Coping with accumulated frustration at work

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To get through it successfully, one can only rely on oneself to relieve stress. Dr. Xu said that it’s not scary when a stressful situation arises; what’s important is to take proactive and effective measures to address it. First of all, it’s important to understand that it’s impossible to avoid problems; it’s normal for them to arise. One should actively work on developing the ability to handle various situations, make use of one’s own initiative, and take proactive action to deal with them. Additionally, the standards should not be set too high; everything needs to be done step by step, one problem at a time, with a long-term perspective in mind. Generally, when a problem arises, people use several systems to make adjustments. The first is the individual’s own regulatory system; for example, talking to good friends about the issues can help resolve them to some extent. For some people, their own defense mechanisms come into play, turning stress into motivation, but for others, the stress is so severe that it’s difficult to transform it into motivation. In addition, there are social support systems available; for example, one can ask friends for advice and help to get through difficult situations, or turn to social organizations as well. But these are external resources, and while they can assist in avoiding setbacks, it is still one’s own efforts that are key to overcoming difficulties.