【Episode 3 of the 2016 Family Debate Series】Should one have private money?
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It seems no one brought up personal money for discussion, as it’s a bit ambiguous. The use of personal money in a marriage is also a very delicate matter. Ultimately, the issue of keeping separate money reflects the couple’s attitudes toward money, and it tests their sense of responsibility and integrity towards one another. So, if it’s possible to make more money from one’s own funds and then reveal it at the right time, it could be a win-win outcome for everyone. So, should one have savings?
No stance! It can be there, or it can be absent. It depends on whether your partner is too controlling.
If family income is secure and relationships are harmonious, why do one need extra money? In English, pocket money is called “egg money” or “pin money”. ““Egg money” refers to the money that farm women save by selling eggs. And “pin money” refers to the money that city women save from the household expenses provided to them by their husbands each month. In the old days, women would use a pin to attach their money to their skirts when buying groceries, out of fear that it might be lost; this is how the term \"private money\" came into being. In the north, private money is also known as “balaolouzi”. Personal money: In the past, it was the men who earned more money, while women mostly stayed at home and lived with their in-laws. Therefore, women would save money to buy cosmetics and clothes they liked, as well as to send some money back to their own families. Even if they did this, they wouldn’t use their husband’s money for such purposes; their husbands and in-laws either didn’t know about it or couldn’t openly criticize them for it. It’s probably used more by men these days. Why? Smoke, alcohol, mahjong, and women – these so-called bad habits are of no benefit to a family’s economic progress or harmonious relationships; therefore, a wife should put limits on them. . .
That’s possible; it would be great to give it a different name – call it emergency funds!
I think it’s better not to. That’s what I do anyway, and I feel like I can’t remember how much money there is
Hehe, this is necessary:lol:lol:lol
As a good man, one should make amends on both sides between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; it is appropriate to use one’s own money to maintain harmony in the family. However, it is not right to indulge in pleasure-seeking for one’s own selfish interests; therefore, I believe that having some private money is acceptable when the wife does not understand at the time. Understanding will come with time. Things that can’t be done with one’s own money shouldn’t exist at all.