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15 Golden Standards for an Excellent Man [Article] 1. The most important quality for a man is to be strong. Men who, after failing once, blame others, become disheartened, and can’t get back on their feet must never be chosen. A man should be able to give his woman a sense of security. If you choose a husband who is unable to take care of you and who constantly complains about his misfortunes in front of you, forcing you to share in the pain that he could actually overcome on his own, then that is a complete failure. 2. Loyalty. There’s no need to say more about this; I’m sure all women don’t want their husbands to be unfaithful. 3. Have magnanimity. You must never choose a petty man, even if he loves you. But a man who gets jealous over trivial matters, who throws a fit or stays sulky and ignores you for hours after you return home, whether you went out on business with your boss or met up with an old friend for personal reasons, is actually selfish. Of course, he’ll say that he’s jealous because he loves you, but don’t forget that loving someone also means giving them freedom. Sisters, never allow yourselves to be kept at home by men using various tactics, forcing you to become housewives who only do laundry and cooking. It’s not that housewives are bad; rather, as women in today’s society, one should have their own social circle, be independent and strong. Never choose a man who won’t give you your own space. 4. Good health. It’s not necessary for that man to be extremely strong or tall, but he must be in good health. A woman who has some health issues can be described as frail. But what does it mean if a man is sickly all the time? 5. Don’t act like a good little girl. No one says that being filial is wrong; a man who is filial is kind. However, if one seeks the opinions of elders in every matter relating to marriage and has no own opinions, constantly saying things like “Mom said, Mom said,” then such a compliant child who obeys his mother must not be chosen. Remember, you are marrying a man, not his mother. 6. Love for the house extends to its birds. If a man truly loves you, he will love everything about you, including your bad habits, your friends, and your family. If he can’t tolerate certain flaws in your friends or family members, or is dissatisfied with the people around you, then as a smart woman, you should try to avoid letting him meet them ； If he is so demanding that he wants you to cut off all contact with them, don’t hesitate – leave him! 7. Have a stable income. Love is very important, but it should be built on a foundation of stability. It’s not necessary to have a vast fortune, but one’s livelihood must be secure. As the saying goes, married couples in poverty face many hardships. If a man can’t even afford his child’s formula, and starts worrying about the mortgage payment for the next month as early as this month, then living with him means only suffering. 8. Confidence. A man who exudes confidence can make a woman feel secure enough to rely on him. 9. Appearance match. It’s not required that he be handsome, but he should at least not look offensive; after all, you can’t have a beautiful, graceful woman surrounded by a short, fat man. 10. Meticulous and entertaining. He might not remember the birthdays of your uncles, aunts, and cousins, but he must remember your birthday and wedding anniversary – these two dates are very important in a marriage. It’s great to be able to go out for a romantic outing and receive gifts as well. 11. No bad habits. You can smoke a little and drink a little alcohol, but not too much. Surely you don’t want to go back home every day and face a drunkard who constantly reeks of smoke, right? 12. Strong social skills. It’s not necessary to be so outgoing as to smile at everyone you meet and shake hands with anyone you see; nor is it required to have strong social skills, but one shouldn’t be shy either. When going out together, he only knows how to stand there smiling foolishly, unable to find topics to talk about with your colleagues. A man who needs you to cover for him in every situation will bring shame to you. 13. True manly spirit. The kind of manly spirit mentioned here is not about machismo; such men who don’t do any household chores at home and expect everything to be done for them are not desirable. True manly courage means that when you are bullied outside, he is willing to step forward without hesitation to stand up for you and protect you truly. Just for this reason alone, this man is worth considering for a lifetime commitment. 14. Responsible. A man must be responsible and willing to take responsibility for his own actions, whether they are related to work or personal matters. A man who shifts blame onto others at the first sign of trouble is not only despicable but also shameful. 15. Have a peaceful heart. This world has* come to measure a person’s value by the success of their career. In fact, the value of a person lies in whether their existence is important to others. Even if that person cannot achieve as brilliant success in their career as others, their ordinary life is still valuable because it is important to those around them. If a man cannot view his gains and losses with a calm mind, remaining cynical all the time and blaming society for its unfairness or life for its injustices, then being with such a person will also affect your mindset, making you more prone to extreme reactions and putting great psychological pressure on you, resulting in an unhappy life.