I often argue with my husband
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It’s been four years since I graduated, and 2.5 years since I got married; my husband is my college classmate. I work at a state-owned design institute; I’m constantly overloaded with work and often have to work overtime, yet my salary is very low ； My husband works for a private company; the work is quite easy, there’s no need to work overtime, and his income is slightly higher, but still lower than that of people in similar positions ； Basically, my husband’s money is used to pay the mortgage every month, while my salary is used for daily living expenses ； The relationship was great for the first two years; although there were arguments, they resolved quickly. In the past six months, there have been more and more arguments, almost all of them related to work matters ； The industry is doing poorly these days, and companies aren’t raising salaries. Since we are postgraduates, our parents have high expectations of us. But every time we go home and it comes to talking about income, they always sigh, saying that it’s not as much as what those who work at home earn, which makes us feel like our studies were in vain ； Recently, both of us have been troubled by work issues and are feeling very irritable ； I’m busy during the day and have to work overtime; I’m extremely tired when I get home, so I just want to watch TV and chat with him ； But he found me annoying and kept telling me to make use of my time at night to read more and obtain certifications ； But he watched TV while I was working overtime; when I got home, he started reading and studying instead ； Many times, when I’m tired or frustrated, I call him to talk, but it feels like he doesn’t understand me at all on the other end of the line; instead, he keeps trying to give me lessons ； Recently, we’ve been arguing more and more often over similar things, and the arguments are getting worse.
Given the circumstances, let’s wait a few more years before having a baby! Men and women have different thoughts, ways of thinking, and brain structures; when negative energy meets another instance of negative energy, it does not result in something positive – instead, it only leads to an even deeper plunge into negativity. He’s taking a break; he wants to watch it with you when you return, as well – he wants to motivate you to learn together and give you that drive. State-owned enterprises are very busy; it’s hard to imagine just how busy they are. . .
The seven-year itch! Recall the good times of the past. Understand and get used to it!
Life, oh life! I understand, I understand!
Hard work always leads to a bright future. Speaking of another topic, I’ve been working for over twenty years now. There are so many colleagues around me, and many who seem to perform excellently in their jobs, yet they never get promoted. In fact, in addition to one’s own technical skills, it is also necessary to think from the leader’s perspective and take on more responsibilities for them; this way, there will naturally be a promising future. As one advances in their career, their income also increases.
Perseverance leads to success; there are no industries that go bankrupt, only companies that do. One must learn to accumulate wealth – once you have the skills, why worry about not having money?
One shouldn’t always compare oneself to others; there are always people who are better than you. The key is to be satisfied with oneself, setting some short-term goals that are easy to achieve, as this will bring a sense of fulfillment. Also, it’s time to have a child; having a child brings many changes.
There aren’t enough responsibilities to take on; more responsibilities mean more income, and these two are directly proportional. The prerequisite, however, is whether you are capable of taking on those responsibilities. It depends on how you think about it. There’s one sentence I can summarize that will be useful for you both for a lifetime: In life, happiness is the most important thing.
I’m utterly disappointed with this society; everything is measured in terms of money. It’s clear what it means to have studied in vain, and why working is sometimes better than studying. Women lack the depth and breadth of thought that men possess when considering issues – this is something that must be admitted. Women should be given more encouragement and understanding. My rough analysis suggests that the main reason lies in the degree of economic freedom. How many families have really thought about this? To be specific, how many women have considered a man’s economic independence? Women think they can control situations by relying solely on economic control – is that correct? The consequence of this is that men end up having unsaid troubles. I’ll talk about it tomorrow; it’s getting late, and I need to rest.