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This post was last edited by cflt111 on 2015-12-29 09:20. Things to keep in mind at the dinner table: although they are just small details, they can reflect a person’s manners and character. Enjoy the company together; avoid whispering. Most banquets have a large number of guests, so it’s best to talk about topics that most people can participate in, in order to gain their agreement. Due to differences in personal interests and knowledge, topics should try to be kept focused, so as to avoid an egotistical approach, endless rambling on various subjects, and drifting away from the main topic at the expense of the others. In particular, try not to whisper in people’s ears, as this often gives rise to feelings of jealousy in the sense that \"it’s just the two of you\", which can affect the enjoyment of drinking. Appropriate language and a sense of humor are important. At the dinner table, one’s talent, common sense, manners, and social skills can be demonstrated; sometimes, a humorous remark can leave a deep impression on guests and help them develop a favorable opinion of you. Therefore, one should know when to say what, and choosing the right words is crucial; being witty and humorous is also important. Advise moderation when drinking; never force it. At drinking gatherings, it’s common to encounter situations where people try to persuade others to drink more, treating the drinking scene like a battlefield and believing that not drinking enough means not being sincere. “\"Judging heroes by their ability to drink\" works for those who can handle alcohol well, but it poses a problem for those who cannot. Sometimes, excessive urging to drink can completely ruin existing friendships. Toasting should be done in an orderly manner, with a clear distinction between primary and secondary actions. Toasting is also a skill that requires knowledge. Under normal circumstances, toasting should be done in order of age, rank, and the relationship between host and guest. It is essential to carefully consider the order of toasting in advance, ensuring that the proper hierarchy is maintained. When drinking with people you don’t know, it’s important to first find out who they are or pay attention to how others address them; keep this in mind to avoid awkward or hurtful situations. When toasting, it is essential to pay attention to the order of toasts. When needing the help of a guest at *, it is natural to show them extra respect. However, be careful: if there are people of higher status or older age present, one should not show excessive respect only to those who can assist you; instead, one must first offer drinks to the more respected and elderly individuals, otherwise it will cause embarrassment for everyone. If you really can’t drink, then don’t take the first sip; just hold your bowl, pick up some food and eat. If you’re sure you want to drink, then don’t act hesitant – the rules apply from now on. Rule 1: At the dinner table, though feelings are deep, drink it all in one gulp ； \"The feelings are shallow; just give it a lick.\" But one must never say such things while drinking alcohol. Keep a low profile and build up your strength over time; never act arrogantly as soon as you sit down at the bar. Only after the leaders have finished toasting to each other does it come time for oneself to toast. Multiple people can pay respects to one person; it is never acceptable for one person to pay respects to multiple people, unless you are a leader. When toasting someone, if there is no clinking of glasses, one can decide how much to drink depending on the circumstances – such as the other person’s tolerance for alcohol and their attitude toward drinking. It’s important not to drink less than them, as it’s one’s own duty to toast the other person. When offering a drink to someone else, if you clink glasses, say, \"I’ll finish it first; you go ahead as you wish.\" This shows generosity. Since one’s position is low, one should remember to serve more alcohol to their boss; never drink on behalf of the boss without reason. If one does have to do so, it should only be when the boss really wants someone to take their place, and one should pretend that they are drinking because they want to, not to serve the boss. For example, if Leader A cannot handle alcohol well, one can indirectly stop those who intend to offer them a drink. Pick up the glass (beer mug), hold it with the right hand while using the left hand to support the bottom of it, keeping in mind that one’s own glass should always be lower than those of others. If I were a leader, I would know when to back off and not set myself too low; otherwise, how can I expect those under me to behave properly? If there are no special guests present, it is best to clink glasses in clockwise order, without favoring some over others. Cheers, let’s raise our glasses; there should be some words said, otherwise why the hell would I drink from your glass? Let’s not talk about business at the table; once we’ve had enough to drink, the business matters can be left aside. Everyone understands this, otherwise they wouldn’t drink with you so openly. Don’t act deceitfully, say wrong things, or do wrong actions; don’t make excuses – taking voluntary punishment is the only proper approach. Just in case, purely just in case, if there isn’t enough wine, place the bottles in the middle of the table so that people can serve themselves. Don’t be silly and pour wine for each person one by one; otherwise, what will those who come after have to drink? There will definitely be a drink to end with, so don’t let your glass stay empty. One of the unbreakable rules: be careful not to say anything foolish when drunk – don’t make exaggerated claims, don’t behave improperly, don’t spit or wave your chopsticks around, and don’t point with your fingers. Don’t make noisy sounds while drinking soup, and avoid passing gas or burping. If you need to use the toilet, go ahead; no one will stop you. Don’t keep saying “I can’t drink” (if you do drink), lest people call you hypocritical; believe it or not, it’s actually possible to tell whether someone can drink or not. When a leader drinks with you, it’s to give you face; no matter what the leader does or how much they ask you to drink, you should drink first as a sign of respect. Remember, use both hands and keep the glass low. Peanuts are a good thing for people who drink alcohol. Stay sober; showing concern after drinking is essential. A glass of yogurt, a cup of hot water, or a warm towel all demonstrate your care.