A great person should not lose out due to emotional intelligence
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Over the years, I have come to understand one thing: emotional intelligence is the key to success. No matter how talented you are, without emotional intelligence it won’t do. Back in school, I thought that getting good grades was all that mattered ； Leaving school, one thinks that having high skills is enough. But after spending time in society, it becomes clear that there are still many, many people with excellent grades and high skills who cannot find jobs or are unemployed. It made me realize one thing: a great person shouldn’t be outmatched by emotional intelligence. A story went viral on Weibo: There was a college student born in the 1990s who went to a television station for an internship. During a meeting, he was quick-witted and came up with many ideas; everyone had a great time chatting. When it was time for lunch, the supervisor said, “Could you please order boxed meals for everyone after the meeting, one per person; I’ll cover the cost.” ”As a result, the actor seriously said, “I’m sorry, I’m here to act under the direction of the director; I wouldn’t do something like this.” I guess I’m getting old; I don’t quite understand what young people think these days. Back in the day, if you were a master or boss, life might not have been wealthy, but it could still be quite comfortable, as your apprentices were required to do everything for you, from fetching food to filling the urinal. Generally speaking, you too went through such a phase. Later, things changed. For example, after I started going to school, I had to do practical work in a factory – things like bringing hot water for the workers. At that time, we weren’t very willing to do that; we thought, \"What’s so special about you? We’re all workers – how can I be inferior to you?\" It turns out I was still much too low. Once, I was troubleshooting a crane and couldn’t figure out what the problem was. When the experienced worker arrived, he used a long rod to tap the power rails of the crane a few times, and then everything worked fine again. Actually, it’s because the workshop environment is poor; once the electrical circuits are exposed, there is poor contact. By saying this, you might be able to understand why there was a system of master-apprentice teaching back in the day. Crafts are not something that can be obtained for free; school education in modern society merely replaces the traditional master-apprentice system with a socialized model, without changing its fundamental essence. In this sense, whether it was an apprenticeship back in the day or school life, there is always a cost to pay; sometimes this cost is in the form of **money, which refers to compulsory education ； Paying out of one’s own pocket usually happens during high school and college. After starting to work, as a newcomer, there is an endless amount of experience waiting for you to learn. This learning process is essentially a form of re-education; the efforts and experience that others have invested are not obtained for free, and they have no obligation to teach you. At such a time, it shouldn’t be too much to put in a little effort to get lunch prepared. In this kind of workplace rule, equality isn’t important. Some people don’t understand that the concept of equality refers to equality in terms of personality; those who place orders, deliver meals, or work as directors are all equal in terms of personality. This student has a mistaken understanding of the concept of equality; they think that since everyone is there to be directors, that constitutes equality. If one goes to order food, it means lowering one’s own status. This sense of equality is actually a form of discrimination deeply rooted in one’s instincts; it is an overvaluing of the seemingly noble profession of director, and it represents discrimination against occupations like ordering meals, which are considered trivial. If I were the boss, I wouldn’t hire such an employee. This shows at least two things: first, he doesn’t understand the basic principles of interpersonal interaction; today you place an order for food and tomorrow he fetches water – everyone can work together to get things done. A person who lacks this awareness simply doesn’t understand what teamwork is all about ； Secondly, deep down, he has an illusion of being superior in his profession; perhaps he is a person with extremely genius-level ideas, but it’s very likely that before such genius can be brought to bear, others will not allow him any chance to do so. There are indeed geniuses in the world who don’t need anyone’s help, and there are such environments for them to thrive in, but I would say that these are exceptions; most people with similar abilities end up living in misery. Life is often lost not due to a lack of intelligence, but due to poor emotional intelligence. These days, how much stupider can one person be compared to another? What matters is whether you can make people willing to help you and share their experience with you; such things are certainly not something that only those with high IQ can know from birth.
Put simply, this is still a consequence of unclear division of labor. If everyone does their part, will such things still happen?
In fact, the same should apply to a company as well. For example, owners should also maintain a clear distinction between personal and professional matters when dealing with suppliers; professionally speaking, suppliers should deliver goods on time and in good quality once they have received payment, and if they fail to do so, they should be reprimanded or fined ； But personally, one must show a certain amount of respect toward the technicians from the suppliers. The vast majority of operational experiences cannot be reflected in the operating instructions; or else, one needs someone to remind them so that they can pay attention to those details. Shouting at and getting angry at technicians only harms oneself in the end. It is necessary to separate matters from people in order to handle every aspect of the construction site properly.
Everyone keeps talking about emotional intelligence – but what exactly is it? This emotional intelligence often serves as an excuse for some people to form cliques, ignore principles, and seek personal gain. Personnel relationships, work relationships, and the like are all governed by rules and regulations. These relationships don’t necessarily require someone with high emotional intelligence to manage them, yet emotional intelligence is often used by many individuals and corporate departments as an excuse or justification.
One needs emotional intelligence in dealing with people, and one must have principles in handling matters!
Emotional intelligence, simply put, refers to self-awareness, emotion control, self-motivation, the ability to recognize others’ emotions, and handling interpersonal relationships. From small groups of two or three people to the entire **society**. Everyone is an individual entity, yet they are also connected to other individuals within a group, forming a more complex system. Everyone can find a interconnected balance within the group they are part of, simplifying all relationships and conflicts in order to determine their proper place. At this point, you know how to think and how to act in order to strengthen and improve your own position while also promoting the development of the entire team, thereby enabling other people to recognize the value of your presence. In simple terms, it’s about making others think you’re an excellent person, and you yourself need to live up to that reputation. **There is only one main one; don’t set your sights too high. The most important thing is to first understand where your value lies, and to have an objective and accurate assessment of yourself. Don’t be so arrogant; there are plenty of people who are better than you.
What is emotional intelligence? Those who seem to lack it probably can’t be considered excellent, huh
Emotional intelligence is indeed very important. One of my classmates was very capable in school, but had few close friends, simply because he only thought of himself
Emotional intelligence and IQ are not the same thing. Some are good at academic work, while others are good at leadership. It’s best for everyone to do their own role. What’s great is that emotional intelligence and IQ develop simultaneously; I hope everyone can be like that.
There are certain things that everyone understands; when they arise, the ways of dealing with them vary greatly, perhaps because everyone’s emotional intelligence is different.
No matter how high one’s emotional intelligence is, aren’t background connections important? Moreover, the so-called excellence in the domestic market has no value at all as a reference.