Is it appropriate to get married at this stage?
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I’ve been graduated for less than two years now; my job is just getting on track, and I haven’t earned much money yet – my salary is a little over 2K per month. My girlfriend is in the same situation as me. I want to get married now, but I don’t have any money. My family is from the countryside and our financial situation is quite average; my girlfriend’s family is also from the countryside. We’re both working hard in a big city – is it appropriate for us to get married at this time? What are everyone going to do?
I suggest you consider getting married at a later time; after all, you’re still young, and it’s not too late to work for a few years before thinking about marriage
Is it you who wants to get married, or is it your girlfriend? :I think as long as two people feel it’s right to be together, they should get married without having to worry about money. At most, they need to take some wedding photos, get a marriage certificate, and hold a wedding ceremony. Since you and your girlfriend are from rural areas, the wedding shouldn’t cost too much. If you have some extra money, you can go on a trip for your honeymoon; if not, it’s okay – you can make it up when you have more money later. For now, just getting married is enough to bring happiness, right? lol Besides, if you wait until you have wealth before getting married, how can you be sure that you won’t change by then, and that you won’t lose your true nature over time? If in the future one regrets that the person sharing one’s bed is not the one loved in the past, won’t it be too late? ;P Let’s get married then! Wishing you a happy marriage and a lifetime of happiness together~\(≧▽≦)/~ La la la
Don’t worry; actually, my boyfriend and I are in the same situation as you two. We’ve been together for several years, and we also just started working two years after graduating, with an income of around 2000. My personality is quite similar to your girlfriend’s, and she keeps a tight grip on my boyfriend as well. The differences are as follows: 1. Neither of us wants to get married right away (we spend almost every day together, so marriage doesn’t make much difference); if we did decide to get married, we wouldn’t consider any other factors – we would just get married. 2. My boyfriend would never say in front of anyone that I keep a strict hold on him to the point where it becomes frustrating or uncomfortable. There have never been any posts like those from you or Haiyou asking for help (he takes me with him wherever he goes if he can, and most importantly, he is understanding, which gives me peace of mind; with peace of mind, there’s no need for unnecessary worries)
Getting married is fine, but one should be careful; it’s better not to have children too early. Wait until one’s career progresses and their salary and other conditions improve, and once things are more stable, then it will be easier to impose proper pressure on oneself and meet the necessary requirements.
But she wants to get married, and I have thought about it too; are there many dreams in long nights? Haha
We both want to get married, but her family insists on buying a house. Actually, I fully agree with everything you said. Really, you’ve said what’s on my mind. I will consider following your suggestion and doing it
I want to learn from your boyfriend*. Actually, I’m the kind of person who, sometimes, as a man, cares about maintaining face; I also want to make more friends, and of course a girlfriend too, but I don’t have any other intentions. Regarding marriage, I kind of want to get married, and so does she, but her family wants us to buy a house. My conditions are quite average, so I’m very worried.
Getting married is simply a decision; if one thinks too carefully about it, the meaning of marriage is lost. The feelings between two people also change over time, so it’s better to make the decision while their relationship is strong, thereby strengthening their love and fostering a successful marriage.
Men who know how to be tolerant are really great. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is a bit petty; he often argues with me over trivial things (almost every three days), and he even goes on silent treatments. I can barely stand it anymore. . But he’s usually very kind to me, which makes it hard for me to leave. . I don’t know if this relationship can continue for long; I’m afraid that in the end we’ll be too exhausted from arguing, and once the affection between us is worn out, we’ll have no choice but to end it. There’s really nothing I can do!
You’re right; it should be like that, hehe{:1_90:} But it would be great if everyone could think in that way