To meet the you in my heart

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I will still strive to meet the person I have in mind. If I don’t work hard, I won’t be able to reach your level, and thus won’t be able to meet you or appear in your world. I worked so hard so as to meet you at a higher level. Even if it’s just a fleeting moment, even if it’s just a brief encounter. Girl, whether the man in your heart is waiting for you at that height or not, you still need to strive hard – not to match his height, but because that is also your own height. The sunshine on a spring afternoon is so bright that it reminds one of youth and hard work; being able to bask in such a spring day makes one feel that all the effort and sweat put in are truly worthwhile. So I’m glad to still be able to sit in a corner of the campus and experience this feeling. Yet this society is too impetuous and utilitarian; struggle and success have been overlaid with a strong sense of purpose, as everyone strives to find shortcuts to reach the heights they dream of. And then I remembered that phrase I really like – it’s so romantic and inspiring: I work so hard so that I can meet you at a higher level. What touching words. “But once you reach that height, the person you were waiting for doesn’t choose you. The man you were waiting for has already taken another girl’s hand and is no longer waiting for you. She, who is by his side, is full of youthful vitality with a smile as beautiful as a flower – but it’s not you. ” Isn’t this the cruelest reality of all? There is a joke with a hint of resignation, saying that men are actually the most devoted species. In his youthful days, he was attracted to beautiful women aged 20-24 with good figures ； Ages 20-25, interested in beautiful and fit women aged 20-24 ； Ages 26-30, interested in beautiful and fit women aged 20-24 ； Ages 30-40, who are attracted to beautiful women with good figures in the 20-24 age range ； Ages 40-60, who are attracted to beautiful women in their 20s-24s with good figures ； Ages 60-80, who prefer beautiful and fit women aged 20-24 ； After turning 80, although he suffers from presbyopia and can no longer see clearly, he still prefers beautiful women in their 20s to 24s with good figures... So I wonder, when I reach that age, your age, will you still be there? Afraid to find a cruel answer, right? I know a girl like that. There’s no face that is unforgettable, but there is a unique charm of one’s own ； It’s not an inborn talent, but I can see her constant efforts – her hard work in studying and in living her life. In my eyes, she is excellent; she seems to be always busy and fulfilled, with her own little interests and hobbies. I can also see the maturity that comes with youth, along with those subtle signs of immaturity. I like girls like this. Sometimes, when I see her in her new state, I think to myself: What kind of outstanding man is needed to hold this girl’s hand and walk beside her? Sometimes, one can also see her showing signs of loneliness; I really want to encourage her, but the words get stuck in my throat. I asked some guys, good guys, and found that at any level, men’s expectations of the opposite sex still follow a normal distribution? Most of the time, gentleness, kindness, thoughtfulness, and beauty are required... These can come in different orders, but the one thing that must not be done is to be too persistent. I always thought that men with a strong presence would prefer women who are equally strong. A boy who I consider to be quite good recently told me that he likes girls who are simple, traditional, and not too assertive – definitely not too assertive at all. For girls, having an easy job is sufficient; family comes first after all – why need to be that outstanding? It turns out that men and women are indeed two completely different species. Because I’ve always thought that A is well-balanced in every aspect, calm and reserved, and would likely also want their partner to be equally excellent. But he said it doesn’t need to be too pretty or too fancy; a girl should keep it simple, that’s best. I remember the get-together a few days ago to see off the senior students in their third year of graduate studies. There is a junior sister about to get married, which must make many people envious. So, a group of older children began discussing life, and indeed there was a significant generational gap between the boys and the girls. Typically, when discussing the division of household chores after marriage, rolling a die is indeed an absolutely fair method, but it cannot guarantee a permanent solution for the rest of one’s life together. There are many men’s shoes that reflect machismo, and this actually has nothing to do with the level of education; it’s rather a deep-seated belief among men that if they marry a wife who doesn’t do housework, then who will do it? We will surely rise up in rebellion. We are all the only children cherished by our grandparents; we were raised at great expense until today. We all possess an air of sophistication stemming from our higher education. Men and women are equal. For women these days, doing housework or bringing you food and tea is something I do willingly, not out of obligation. Don’t take kindness for granted. After studying for so many years, is it just to do housework for you so that you can sit there with your legs crossed acting like a boss? Then why did I study for so many years? I could have gotten married earlier. This reminded me of what my friend had complained about a few days ago: women who earn a master’s degree, especially in a technical field, become more and more independent as they pursue their studies, which makes them more confident; at the same time, they start to see the guys around them as being more feminine. Guys, don’t get upset; although it’s a bit exaggerated, it reflects an honest mindset. Since men don’t like women to be too dominant, due to their strong sense of self-esteem driven by male hormones, it is only logical that women, in turn, expect men to be more dominant than themselves. So, back to that fundamental question. I tried so hard, but the person I like held someone else’s hand. And the most ironic part is that you don’t need her by your side to be so hardworking, so strong, and so outstanding. So is this a paradox? A question with no correct answer ever? Without effort, I won’t be able to reach your level, and thus won’t be able to meet you or appear in your world ； I strived to reach that level and met you, but because of your so-called aversion to strength and the belief that it’s a virtue for women to be less talented, I’m destined never to get into your heart. But is it really right to simply go ahead and create a woman who fits your preferences – a simple woman who doesn’t need to be overly perfect, thus avoiding being too dominant or having an overwhelming presence – just to wait there for you to discover her? If that were the case, I wouldn’t be me, and you either wouldn’t be the person I strive to meet, right? So, for this question without a correct answer, there can only be one response: I will still strive to meet the person I have in mind. To meet you at a higher level. Even if it’s just a fleeting moment, even if it’s just a brief encounter. Writing this, a sense of sadness arises in my heart. In this era of fast food, how many people are willing to entrust their love to time, to wait for time to wash away the pretenses and illusions, revealing the true nature of each other and allowing for a relationship based on pure feelings. Girl, whether the man in your heart is waiting for you at that height or not, you still need to strive hard – not to match his height, but because that is also your own height. Just like an old friend under the lamp, returning after thousands of miles to stand before one’s own shadow, unable to speak, yet feeling joyful and content within. A cup of tea by the light, waiting for one person; one person is enough.