Forget him and go to a large-scale dating event to meet a brand new love

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　 　　If it were me, I would hope to be able to forget him and then attend large-scale dating events to meet a brand new love. I have kept myself sealed away in the past for too long; youthful and impulsive love always has to grow through pain. Why is it so difficult for him to forget? Such a relationship aimed at finding a spouse is somewhat similar to a \"first love complex\" – the woman believes that their story of falling in love and getting married in the same city isn’t over yet, that their mission together isn’t complete, and that their love marathon hasn’t reached its end. After the man left, the girl continued to dwell on this matter, and thus time passed rapidly – twenty years have gone by in the blink of an eye. 　　Sometimes, it may not be appropriate to stick to that marriage or relationship; remaining stuck in an unfinished past for too long is not good for either party. It was too complicated; it was a period in which the right time met the wrong person. And sometimes, it may not be psychological factors at work; rather, physical sensations inadvertently influence emotional feelings, causing one to find everything that happens during dates in the same city to be absolutely wonderful and unforgettable—this is what’s known as the \"bridge effect\". 　　At a relationship skills class, I heard an expert explain the \"bridge effect.\" It stems from a psychological study in which researchers had many men walk across a high bridge that appeared to be very unsafe, after which they were brought together with the same woman. As a result, about 80% of the men said that the woman they met was extremely attractive. 　　Why is this? Psychologists analyze that this outcome may be due to the fact that most men mistake the thirst and other physical sensations of excitement caused by nervousness while crossing a suspension bridge for sexual urges, and thus think they feel an interest in getting to know that woman. 　　Such misattribution of physiological arousal leads to cognitive distortions. This is also why horror movies have become an essential tool for those looking to find a partner through local dating apps; watching horror movies during such encounters causes a rapid heartbeat and shortened breathing, all of which can foster the development of \"love\". 　　Does it seem incredible? That’s why we can never forget our exes or first loves. The memories of past friendships in one’s mind become increasingly vivid, and it’s impossible to forget those people. In my opinion, this is caused by our own subjectivity, because in fact we can make ourselves freer, forget that person, and not let them become a shackle that binds us. Then get yourself ready, face the new life with a positive attitude, and attend dating events to meet a brand-new love.