Should one’s salary be given to one’s spouse after getting married? Is it okay to keep a secret savings account?
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I just got married not long ago and am still a beginner; I have very thin skin. I’d like to ask all the guys here: do you hand over your salary to your wives? Several married guys have told me how tough life is for them after marriage – they have to ask their wives for every penny, and when they go out to play mahjong they have to beg for a hundred or two hundred yuan. Before getting married, he used to go out drinking and eating with us regularly, but once he got married he seemed to disappear; according to him, the reason is that he doesn’t have any money, so he simply doesn’t go out anymore. Although we haven’t had a wedding yet, I’m already half on my way to the grave. I’m now hesitant and not sure whether I should give my salary to my wife after getting married. If I don’t, people will say that I’m unfaithful in love and to my family ； If I give it away, it’s obvious that I’m sacrificing my own interests. If I go out to eat with friends and my pockets are emptier than my face, it would be very embarrassing. I’d like to hear what others think about this, so I can use their opinions as a reference
Try not to give it if you can avoid it:lol
Pay goes to the employer, while bonuses can be kept for personal use
If you can afford to support your family and live in comfort, it doesn’t matter whether you pay or not. Can’t afford it, yet still want to live a carefree life – what a nice dream. Why does a wife save money? For whom? If she goes to fail or to support her family’s household, that won’t do ； If it’s for one’s own little family, then there’s no problem.
It also depends on the woman; if she has the means or wants to be financially independent, she won’t ask you for money
It depends on her situation; it can’t be generalized； If one earns an extremely large amount, just make something up and give it to her ； If she is good at managing the household, give it to her ； If she doesn’t earn much but can spend a lot, then she should save some money herself
This post was last edited by ddfmy on 2017-1-4 at 08:32. You must keep a portion for yourself; especially bonuses and allowances provided by your employer, any amount of cash or money that isn’t deposited into your salary account should be set aside as personal money. It’s essential to have some personal money, otherwise you won’t be able to handle anything, particularly expenses related to your hometown or those that are difficult to explain. Although the other party might be understanding, there can still be concerns over time, and unexpected expenses often cause arguments with your partner. Of course, you must hide this money well – if it’s discovered, it will be a big problem! For unity, for harmony, for family happiness, and for social stability, it is essential to save some money for personal use! ! !
Haha, this reply is really thoughtful
Yes, it’s essential to have some private money; it needs to be paid regardless. As long as the wife manages it properly and doesn’t spend it recklessly, there’s no problem. One should also have their own savings – private money, private money, private money! Important things should be repeated three times
It obviously depends on the relationship between the two parties, as well as your financial capabilities and your family’s economic situation. . . If the income is low, let the woman have full control. . If you have plenty of money, you don’t care