Which one should be chosen between the two? ! To choose means to give up ； So before making this difficult decision, take a look at this article

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The best short article I’ve read in the past half year; I hope it can help entomology enthusiasts who are currently confused or about to become confused. Source: Renren.com. Regarding choices – which of the two schools is better? Which of the two majors should I choose? ? Which of the two jobs is better? Which of the two objects is more suitable? ? ? Should I choose a career or love? ? Which country to choose for studying abroad?…… Making a choice means giving up something, but you need to be clear that a particular choice only determines our way of life, not the joys and sorrows of our entire lives! How to make this balance? Perhaps the next two letters can help you see clearly within yourself. Ai Xiaoyang: I have a boyfriend back in my hometown. He’s not very tall, a bit overweight, has an average job and isn’t particularly motivated to improve himself, but he has an excellent temper, treats me well, and is very good at doing housework, especially cooking. He loves his family and doesn’t have any bad habits; I think he would make a great husband. After graduating from university this year, I returned to my hometown; it feels peaceful being with him. But my mom thinks I’m ruining my own future; she wants me to pursue a master’s degree and even covers the costs for me to study abroad. She believes I should stay in a big city where I can have better prospects. I’m very conflicted right now. Actually, I’m not the type of girl who insists on achieving something in my career; I prefer a stable and peaceful life. If I follow the path my mother has chosen for me, I’m worried that once I go to a big city, I won’t be able to find a man as suitable as him to marry, and I might end up being an unmarried woman. Moreover, there’s no guarantee of a good job waiting for me in the big city – everything is uncertain, and I’ll have to struggle on my own. In my classmate’s words, it’s not easy to get by there. But if I stay in my hometown and marry him, I’m afraid that he might not be as good as he is now, and I’ll regret it, thinking it wasn’t worth giving so much for him. To be honest, I’m quite vain and don’t want my life to be worse than others’. I think about these questions every day, and the more I think about them, the more headaches I get. This choice will determine my entire life, so I’m very afraid of becoming one of those tragic characters in novels who suffer from regret for the rest of their lives due to a single wrong decision. I’ve read some of your articles and feel that you have a great deal of experience; you will surely be able to help me. Thank you. Xiaoting: Years ago, at a certain television station, several close friends who could no longer bear the exploitation by their employers decided to switch jobs together. However, a \"traitor\" appeared among them, who secretly chose to stay. After the others left, he became the only one in charge, and his salary rose significantly. The traitor’s name is Tony Leung, while the leader of the righteous men is Andy Lau. Many years later, both the traitors and the heroes led good lives; even Michael Miu, whose career path was not successful, said proudly in an interview, \"I have more time to spend with my wife and children than Eddie Hung.\" In this classic case related to choice, who do you think is the loser, and who should feel regretful? Last year, a “Coin Man” moved in below me. He used to suffer from decision paralysis, just like the character played by Liu Qingyun in the movie \"Shopaholic\". It takes half an hour to order fast food, as if you’ll die if you order something wrong. Ever since he decided to let the coin decide everything, he became a super handsome guy in the eyes of the girls. Not only because his way of flipping the coin was quite stylish, but more importantly, even when the pork cutlet in his pork cutlet rice, chosen by the coin, was as hard as pig skin, he still ate it with great relish. He said that making a choice is so painful; if someone (a coin) could help me make the decision, I would be willing to face any difficulties. These days, he never thinks there’s anything wrong with any of his choices, unless he forgets to bring coins in his pocket. You think that because I have a lot of experience, I can definitely help you make the right choice. I think you’re a bit naive; someone as experienced as me certainly can’t really help you make any decisions. Because I am well aware that a certain choice can only determine our way of life, not the joys and sorrows of our entire existence. The joys and sorrows of life are like breathing; no matter which path we choose, they will persist alongside us. Since it’s not possible to take two paths at once, it’s difficult to determine which path brings fewer sorrows and more joys. The only choices that can truly determine one’s life are things like killing, committing arson, or becoming a thief, but such actions lead to eternal regret as a result of a single mistake. Obviously, you’re not facing such a problem. The two paths before you are both promising, yet each has its own uniqueness and is hard to perfect. If it’s a rabbit or any other animal, things are much easier; they will choose the present moment without hesitation. Therefore, animals never suffer from choice paralysis; they eat whatever food is available to them at that moment, without caring whether there is more delicious or nutritious food in the food container discarded a couple of seconds earlier. “\"Choice means sacrifice.\" What prevents humans from making choices is not the path itself, but greed. Every way of life has its advantages and disadvantages; every path is lined with both flowers and thorns. Moreover, even on the same path, different people choose different ways to walk it – some are able to create a path where none exists, while others turn a smooth road into a narrow trail. “Happiness is a skill; having trees in full bloom along every path one chooses to take is a mindset. Once you reach this part of the letter, you can take a coin – with the head side representing staying in the small town and the tail side representing studying abroad – and throw it high in the air in a stylish manner. If that isn’t enough, try again; the game is played to two wins out of three, or three wins out of five, or six wins out of ten, or fifty-one wins out of a hundred, until the result you desire is achieved. I believe that for these two paths, your inner balance has already tilted in one direction; you just need a witch or shaman to confirm it for you. Finally, the old hand wants to tell you the most important thing: when you start living a peaceful life in a small town with your boyfriend, definitely don’t spend all your time dreaming about going to the United States to study and meeting Bill Gates’ son. “In this world, there are no completely correct choices; the best we can do is to always believe that our own choices are correct. Deliberately making the words so convoluted is to enhance memory. Wish you a bright future! Ai Xiaoyang, follow your heart – wish you all the best~~