You owe it to your parents to say no!

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Son, what do you think of this piece of clothing? Daughter, you’ll look beautiful in these shoes! Son, with three days off, shall I cook something delicious for you when you come home to help you recover? Daughter, when do you plan to return to the company this time? Son, shall I go with you to buy a piece of clothing this afternoon? . . . . . . As parents, they have so many things they want to do with you, but often it only leads to unhappiness. From childhood on, such things kept happening around me. It was not until I was approaching my thirtieth birthday that I realized the source of all my unhappiness was simply the lack of a clear refusal from my parents! Time is truly a wicked thing; it always dilutes everything! I remember that it’s a pleasant thing to spend New Year’s Day together with one’s parents, having a meal and celebrating the holiday! But as the holiday neared its end, my plan was to leave home for the office on the last day of the break in order to prepare the materials needed for work after the holiday. I intended to tell my parents about it on that last day, but in the morning they said that I would have to go to work the next day. Last night, your dad and I went to the market to buy some delicious XX food for you, so you can get some nourishment – after all, you work hard and don’t get to eat good food often; this time you should eat more! Having said that, I swallowed back what I wanted to say; I didn’t have the heart to refuse, but I also couldn’t say it outright, so I had to use indirect ways to decline. My parents only wanted to do good things – how could they possibly understand that you wanted to leave at such a time? After a while, your mood is affected as well; you go back to your room and sulk there by yourself. You want to leave, but things drag on, and eventually, near mealtime, you blow up and say you need to prepare the materials for tomorrow’s work, even though you originally planned to leave today! When the parents heard this, they were instantly confused and at a loss for words. So they said, “Xiaobao, why don’t you eat a little bit first, and then see if you can make it back to the company in time?” ”They had a quick meal in a hasty manner, with little conversation. The parents simply finished eating fast and went back to the kitchen to prepare some boiled eggs and cooked taro for you to take along as breakfast the next day! And just like that, the joy before the festival turned into unhappiness by the end of it; that’s why time is a bad thing! Since such a problem has arisen, where lies the solution? Why is it said that we owe our parents a refusal? Actually, having eaten at home so many times, you’re already familiar with this routine. Your parents don’t have any other intentions; they just want to take advantage of the rare occasion when their child is back home, and so they want to give us the best things within that limited time. They won’t say \"I love you\" – they’ll express it through their actions instead! I think this is how parents express their love! To avoid hurting our parents’ feelings, on the first day we return home we say, “Dad and Mom, I’ve been really busy these past days; I’ve had few chances to eat with you two. This time I’ll make sure to spend quality time with you. I’ll go to the market with you to buy whatever you want to eat. I’ve grown up now, and it’s time for me to be a good son and take care of you!” Haha, but I need to head back to the company early this afternoon – there are indeed some matters to take care of there. Dad and Mom, since it’s our last day, let’s keep it simple! ” By saying this, the parents will be mentally prepared, and such unpleasant incidents as those mentioned above will not happen again! Often, unpleasant things happen because we didn’t do things properly in advance. I have always believed in the law of cause and effect: causes determine outcomes, and the preparations made in advance are like the causes of an action; if those causes are not handled well, how can there be good results? Rejecting in advance is the best outcome for one’s parents! (This refers to the people involved. I know that many guys treat their parents very well; this is just my personal opinion, and if it’s not accurate, please forgive me!) ) When we were young, no matter what happened, our parents would hold our hands. In times of danger, they would always stand in front of us; who could forget such a sight? When you grow up, do you really have the courage to hold your parents’ rough and unattractive hands? Do you really have the courage to say I love you, mom and dad? Do you really have the courage? Thank you for all your hard work, parents There’s no need to say any of this; it’s better to show it through our actions. Stop refreshing WeChat and Weibo, look up at our parents, take their hands – whose hair is already turning gray – and go for walks with them more often. Rather than refusing in advance, it’s better to spend more time with them and reduce social engagements; I think that’s the best way to \"refuse\" Appendix: The tree desires peace, yet the wind keeps blowing; the child wishes to be filial, yet his parents are no longer alive. Quotation on this topic: The highest state in Buddhism is to eat when it’s time to eat, and to sleep when it’s time to sleep! It’s impossible to do two things well at once; if there’s no work at home, then don’t worry about home while at work! 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