitated over the location and the price. Now that house prices have reached tens of thousands, it’s difficult for him to decide to buy one. ANNA: In life, Briard donkeys are indeed quite common. “Being single-minded can also bring good luck, Chris: Have you noticed that? Sometimes, even with the decisions we spend the most time thinking about, we still encounter various problems in reality ； With numerous references and repeated arguments, the result is that one becomes increasingly timid and hesitant. Susan: Difficult choices often lead to regret, and even bad luck. On the contrary, a single-minded person might have good luck. ANNA: The epitome of someone who is single-minded is Wang Baoqiang from \"The Soldier’s Ascent\"; his stubborn and inflexible attitude has been widely discussed in society. Speaking of career development, some people, once they have chosen a career path, keep progressing regardless of whether their company is profitable or not, or despite any changes in the environment. On the other hand, those who act only in pursuit of profit and avoid difficulties tend to achieve nothing. Chris: “The best choice” is a psychological burden. The best option is not necessarily the most suitable one; we have to take responsibility for every choice we make. If we only seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, we will end up starving in the process of making choices, while those who are lucky are often those who stick to a single approach.