99% of a child’s success comes from 1% change on the part of the mother!

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Aristotle, the famous ancient Greek thinker and statesman, said: An excellent city-state can only be created if there are excellent women and children. 　　His emphasis on being a good mother and raising children well to such an important level in governing the country is quite meaningful. Throughout history, behind how many great men and notable figures has not been a loving and patient mother? 　　“It takes ten years to grow trees, but a hundred years to nurture people. ”The family is the starting point for nurturing people over the course of a lifetime, and the mother is the earliest, most direct, and most important educator for her children. 　　Therefore, the quality of mothers, especially their level of education, is related to the physical and mental development of the new generation as well as to the quality of family life. 　　The mother is the one who develops a child’s early intelligence. In recent years, biochemical research on the brain has shown that the optimal period for intellectual development in humans is during the preschool years. Most educated mothers are aware of this \"critical period\" for brain development in children, which is evidenced by the high demand for various types of training institutions. 　　If: The mother is vulgar and rough, the child may also be rough and aggressive; if the mother is kind and generous, the children may also be kind and cheerful ； 　　If a mother is messy, lazy, and depressed, and her children grow up in a chaotic and disorganized environment, they may inherit her poor living habits. 　　Therefore, the cultural competence, moral integrity, behavior and conduct of a mother as the first educator, as well as her attitude toward educating others, handling various situations, and raising her child, have a significant impact on young children who are innocent, impressionable, and good at imitation. 　　The mother is a significant influence on a child’s academic performance and moral character during the school years (referring to the age range of 6–18). 　　A mother’s values, moral standards, and teaching methods have a direct impact on her children’s behavior. After starting school, as children grow older, their ability to make moral judgments improves; it is no longer based on the perceptions of their mother’s behavior from childhood or simple imitation. 　　Rational education strengthens as one gets older. As a mother, only high standards of values and moral principles can serve as a role model for one’s children’s behavior. 　　Furthermore, whether a mother’s teaching methods are effective also directly affects the behavior of her children. It can be said that the educational demands on mothers during their children’s school years are much higher than those in the preschool stage. A mother is a good teacher and friend to her children as they leave school and enter society. 　　The impact of family education on children does not occur immediately, nor is it limited to the preschool stage; even after they start school and especially once they enter society, this influence continues to have an effect. This is what gives family education its lifelong nature. 　　 　　In family education, mothers play an irreplaceable role and bear an irreplaceable mission ； 　　Fierce social competition forces mothers to keep striving and improving their own capabilities. Only in this way can one gain an advantage in the competition regarding the quality of family education. 　　Dear parents, If your child has a poor memory, relies on rote memorization to study, works hard yet achieves unsatisfactory results... The art of learning: Those who are good at learning achieve twice the results with half the effort, and they also find joy in it ； Those who are not good at learning achieve half the results with double the effort, and then they grow tired of it! 　　 　　1. Make Children Love School*
Don’t Be a “High-Pressure” Mother
Spark Children’s Interest in Learning
Avoid Labeling Children
Use “Shepherd-like” Education at the Right Time
Set Up “Traps” to Stimulate Curiosity
Turn Disadvantages into Advantages: Low Ground Becomes Seas, Humble People Become Kings

2. Give Children Time to Have Fun
Provide a Good Environment for Them to Play Thriftily
Guide Them Appropriately and Teach Through Entertainment
Help Children Stop Being Obsessed
Ignite Children’s Imagination
Be a Role Model for Learning
Use Consequences to Motivate Them
Praise Their Love for Learning Promptly
Cultivating “Self-Management” Is Fundamental

3. Develop Children’s “Special Skills”
Be a Keen “Bole” Who Sees Potential in Children
Maintain Their Enthusiasm for Progress
Encourage Balanced Development Without Overemphasis on One Subject
Prevent Children’s Passion from Slumming
Plan Ahead by Focusing on Strengths

4. Seven Lessons That Can Change a Child’s Life
Lesson on Example: A Qualified Mother Is the Starting Point for Excellent Children
Lesson on Communication: Communicate Better to Understand Better
Lesson on Responsibility: The Mother Is Like Water, While the Child Is the Rudder
Lesson on Criticism: Guide Children Down the Right Path
Lesson on Praise: Don’t Scrimp on Words of Appreciation
Lesson on Happiness: Plant a “Sunflower” to Reap a Positive Life
Lesson on Love: Shape Children’s Healthy Personality
Lesson on Success: Plant Good Seeds to Grow Bountiful Fruits

