How to Love Our Children – Sharing Parent-Child Experiences to Spread Positive Energy
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This post was last edited by flp20052006 on 2015-10-13 at 16:25. Experience 1: The impact of a composition class taught by a rural teacher. This is an example from my own life: a friend of mine had just started teaching in a rural primary school (in the fifth grade), and a recent incident had a profound impact on her. During one composition class, he noticed that all the over 40 children in the class had submitted their compositions, with the exception of one very shy kid who hadn’t started writing. The other students said that he never submitted any compositions; it had been four years and he still hadn’t written a single one. His previous teacher didn’t even have time to pay attention to him. After learning about the situation, my friend took the initiative to talk to him, encouraging him with kindness and care, and surprisingly, he submitted it on the same day; his writing was quite good. Later, he reflected deeply on the fact that today’s parents in rural areas are extremely earnest and eager when it comes to their children’s education; however, due to their limited knowledge, they don’t know how to start helping their children. Moreover, their daily farming tasks and living habits leave them feeling that they have the desire to focus on education but lack the necessary resources to do so. This has led to the current predicament. I also come from the countryside and have participated in charitable activities there. There are many parents of children who are aware of the importance of education and know how to educate their kids, but it seems they generally lack common sense when it comes to self-awareness as well as educational approaches and methods. I’m thinking about whether I should establish a training institution similar to New Oriental to provide training in these areas. Next-generation education focuses on the improvement of comprehensive qualities involving the child, the family, school, and society, calling for active participation from the entire community. I hope everyone will actively offer their suggestions on what approaches might be practical for addressing this issue, so as to at least provide parents with some educational guidelines and benchmarks for self-improvement. ~~~~I hope that each friend who wishes to participate can provide examples from their own experiences or those observed around them, so that everyone can gain positive educational and self-education insights from them~~~~~~ I will periodically gather the results of our collective discussions to share them together and help us all grow together~~~~~~~ Certain rewards will be given based on the level of participation~~~~
Pay more attention to the children individually and help build their confidence.
Parents are a child’s first teachers, and every word and action of parents affects the child’s development. Starting from simple action imitation, moving on to independent thinking.
In your opinion, in which areas should parents focus more on nurturing their children? How to implement it?
Aesthetic views, right-and-wrong perspectives, concepts of cooperation,
This post was last edited by flp20052006 on 2015-10-13 at 15:23. Thoughts arising from two children fighting over a toy: On October 1st, our family went to visit relatives. My son and his cousin, who is one year younger than him, started arguing over a toy. I advised my son that the toy belonged to his cousin and that we needed permission before using it, or at least should ask first. My son said it was something he had taken from his grandmother’s house (he didn’t know when his cousin had left it there); he wasn’t aware that it was his cousin’s toy. Later, we found a way to let my sister play with the toy first; our child plays with the teddy bear. After playing for a while, my sister voluntarily returned the toy to my son, and the two little ones went on playing hide-and-seek. Later, I realized that my son didn’t initially know the toy belonged to his sister, and it took effort to get it from his grandmother’s house so he could play with it; therefore, I felt that his reasoning was worth respecting. Later, when I talked with friends around me about child education, most of them felt that it was women who were more involved in this area, especially when the children were young. After reading some materials on child development, I realized that better communication with children can be achieved by paying attention to the small details. Without taking small steps, one cannot cover a long distance; without gathering small streams, one cannot form rivers or seas ； If growing up is joyful, come with your children.
I agree with your view. Could you be more specific, dividing it into several key aspects for better practicality? It would be great if you could explain how you managed to do it successfully; I’m sure everyone is eager to hear your insights.
My child had a vest when they were two years old; it could be worn on both sides, with a pocket embroidered on each side. One pocket has a Donald Duck head embroidered on it, with that part sticking out of the pocket, while the other pocket has an maple leaf embroidered on it, with most of that part visible outside the pocket. She thinks red maple leaves are not attractive and always wears them inside. It was said that the leaves weren’t red, so they had to be changed to green instead. And Donald Duck is yellow; she insists that’s correct because she has seen ducklings.
It’s a wonderful documentary of life; our children can sense our care and attention. They need understanding and space to grow, and their world requires more support and guidance. My partner has been planning to document the little moments in our children’s lives, so that we can look back on the journey we’ve taken together as a family, in order to better assess what has worked and what hasn’t, and to set a better direction for the future.
This post was last edited by flp20052006 on 2015-10-13 at 21:45. Chapter 4: My baby loves reading. “Dad, read to me,” my baby asks every time before going to bed; the content can be little fairy tales, classic texts, stories about growing up, or picture books. The reason we encouraged our baby to develop a habit of reading is due to the influence of an friend’s educational philosophy; his child is healthy, lively, intelligent, and a true leader among peers, and we have benefited from that as well. Since the child was one year old, there have been no less than sixty different books in our home, not including those borrowed from private children’s libraries. The extensive amount of knowledge acquired, combined with our conscious practice of comparing things in real life, has helped the child progress rapidly; his desire to read has also grown stronger over time. This has also led to a reduction in the time spent watching cartoons, thereby helping to protect the child’s delicate eyesight. Now he speaks and acts in a more organized manner, and from time to time he invents stories for us to listen to, as the cognitive concept of turning things into stories has been integrated into his mind. I believe that parents all have their own strengths when it comes to children’s education; feel free to leave your valuable contribution here.
This post was last edited by flp20052006 on 2015-10-15 at 15:29. Experience 5, *The power of habit: Since the neighborhood is close to the park, as soon as our child learned to walk, we would go there every other day. What we did most often was to get to know the flowers and plants there, as well as a few popular areas in that park. The fitness area is a must-visit; it allows kids to swing, use the horizontal bar, climb ladders, and more ； I also catch some fish and shrimp along the lake shore; sometimes I put one or two of them in bottles to keep as pets, and once I have enough of them, I release them back into the water (for this purpose, I even bought fish food) ； His favorite things were the two sandpits, where he could use the pots, pans, shovels he had prepared to dig, bury things, make tools, or build structures – the possibilities were endless; it usually took an hour to have fun enough. Now that the child is in kindergarten, he goes there less often than before. But whenever he has free time, instead of reading, he insists on going to the park; he can’t forget the joy that this idyllic place once brought him, and he continues to enjoy spending time there.