How should I get along with such a leader? Please give me some advice!
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1. Usually, when senior managers assign tasks, I don’t get involved in them; so I just write the documents myself. After finishing them, I give them to the senior manager for review, but he never even looks at them before asking me to send them directly to him. When he’s not satisfied after reading them, he blames someone else, saying it was someone else who wrote it and that he didn’t check it. This puts me in an awkward situation every time. The requirement is that documents within the team should be reviewed by one’s direct supervisor before being sent to him, but my direct supervisor behaves this way every time, saying things like, “You represent me; just send it after writing it, there’s no need for me to review it.” With such attitudes, I don’t know how to handle these situations anymore. 2. They keep saying that this expert is good for nothing and that expert doesn’t understand anything (referring mainly to the directors and deputy directors who come from Sinopec and CNPC). They themselves act very \"low-key,\" claiming to not be experts, which really bothers me (I’m an engineer from the Sinopec system). 3. It’s one’s own ideas; there’s no reason to force others to express them just to prove that one’s own ideas are correct. Somebody arbitrarily labels you as having said something, even though you never said it yourself; you’re always the one who’s accused of saying it, and then all the so-called credit is given to you. People talk about it non-stop every day – is it interesting to praise oneself in such a ‘reverse’ way? I’m a person with a strong sense of self-respect; I’m not afraid of hard work or hardship. What bothers me is having to listen to those annoying words every day. I know I may not be very mature yet, so please help me think of ways in which I can adjust my behavior when dealing with such a boss
Take them out for a drink, and just say whatever you want to say. If it’s hard to communicate on normal days, then talk while drinking; if things don’t go well, it’s no big deal if one gets drunk.
Ask for guidance more often, report regularly, and give him more praise as well
This post was last edited by leigeris88 on 2016-9-3 at 14:52. When I asked for his approval, he just said, \"You decide for yourself; I have no objections. You can represent me.\" But I really can’t represent him! He also likes to speak ill of the senior leaders behind their backs; he doesn’t carry out the tasks assigned to him properly, which puts me in a difficult situation – I can’t do it if I try, and I can’t avoid it either! Sometimes he doesn’t assign tasks to you either; he just sends an email to everyone without specifying who should do what. Then, when it’s almost time, he asks me to handle it. He never said in advance who would do the task, and as a result, it’s always my job. I’m not afraid of having too much work, but it’s frustrating to have to do everything by myself! He’s terrible at being a “leader”; he keeps saying things like, “This is my brother, that’s my friend.” When he fails to accomplish something, he still isn’t willing to let you do it instead! I really don’t know how to get along with them!
It feels like a \"war\" will break out between us sooner or later”
You’re also a person without any principles. He deliberately avoids looking, so that you’ll realize his importance in front of the leaders. Maybe you’ve already offended him in some way; take some time to reflect on it. If that doesn’t work, then back off. But it’s really frustrating to deal with such people.
He came from a humble background; he wasn’t trained professionally – he’s an experienced person, but his writing skills are terrible; he basically can’t write at all. What he writes is full of plain language, and he can’t even use formal language. Yet he really wants to stand out, constantly trying to give us lessons and try to impress us by claiming that he’s worked on this or that device, saying it’s amazing. I really can’t stand it!
If the treatment is acceptable and no better place like this can be found elsewhere, then it’s better to keep enduring it. There must be some advantages to the fact that such a person has reached this position; at least you should get along with them on the surface, as they are your direct supervisor – after all, the boss right in front of you is better than one who is far away
Communicate more openly; regarding the preparation of documents, suggestions for plans should be included going forward. Add columns for review and approval, so that relevant leaders can sign off – this makes things more formal, and those who sign are held accountable