5. The Mother Is the Best Teacher for Her Child
The Higher the Mother’s Qualities, the Higher the Child Can Soar
Use Rational Motherly Love to Help Children Grow Healthily
Improving One’s Own Qualities Is Key to Educating Children
Proper “Navigation” Is the Mother’s Primary Responsibility
Teach Children to Take Responsibility for Their Own Lives
Behind Every Problem Child Is a Problematic Mother
Mothers Should Also Learn from Their Children
Don’t Forget to Cultivate Children’s Sense of Community
Plant a Seed of “Aspiration” in Children

6. 99% of a Child’s Success Comes from 1% Change in the Mother
Changing the Child Starts with Changing the Mother
There Are No Unteachable Children—Only Mothers Who Don’t Know How to Teach
“Weak” Mothers Can Raise “Strong” Children
Value the Cultivation of Children’s Hobbies and Skills
Wrap Criticism in Praise
Don’t Use Test Scores as the Only Standard for Evaluating Children
Be a “Careless” Mother
Mothers Should Learn to Preserve Their Children’s Dignity

7. “Family Education Psychology” That Mothers Must Understand
A Positive Attitude Ensures a Bright Future
Optimism Fills Children’s Future with Sunshine
Independence Allows Children to Choose Their Own Paths
Confidence Provides Children with a Guide for Life
Overcome Jealousy to Treat It as a Psychological Tumor
Confidence Comes from the Mother’s Trust
Defeat Egoism to Correct Children’s “Arrogant” Mentality

8. 10 Qualities Mothers Must Give to Their Children
Gratitude Is Also a Form of Cultivation
Tolerance Teaches Children to Put Themselves in Others’ Shoes
Optimism Opens the Door to a Bright Future for Children
Confidence Forms the Golden Triangle of Motivation in Children
Integrity Is the Pass for a Child’s Life
Diligence Cultivates the “Bee-like” Spirit of Hard Work in Children
Etiquette Is the “Business Card” for Children’s Social Interactions
Responsibility Plants a Sense of Responsibility in Children’s Hearts
Strength Ensures Young Shoulders Are Not Afraid of Difficulties
Independence Creates More Freedom in Growth

9. Be Your Child’s “Financial Advisor”
Teach Children to Spend Rationally
Prevent Children from Being Obsessed with Money
Know How to Give Children Pocket Money

10. Good Habits Determine a Child’s Future
Cultivate Children’s Spirit of Cooperation
Value Time—There Are Tricks to Effective Scheduling
Develop Children’s Habit of Loving Labor
Foster Good Living Habits
Thrift Makes Life More Abundant
Cultivate Children’s Habit of Loving Learning
Good Hygiene Leads to Good Health
Develop Good Thinking Habits in Children
Cultivate Good Manners and Politeness

12. 11 “Don’ts”
Don’t Let Motherly Love Lose Its Rationality
Don’t Let Children Always Circle Around Your Ideas
Don’t Restrict Children with Your Authority Constantly
Don’t Judge Children by Your Own Standards
Don’t Impose Your Interests on Children
Don’t Pay for Your Children’s Mistakes
Don’t Measure Children by Their Grades
Don’t Keep Emphasizing Their Weaknesses
Don’t Plan Their Lives for Them—Let Them Explore on Their Own
Don’t Confront Rebellious Children Head-On—Focus on Guidance
Don’t Fuel Children’s Vanity

13. 7 Phrases That Hurt Children the Most
“You’re So Stupid”
“Get Out of Here!”
“All These Years Were Wasted on You”
“I’m Busy—Talk Later”
“Watch How I Deal with You”
“Look at XX from Next Door—They’re Way Better Than You”
“Don’t Think Just Because You’ve Grown Up, I Can’t Control You Anymore”

14. 6 Details in a Mother’s Education of Her Child
Love Is More Important Than Money
Being Punctual Means Upholding Integrity
Don’t Confine Children to Their Own World
Turn Setbacks into Opportunities for Growth
Even if Rich, Make Children Work Hard
Don’t Feel Sorry—Take Responsibility for Yourself

15. “13 Secrets” to Boost Children’s Competitiveness
Focus—Help Children Concentrate
Endurance—Teach Them to Handle External Pressure
Challenge—Encourage Them to Climb to the Summit of Victory
Discrimination—A Sense of Right and Wrong Is Fundamental in Society
Cooperation—Cultivate Teamwork Skills
Eloquence—Fluent Speech Leads to a Better Life
Reflection—Help Children Avoid Making the Same Mistakes
Winning and Losing—Face Success and Failure Properly
Communication—A Solvent for Suspicion and Conflict
Affability—Be a Popular Person
Responsibility—A Greater Competitiveness Than Ability
Adaptability—Let Thoughts Break Free from Constraints