How to be a person
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I’m 28 years old now, with a secondary vocational school diploma. I started working in the chemical industry at the age of 20, and I can say that I have worked for the same company for 8 years. I wasn’t very talkative as a child, and I’m still the same today. I believe I was able to rise to the position of shift supervisor thanks to some opportunities provided by the company’s owner, as well as my hard work and a greater sense of responsibility compared to others. However, to this day my skills in interpersonal communication have not improved much; I tend to be too direct in what I say, which often leads to misunderstandings. I intended to be concise in my expressions, but end up not even knowing myself what I’m trying to convey. Now I think it’s better either not to say anything at all, or if I do speak, to be direct, as I struggle to find the right balance. I always hear the sayings that one should keep a low profile in personal life but be proactive in work, that one should speak only three parts and leave seven unsaid, that it’s better to say three things rather than seven, but how does one put this into practice? I was troubled by this for a long time and suffered as a result; after much thought, I realized that I really am not suited for this position. Sometimes I even hate myself for being such an awkward talker. I understand the logic, but when it comes to actual situations, I can’t control myself; only after it’s over do I realize it and feel a little regretful. These days, I feel that everyone’s fate is predetermined and cannot be changed. I’ve been introverted since I was young, and to this day I still try to change that, but what’s the result?......Sometimes it’s better not to try at all; I just complain here, hoping for some guidance from those who are more experienced.
What guidance is there in this? Since everyone is not made in the same mold, they won’t have the same personality. It’s enough if others understand your good intentions and motives, and know who you are as a person.
So what if I know? . . . . Still can’t change the outcome
So next time before you speak, think about it.
Read more books on this subject, interact with others, and learn through practice!
Reflect before going to bed every day, put it into practice the next day, and think things through first. No, get a notebook and write down what you want to say first; after thinking about it, make some changes. Let’s go by the manuscript again.
Your situation is relatively good – it’s only within your own company, and you haven’t yet had to interact with other organizations or departments. This is truly a skill-based task; most people aren’t really capable of handling it. Remember, it’s important to speak less and listen more: don’t say anything if you don’t understand something, and speak sparingly even if you do understand. If necessary, talk about areas in which you are expert. When dealing with your subordinates, try to consider everything carefully, taking into account their personality, preferences, etc.