Ways to help children build confidence; encouragement is a more effective method to help them succeed

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This post was last edited by cflt111 on 2015-12-23 at 17:38. In daily life, it is important to consciously assign children tasks that are easy to complete, so that they have the opportunity to succeed; once they achieve success, the difficulty of the tasks can be increased. When a child achieves something, they should be praised promptly, with their progress fully recognized. Even if the child fails, help them analyze the reasons ； Let him try again, so that they can understand that success can be achieved through effort, feel their own value, and thus experience positive emotions. To foster a child’s confidence, it is important to know how to encourage them. Psychological research shows that when people are motivated, they can exert 2 to 3 times their usual potential. The essence of the art of education lies not in imparting knowledge, but in awakening and inspiring. Therefore, any progress made by young children should be enthusiastically praised. Appropriate praise can help young children build self-confidence and reduce psychological stress. The approach is to focus on the actions rather than the individual; it is necessary to evaluate the efforts made by the children during the activity, so that they understand what truly deserves praise ； Rather than simply labeling the child as a “good child”. 　　Adults casually criticize and deny their children, or even blame and scold them; they *assume that whatever we give to our children is reasonable and correct, and that children should accept what we give them unconditionally. As a result, parents demand that their children follow their instructions in everything and set overly high expectations for them. Due to their age and limited abilities, children often find it difficult to meet these high standards, which leads to criticism, rejection, and even scolding. This constant sense of failure and negative feedback makes young children feel inferior, preventing them from gaining the success experiences necessary for building confidence; instead, it drives them toward feelings of inadequacy. 　　Appreciate every small improvement the child makes, and say “You’re great” often. For example, let a 4-year-old child dress themselves; don’t say, “If you dress yourself now, I’ll buy you an ice cream this afternoon.” ”And one only needs to say, “I think you’re old enough to put it on by yourself.” ”Guided by such hints, he strives to get dressed properly, and feels that he has indeed grown up; he then reinforces this feeling through his daily efforts, which in turn boosts his confidence greatly. 　　The evaluations of adults are crucial for fostering confidence in children. During early childhood, when adults show trust, respect, and recognition toward the child, and often say to them \"You’re great,\" the child will be able to see their own strengths, acknowledge their progress, and believe that they are truly wonderful. Conversely, when children are constantly denied, dismissed, or doubted by adults, and are frequently told things like \"You’re so stupid, you can’t do it, you don’t know how,\" they too begin to deny themselves and doubt their own abilities, which leads to a sense of inferiority. Therefore, adults must be mindful of their evaluations of children, taking pride in their strengths and not feeling regretful about their weaknesses. It is important to focus on positive encouragement, to be good at recognizing the strengths in children. Instead of blindly comparing one’s own child with other children, it’s better to compare the child’s past performance with their present one, so that they can realize they have grown and made progress, which in turn helps build their confidence. In particular, extra care and encouragement should be given to children who are developing more slowly, so that they understand that everyone has their strengths, and thus these children can gradually develop a correct self-assessment. 　　Create opportunities to foster children’s confidence through practice. Give him tasks that he is sure to be able to complete, such as arranging bowls, serving food, bringing glasses to his grandfather, or getting the newspaper from the mailbox; praise him when he does them. Sometimes I also help her with some more difficult tasks, such as washing handkerchiefs, polishing shoes, and organizing toys on shelves; when she manages to do these tasks, she is given extra praise to build her confidence. Let him dress and undress by himself in the morning when getting up and at night before going to bed, to foster independence. It should be understood that confidence and independence must be built bit by bit; they are not abstract concepts. Therefore, parents should correctly recognize their children’s strengths and weaknesses, understand them properly, and create favorable opportunities and conditions for the children to try things out and discover new things, thereby helping to develop their various abilities. When the children achieve success, parents should praise them in a timely manner and acknowledge their progress, so that the children can experience the joy of success and have positive emotional experiences. 　　Cultivate a child's confidence through encouragement. Encouragement is one of the most important aspects in raising children; every child needs constant encouragement, just as plants need sunlight and rain. There is no encouragement that prevents children from growing up healthily. But we often underestimate the importance of encouraging children, and frequently forget to do so. Many people mistakenly believe that what children need is education, continuous education, and that education mainly involves instilling knowledge and giving instructions. 　　No one can be perfect or have everything go smoothly; the way one evaluates themselves and deals with failure determines different outcomes. Therefore, in the educational process it is necessary to analyze a child’s situation properly; especially when the child faces difficulties and setbacks, one should value the child’s efforts and help them deal with their shortcomings and failures. Young children need to understand that nothing goes smoothly in life, but that with effort, it is possible to overcome difficulties. Only those who continuously overcome challenges can make progress. If some children become sad and upset when they face failure, adults should take the initiative to approach them, help them analyze the reasons for those failures, and encourage them to find other ways to compensate for their weaknesses in order to build confidence. Some children have average intellectual development, but good social skills; they are able to care for the group and enjoy working. Adults should help them build on their strengths and gain confidence. Adults should also teach children to recognize the strengths of both themselves and others; to care for and help those who are weaker when they succeed, and not to feel inferior when they fail. 　　Believe in the abilities of young children. Trust is an attitude toward people that people usually develop through experience, as well as a form of evaluation of them. Trust in children is not just a momentary excitement for every child; it is the driving force that enables them to grow up successfully. Encourage young children. “A newborn calf is often fearless, curious about this strange place. At this time, young children might have some strange ideas and want to try doing things that are not easy to accomplish. In such situations, parents or teachers must never laugh at or forbid it, as such behavior might damage the child’s confidence, causing him to be reluctant to think critically in future life and lacking the courage to take on new challenges. Therefore, when a child wants to give something a try, parents or teachers should let them go for it even if they know they are unlikely to succeed, then analyze with the child the reasons for the failure and encourage them to overcome the obstacles ； And once the child achieves success, he feels incredibly proud. 　　In short, confidence, as an important social psychological trait, is a vital component of children’s good psychological qualities and healthy personalities; it contributes to the healthy and harmonious development of children’s physical well-being. Self-confidence is the internal drive that pushes people forward; it is an important psychological factor for achieving success and serves as the foundation of success. From an early age, attention should be paid to children’s confidence, and their confidence should be nurtured, so that they develop a healthy mindset and a positive personality from a young age. That’s all I would like to share with you today; this article comes from Children’s Art and Simple Sketches.