Transferred from WeChat – The three things that waste the most time in life

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First: Worries. There are many things that make us feel worried, and this becomes more true as we get older. However, overall, there are only two types of things that concern us: 1. Things for which we are not well prepared, such as exams, performances, job opportunities... We worry about these things because we are afraid of failing. There are many reasons for failure, but ultimately, the most likely and direct cause is insufficient preparation. Without making an effort to practice, without preparing adequately, without any materials, without experience, without being mentally prepared, without investing enough time in training... So if we are not well-prepared, what should we do? Sitting on the ground, frowning in worry? Of course, we should hurry up and get ready! ! ! 2. Things we can’t change, such as other people’s opinions, our innate flaws, or the end of the world? There are things that you cannot change. We hardworking Asians always think that if we work harder, we can achieve perfection, make everyone around us like us, and fill the world with love. (Cough cough, it’s not that it’s bad to want the world to be filled with love…) However, there are many things in this world that you cannot change. Just as some people are naturally fond of you, there are those who are naturally not fond of you. No matter how hard you try or how much effort you put in to please them, those who don’t like you simply won’t like you. Sometimes it’s not your problem at all; it’s just a mismatch in energy. Since it can’t be changed, why worry about it? Can worry change things? Let it go! If you can’t change it, let it go! Enjoy your life. Second: Blaming. Blaming is a simple thing; everyone can do it. If we can’t get into college, we blame our parents for poor education ； We can’t find jobs; we blame universities for not being practical enough ； We blame the bus system for being late for work ； When a relationship fails, we blame the other person for being selfish ； If a performance fails, we blame the poor sound quality… From now on, if you want to be a happy and successful person, stop blaming others! Take responsibility for yourself. You are the only one who is responsible. Your life, your happiness – it’s your own responsibility. Who here has never had a sad experience? Raise your hand We might meet people who are not good to us, and we might marry people who are not good to us. Yet, who are the people who choose to stay in such a miserable relationship? Who are those who choose not to try to make changes, not to seek help? Believe me, no matter where we are born, we always have choices, we always do. Of course, some choices are not easy; sometimes we have to compromise. Yet choosing to compromise also shows that we can, and are even willing to, bear these misfortunes, right? Blaming others does no harm to them at all; most of the time, they don’t even make any changes. You are the only one who is so furious and feels that their life is utterly miserable. Stop blaming others; from today on, treat everything as your own responsibility. If I mess up, then I’ll learn from that experience and try to do better next time. There’s really nothing to blame. Third: Judging others. We always like to watch others’ lives and then draw conclusions: Zhang San is a fool, Li Si is very weak, Wang Wu is actually worthless and only pretends to be rich, while Zhao, Qian, and Sun are barbaric and unreasonable people... Yes, these conclusions might all be correct. So? You see things so clearly, you speak so well, haha, haha, haha. And then what? Zhang San is a bit silly, but he’s extremely sincere and everyone likes him. Li Si is weak indeed, but he treats his girlfriend very well; they’re about to get married happily. Wang Wu likes to show off, but that’s because he was looked down on when he was young. Zhao, Qian, and Sun grew up being beaten and abused by their alcoholic fathers... Did you see those stories? Those things you don’t know? Have you analyzed yourself? Is it interesting? Judging someone else’s life is, first and foremost, a very crude and barbaric act. Most of the time, you don’t even know this person at all, and you have no idea how superficial the judgments you make are. Secondly, even if you manage to figure it out, so what? Others will go their own way; even if that path seems foolish in your eyes, they will continue to enjoy their lives. And what about you? Aren’t you even more pitiable for following along on the side of the road, watching how others live? You laugh at others triumphantly, not realizing that you are also in the picture. People passing by are also looking at you. That being said, things in the world are always easier said than done. I’m still worried, I’m still blaming others, I’m still defining them… I, who writes articles here trying to give others my opinions, am also a rather funny person. But think it through. At least I am happy. I hope you are happy too.