Among friends, never do these six kinds of favors – remember that!

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I. Showing off does not equate to helping. Helping means using one’s own strength to assist those in need, doing one’s best, rather than showing off. Trying to be helpful by forcing yourself can turn you from a helper into someone who needs help, unnecessarily adding financial and emotional burdens to your own life. II. Introducing a friend to work at one’s own company: Intimate relationships in personal life can only become obstacles in the workplace, bringing endless worries and responsibilities from the moment they become colleagues. Refering him to another organization helps to make the connections, without having to bear the costs for his future development. III. The need to enlist the help of a third party: If someone needs assistance that your close relatives or friends are unable to provide, and it requires more complex relationships to obtain such help, then exchanging 3 favors for 1 is not a worthwhile deal; moreover, the complications that may arise can become extremely complicated to handle. Of course, except in matters of life and death. IV. Helping others make major decisions – No one is infallible, so one should not readily make irreversible decisions on behalf of others; even if one is 100% certain, the differences in values that may arise should not be ignored. For matters such as going abroad, getting married, choosing a career, buying a house, or family disputes, only advice is provided; the final decision still rests with the individual concerned. Otherwise, you will regret it in the end; the shackles of a sinner through the ages will crush you to death. V. Pushing too hard for love between friends: It is said that one should encourage reconciliation rather than separation, but pushing things too far is not necessarily a good thing, neither for oneself nor for others. Love is one of the most profound subjects; general principles can be provided as guidance, but it is the couple themselves who need to work things out through the small details. Interfering too much in a friend’s love affair is utterly futile. The same is true for arranged marriages; the master shows the way, but it’s up to the individual to practice. VI. Helping the same person too many times. In life, there are friends who aren’t very reliable; their difficult circumstances arouse sympathy, but their lack of motivation is worrying. For them, frequent assistance has the opposite effect; it only increases their dependence. Rather than material help, they need more emotional support.