A rookie with 10 years of work experience is facing difficulties in both life and work; seeking advice
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This post was last edited by Thank goodness you're here on 2016-3-8 at 08:53. I graduated in 2005 and spent 6 years muddling through without much direction; I joined this company in July 2011. Over these years I have completed several small projects, and I handled everything myself, including the pilot-scale operations. 13 years ago, the boss brought in an experienced engineer to work on R&D with me. What I really wanted to do was go to the workshop; I didn’t want to be involved in R&D. But after a long speech from the boss, he forced me to stay focused on R&D and prevented me from going to the workshop. Let’s talk about this old engineer: he’s worked in state-owned enterprises for many years, a veteran with over 50 years of experience. I have no idea what my boss is thinking – why did he bring in this old classmate of his? I don’t understand it; he’s stubborn as well. During experiments, we consider him to be a serious danger, but he thinks it’s fine. (We work in the fluorine chemicals industry.) He keeps delaying things at work, and besides that, he also likes to talk back to his old classmate. By this New Year, all three guys I worked with have left; over those three years there was no progress in our work, and my salary hardly increased at all during that time. It’s been over 10 years since we graduated, and now is the perfect time to start working. I’m tired of living a life where I just go through the motions day after day. At the beginning of this year, after the New Year, I asked my boss to let me change jobs, but he refused and wanted me to continue working with him. I asked if he was still hiring people, and he said he was hiring one more person. For us to carry out our experiments properly, we need four people; at least two more people are needed to make it work. The boss’s intention was to assign someone from another department to work with us. In other words, just do it casually. Our bosses are all in their 50s; they don’t have much ambition. Everything in the company is just kept running to support them in old age. I also went outside to look for work, but they were only hiring people for basic manual tasks. Even when we applied, they wouldn’t hire us, saying that after working for so many years, how could we be satisfied with such low-paying jobs? I want to change jobs now and join a larger company, preferably one where I can learn more*. But with my wife and children accompanying me, I’m worried that the new workplace might be too far away, which would pose difficulties due to having a family to take care of. You can only look for one nearby, but you have to start over if you change jobs. I’m confused right now and don’t know what to do Should I stay and muddle along here, or join a larger company to plan for the future properly? (My company currently has just over 160 employees.) It’s written in a rather messy way; please forgive me.
Why can’t it be edited again? The sentence is broken. .
I’ve helped you edit it; after you post it yourself, click “Edit” below the post to make changes. In fact, life isn’t about how big your dreams are; talking about that isn’t very practical. Some slogans can be chanted along with the leaders; it is the money that goes into one’s own pocket that truly helps to support one’s family. Heaven spares no talents; please take care of yourself, young man. :handshake
One can re-edit their own posts. . .
Said a rookie with 3 years of work experience. . As long as the job isn’t progressing, leave right away. . .
I also talked to my cousin during the New Year holiday; he has been working in the chemical industry for almost 20 years now. I told him about my difficulties, and his general opinion was that money only counts as one’s own once it’s in one’s pocket. He said it was too risky and advised me to handle things on my own if I didn’t want to listen to his advice. I’m quite impatient by nature, and I had conflicts with this senior engineer teacher; we had little to do with each other either at work or in personal life. These days, in an office, people hardly talk to each other every day. He too just muddled along leisurely; he was even happier when I left. I find it extremely awkward working with him. I talked to the boss about this issue last year, and he told me that he was my classmate; he didn’t know what to say about him, meaning that he couldn’t do anything either. So later I thought it was better to walk by myself; it’s simpler and less troublesome. There’s a new company here named HeCheng, and I want to work there.
Either adapt to the environment or leave it. There are some things that should be said to a supervisor just once; it’s better to offend a gentleman than a scoundrel. Society is quite profit-oriented these days; leaders know exactly how much work you do and how many people depend on you. However, everyone is in a relatively comfortable environment, has adapted to it, and is living at ease. If you want to make a change, it means pulling them out of their comfortable nests and taking away someone else’s territory; do you think they’ll let you go easily?
I know what to do now. Thank you.
I suggest that friends conduct an assessment of their own businesses; if they think the business has potential for growth, then they should persevere and continue working. Leaders in their 50s are nearing retirement – it’s almost time for you to take over. If there is no progress, it’s better to make plans early.
This is still about assessing one’s own skills and opportunities
My plan is to work for a larger company for a few years to see if there are any significant opportunities for growth Staying in small businesses for too long, getting bored there, doesn’t help one learn any skills.