Should I go to a colleague’s wedding?
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I just started working at this company, and one of my new colleagues is getting married. They’re not in the same department as me. I’m already married and have children; should I go to the wedding as a gift? I personally don’t want to go, as there are quite a few new colleagues who aren’t married; it would be too costly to take them all. Also, if anything happens at home in the future, I don’t plan to invite colleagues either. Once you’re married and have children, there’s usually nothing that requires inviting others anyway. What do you all think?
I’m afraid **this is a basic form of reciprocity; otherwise things will get messy.**
If there’s no interaction, then it’s better not to go, but if you have an invitation, you should still go (personal opinion)
It depends on you – if you consider everyone to be colleagues, then go if you can; don’t place too much emphasis on money. Sometimes interpersonal relationships are more important than money
I basically never go; I got married personally, and there was no wedding reception at my workplace. Some people are happy about this, while others are sad. There’s too much of it; it breaks your heart ； It’s less now; people think your relationship is deeper than this.
Keep it under your control; following what shouldn’t be followed will cause discomfort and strain in relationships, while following what shouldn’t be followed will bring pain. It’s best to let things take their course without feeling pain or discomfort.
If you receive an invitation, you should go; if not, don’t go..........
In terms of interpersonal relationships, it’s necessary to give gifts, but since there’s no need for reciprocity, you can decide how much to give based on your own feelings; there’s no need to compare yourself to others
Give money, and they won’t go. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .