How to resist the urge to compare oneself with others
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Have you also experienced a sense of competition at work or in life? Always staring at someone, watching how they act and how they react. How can this state of mind be changed? Why is it so hard to keep being oneself?
I don’t know why either. It’s just that she is more valued and appreciated than I am, and some people say she’s smart; in reality, it’s because of her connections. So I keep watching the way she does things, and before I knew it… I found myself becoming more and more competitive, always comparing myself to her to see who is better, who is smarter, and I even started to feel bored with myself……
It’s OCD – I don’t want to think about that thing, but I still have to think about it! :lol. The root of the problem is that you are fighting against yourself, but it seems as though the source of this conflict is someone else; in reality, the source of this conflict has nothing to do with that person – the source is your own unwillingness to stop fighting. Try to let go of your control; if you want to think, then let yourself think, and if you want to compete, then let yourself do that. Then tell yourself that it’s ridiculous.
Sister or brother of the original poster, stop worrying about this stuff all the time~~ otherwise you’ll become even more depressed~~~
There’s no need; just do what you’re supposed to do
Hehe. I don’t know what to say anymore.
If they are all people in the technical field, then even if they are given preferential treatment and recognition due to their connections, they will surely use their skills; otherwise, they wouldn’t continue to be given such preferential treatment； The original poster should adjust their mindset; such connected people can be found everywhere. If possible, become friends with them and maintain good relations. A leader once told me that it’s not encouraged to compare incomes among people, but rather to compare skills. . .
If the leaders say so, only a fool would do such a thing.................
Haha, anyway, if I master the skills well and it still feels unbearable, then I’ll just leave. . . . .
Seeing that someone is fine obviously means they are better than oneself; only in this way can one recognize one’s own shortcomings, correct them, and then surpass that person