Confusion on the career path

Finding oneself in the awkward situation of being married but childless. Where have the good men gone? Where did they disappear? A good woman asks the heavens and the earth, but no one answers; on the internet there’s only gossip, no fairy tales – my heart is in turmoil, filled with confusion. Where have all the good men gone? Where are they? Good women line up in long queues waiting to get married; seeing the people coming and going in the streets makes me a little scared. Where is my prince charming? I realize that over these ten years, aside from gaining weight and more work experience, I haven’t improved in anything at all (and I’ve also gotten wrinkles), which has left me extremely anxious day and night lately. With years of work experience, one becomes impetuous; what is learned is superficial. At first glance, the resume shows that everything has been done, but upon asking for more details, it turns out that nothing is truly understood. Not only did I push myself to the limit at work, but I also faced countless setbacks outside as well. Although I have been at the company for 6 years and achieved some success, the current costs pose a dilemma for me – I don’t know what to do. Those in the engineering field know that projects are the foundation for survival and development; if we don’t focus on undertaking a few major, substantial projects now, there will be a serious mismatch between experience and capabilities. Although there is a certificate (but no registration), it is one’s actual capabilities that truly matter. These days, many companies don’t care about various certificates and credentials. In this vast world, there are so many talented people in China – who cares about such trivial things? I thought for a long time; considering the long road ahead, with mortgage and car loans to deal with in Shanghai, as well as the need to raise children in the future and provide for them in old age, it’s essential to have a solid financial foundation. There are two options: either give up your current career and, while you’re still under 40, think of a new path to take (getting married quickly is the real solution) ； One could choose to focus on their own field of work. Although it’s in a downturn right now, the chemical industry has numerous branches, so it’s not likely to collapse completely (though it’s not impossible either; it depends on whether the cost involved is something that can be borne). So the question is: by sticking to my current field, should I stay here to recover and rest, and then try again after having children? ； Having lived a whole life, one realizes that only one’s children truly belong to them; in old age, one still relies on their children – there’s nothing else to count on ； Or lower the standards, such as finding someone with 3 to 5 years of experience to take over ； After having a child, find someone with a similar salary who has time to take care of the child and look after the elderly ； It’s better to charge up quickly, get a master’s degree, and then try again after that. So what if I read it? By then, one might still not be able to find a job, or a good job that one desires. Being a returnee from abroad – isn’t that impressive? How much of it isn’t kelp? It’s so difficult to decide. Seeing all my fellow sailors planning out their lives makes me extremely worried~~~ One has to walk their own path, bear one’s own hardships, and only oneself can understand the joys that come with it. . . What you consider to be important may seem worthless to others, and vice versa. . .

She is married and has no children; she is not single~~~

Actually, I’m thinking that it’s so easy for other people to have children, but why is it so difficult for me?~

Ah, going even further than Crazy Fish. . .

Worrying too much – why think about so many things?

Your world, others will never understand it； You don’t need to understand other people’s worlds. One must plan their own life; after careful consideration, just go ahead and take action, without too many worries, and live in the present.

Too many concerns, being overly cautious and hesitant to take action, only putting pressure on oneself

Don’t be silly – it’s an economic crisis; everything is more or less the same. When the economy is good, it’s the employees who work for the bosses, but now that there’s a crisis, it’s actually the bosses who work for the employees. This is the best time for employees; although their income is lower, they have much less stress, and they can use this time to learn more. What a great time! !

I’m confused too right now! Planning to leave the chemical industry, but not sure where to go next