Should I work for a relative who is also my boss? Conflicted!
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My cousin has just started a company in his hometown, and the company might go public in the future. My mom wants me to go back to my hometown and work for him; it’s also close to home. I’m in Shanghai now, and my work is going well! It means that a separate person is needed to take the child to school; I wanted my mom to help, but she isn’t in very good health! My wife has a poor personality, and the relationship between her and my mother-in-law is terrible! How to choose: If you go back home, you can take care of the elderly and children, and perhaps you might be able to secure some position to work in in the future ； If in Shanghai, there are also many opportunities ； How should I choose? Everyone is welcome to offer their advice!
It can be a bit confusing; Shanghai is a major metropolis with many opportunities, so I suggest not leaving it lightly!
It’s impossible to give advice; the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a major issue
Going home – making money is the key. . It’s no problem to go back once you have money. Your cousin’s company can’t treat you badly
It seems there might be more opportunities in Shanghai; working at home means being closer to one’s parents. See which one is more important to you.
There are two key issues here: the relatives are a cousin and a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship; in my opinion, it’s better not to go back lightly.
This is just the OP’s one-sided view. The relative is a cousin; if the original poster has the means, the cousin will also rely on them in the future, and to some extent they can be on an equal footing ； Otherwise, it’s just working for others, which isn’t very good. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also relative. It’s just a matter of getting used to the way of life there; if she goes back, the elderly won’t focus all their attention on her, and she can actually feel relieved ； Living in Shanghai, I only interact with a few people on a daily basis. My son is my own child, and my grandson is one I hold in my arms; only my daughter-in-law is someone I have to deal with, and she’s also the one who most easily leads to conflicts.
Actually, a debate thread can be posted. Everything is relative. If you go back and do well, with high earnings and a good quality of life, who would want to work for other bosses every day and cater to their moods? The premise is that you need to be useful to your relatives, and there should be a certain degree of equality. In the relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it’s like two sharp points facing each other; one party can simply pretend to be deaf. Whether you come back or not, it seems the elderly will have to come and take care of things. If you go back, the old man’s attention won’t be focused only on your wife, after all, she has her familiar environment, ways of living, and methods of expressing her emotions. Is everything going well in Shanghai? What does success look like?