My wedding is in a month, and I’ve decided to get my betrothal gifts back
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This post was last edited by cflt111 on 2015-8-23 at 19:00. We had already gotten engaged and were planning to get married on October 4th, which is the Qixi Festival. But due to issues regarding the house, she wanted to have her name added to it; she also wanted to buy her own house, saying it had nothing to do with me. Then she threatened to cancel the marriage. It was the same last time too; they refused to take wedding photos and threatened to delay the wedding, forcing my parents to speak nicely and plead for them for a whole day. She’s not even married yet, and she keeps talking about houses and salary accounts, forcing her future in-laws to beg her in a humble manner. What’s the use of such a woman? Her mother also spoke up, saying that our daughter has been hired as a nurse through the official recruitment process; she’s gone from being a temporary worker to a permanent one, and her income has increased. Our daughter has heart problems, so the whole family supports her decisions – your family should do the same. For a woman like this, I can only say I was blind back then. I’m 30 years old, and I’m a bit anxious to get married. Three-legged toads are rare; pretty, healthy girls with good personalities can be found everywhere. No one is indispensable to another, except for parents.
Everyone, calm down and take some time to think things through carefully
There’s no need to be upset; she returned the items last night right in front of the matchmaker. After talking on the phone with her family, the matchmaker told my family with certainty that we couldn’t accept this woman and her family. I admit that I can be stubborn sometimes, but it’s this family that’s to blame; if they want to seek death, then they shouldn’t be afraid of it.
Support: victory: One shouldn’t sacrifice a lifetime of happiness for trivial matters; a marriage that leads to lifelong suffering is like a grave.
Thank you. I’m saying this here today just to vent the pent-up frustration in my heart.
Your decision is correct; how can women take control of the family and overall situation? To some extent, women still lack certain capabilities, and studying the law will reveal the answer.
Support! It concerns happiness for a lifetime; life should be lived with dignity.
If you hesitate when it’s time to act, chaos will ensue. Cut through the mess with a sharp knife – the poster is a real man
Thank you. Originally, I could have bowed my head again and spoken some soothing words to make things right. But one sentence from my friend really touched me. If someone like that gets married, can they achieve the happy married life I desire? If so, then I should go ahead with it; if not, it’s better to give up early. Her mother had that same attitude – her own daughter had been admitted to a permanent position in the civil service, so she was no longer a temporary worker. The attitude is one of superiority. For a lifetime of happiness, one is willing to endure this period of emptiness.
What era is this anyway, with matchmakers still around? ? Hehe. . . Check out this family; maybe it’s a marriage of deception. . . Beware of matchmakers. .
This post was last edited by cflt111 on 2015-8-24 at 11:38. It was actually our second meeting; I felt it was quite fated. The matchmaker was just someone chosen for practical reasons. It’s not the case of marriage fraud; they returned the betrothal gifts and other expenses on their own. Basically, she expects everyone to go along with her; her family thinks their daughter is superior. Plus, she has a poor heart condition, and she believes that if I get angry at her daughter, it means I’m not good enough – I must obey her and meet every request she makes. It’s not that we don’t know how to please women or how to treat them well, but such high demands are simply beyond our ability to meet.