You are my colleague, and more than that, you are my brother. What am I to you?
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This post was last edited by zhenlizhijian on 2018-9-16 at 20:55. Last night, I was on duty when the valve body of a control valve from a Zhejiang-based manufacturer in one of the production processes became corroded, causing material leakage. The process requirements dictated that this issue needed to be addressed. After inspection, it was determined that the only solution was to replace the valve. In the morning, the process was halted to relieve pressure and divert the flow through a bypass; there were still dozens of minutes left before work started. After finding the appropriate valve, I went to the site to verify its detailed specifications, such as the flow coefficient and flange spacing. Someone from another team was also looking for a valve, and we communicated via walkie-talkie. By the time work started, all the specifications had been confirmed and the valve had been found. All the members of the team responsible for that production process – this section is divided into several teams, with each team responsible for maintaining the instruments in different areas – helped move the valve to my location. However, I realized that there were missing items needed for installing the valve, such as air supply pipes, new bolts, gaskets, hand saws, and collets. To restore normal production as quickly as possible, I used the walkie-talkie to ask the members of my own team to bring these items by bicycle. Unexpectedly, one member named A refused outright. His opinion was that this task wasn’t related to their team, and they should go back to the workshop by bike to get the necessary items themselves, without getting involved in other people’s affairs. Why should I do that? Arrange for them to do these tasks? I said at the time, giving you some tools and materials isn’t meant for you to replace valves or anything; can it really tire you out? To avoid delaying production, everyone in the team should work together without any complaints. Unfortunately, it didn’t work; the team leader was standing next to the walkie-talkie at that time and asked a colleague who was already on site to go back to the workshop to get it. After replacing the valve, I returned to the workshop. A-san, along with the other two members of our team—A, B, and C—all criticized me harshly, arguing that I shouldn’t get involved in matters that weren’t my concern or take on tasks that weren’t within my responsibilities. I really couldn’t understand or accept that attitude. Usually, our relationship was very good, both in personal life and at work. A-san is skilled at what he does, but he has an impatient and impulsive personality; he says whatever comes to mind. When he’s in a good mood, he’s proactive within our team, but when he’s not in a good mood, he ignores everything you say. . Very distinctive. . . He’s gotten angry and snapped at me more than once; I think tolerance is what’s needed – after all, brothers should tolerate each other. But today, when he went back and snapped at me, I have to say I was very disappointed. Ultimately, it’s a matter of different outlooks on life. He thinks he shouldn’t have to deliver or fetch materials; in my opinion, for a task that’s so urgent, delivering some materials should be done without any conditions. Well, the communication didn’t yield any results. A immediately started using profanity, and I didn’t reply. Of course, I almost couldn’t hold back, but luckily I managed to do so in the end. Note: I am the leader of my team. I’ve had enough of being this leader; it’s tough to manage relationships. Especially, the interactions in daily life are good, but things don’t work well at work. In my opinion, if we truly consider each other as brothers, there are certain things that shouldn’t be said outright; one can’t just say whatever comes to mind without considering how the other person feels. What if I hadn’t held back and reacted by retorting back at them? What will happen? How can we continue to get along from now on? =======I’m a little divider line====== I’ve complained a bit, with some emotion; there’s nothing to do about it – this is just life. . . . . If the moderator believes it is inappropriate to post in this section, please move it. Thank you.
Now that the work is done, there’s no need to argue anymore. As the team leader, I’ll hold a summary meeting to explain clearly what the procedure should be in similar situations in the future. I’ll also seek everyone’s opinions and check whether what I’ve arranged is okay. If most people agree, then we’ll confirm in person that this is how things will be handled from now on.
If couples have different values, they usually end up getting divorced. These days, both men and women are very assertive and eager to assert their own presence; as a result, they each hold their own opinions on things and people, and this is hard to change unless one party is willing to change for the other. The same is true for friends – the best friends are those who will support you as long as what you do isn’t illegal. They may not agree with you in terms of opinions, but they will offer support in terms of effort or resources. That’s what’s best. If he considers you a friend, he will take that into account and not abandon you. Is that what friends are like? Even if they helped you and then came back to share their opinions, or even criticized you, you wouldn’t react in the way you are now; you might consider the opinions they expressed seriously. At least they didn’t leave you there in an embarrassing situation! You say you have a good relationship usually – it can’t be just a superficial friendship based on food and drink. I believe in this saying: \"The friendship between gentlemen is as mild as water, while that between villains is as sweet as honey.\"”
What was said on the 3rd floor is correct – people’s hearts are hard to read. You treat them like brothers, but they still don’t know how to view you. Some people always think that everyone in the world should be kind to them and revolve around them. From your perspective, it’s fine to consider the overall situation and sacrifice some personal interests. But for them, personal interests come first. There are many such people who are too petty and narrow-minded; one of them can spoil an entire team. Since you’re already in that position, you should take charge of management. If you want to continue working there, hold a meeting later, invite leaders who are higher in rank than you, and let them see your attitude towards work and your management skills. Praise those who deserve it and give criticism where necessary, while also listening to their opinions. Make good use of each person’s strengths to create a harmonious and positive working environment, so that everyone can carry out their work smoothly
This issue is not just a matter of relationships within your team; it is directly related to your supervisors. If supervisors regularly bring several teams together to foster a sense of teamwork, then the subordinates will not and dare not act in such a way. The leader is doing well. The people below can at most complain. The tool will be included as well. I’m not clear about the working relationships within your factory’s operational system. But it’s more or less the same.
Everyone has different opinions; I think the main reason is the fear of taking responsibility – in case it can’t be fixed or if there are other problems, then responsibility would fall on them； True friends and brothers don’t care about such superficial things; as long as the problems at hand can be dealt with, what’s the difficulty in doing a little more or a little less?
The work team did not have what was needed on site, so it is only proper, from a procedural standpoint, to ask them to go back and get those items. Judging from the fact that you asked your team for assistance and they refused: put politely, it was to protect your team, as the more work is done, the greater the risk of mistakes occurring ； To put it bluntly, it’s a lack of compassion; they are picky and unwilling to support your work. So he isn’t your brother; he’s just your colleague. In your work life, you need to be careful about the extent to which you show what might be considered brotherly feelings toward him.
As a team leader, it is a dereliction of duty to fail to direct one’s subordinates. As a member, failing to follow the leader’s arrangements is also a dereliction of duty. There are many unexpected situations in the factory; if leadership is lacking at critical moments and coordination is inadequate, responsibility must be assumed. Put it another way, your usual tolerance toward them – thinking that you’re being kind to them, treating them fairly, and giving them what they consider their due – is all just indulgence on your part. Members may have reservations about the team leader’s instructions, but they must be followed. Final sentence: Work is work, and life is life; don’t mix them up.
Let’s talk to the manager about this and see what they think.
For general tasks, regional maintenance is perfectly acceptable. In the event of sudden failures that require urgent repair, it is necessary to follow instructions; if everyone looks for excuses, then such a team cannot have any cohesion or combat effectiveness
If you’re not firm with those close to you, you’ll incur resentment from those far away. As a leader, you need to have some assertiveness; being too accommodating isn’t acceptable, and you should also show determination in everyday life