【Episode 2 of the 2016 Family Debate Series】Should you choose a name for your child yourself or have someone else do it?
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According to the ‘Li Ji · Nei Ze’, in ancient times, a baby would not receive an official “name” from its father until three months after birth. This is probably because in the past, medical conditions were poor; only after a child had reached three months of age and it was certain that they would survive would the elders give them an official \"name\". 「A “name” is one used by parents to address a child at home during childhood; it is usually called a “nickname,” or a “baby name” or “infant name.” In the pre-Qin era, people did not care whether their names were elegant or vulgar; for example, Duke Cheng of Jin was named Hei Tun, Duke Cheng of Lu was named Hei Geng, and Duke Huan of Qi was named Xiao Bai... So, did you choose the name for your child yourself, or did you pay someone to do it?
I came up with it myself. I didn’t follow the order of seniority; I spent 20 days struggling with it, and then when it came time to get a birth certificate, I made up my mind. But I bought a name-generating software online. I also spent money online to get some names, but I wasn’t satisfied with them; some of them had to be avoided.
It must have some meaning, right? These days, there are too many rules when it comes to naming.
Hehe, Chu Ci for men, The Book of Songs for women. I searched everywhere for that nice name. But even the daughter-in-law doesn’t like it. Naming software is also a waste of time. My child lacks earth in the five elements, so we added the character for \"again\" to balance it. For those born in the Year of the Horse, an inscription was added, as it is said that a horse needs a saddle.
I tried using software a bit, but it didn’t work well. I also have works from The Songs of Chu and The Book of Songs, but my dad doesn’t pay any attention to them at all.
Get up by yourself; as long as the husband and wife are satisfied, that’s fine. It’s not like before; there’s no need to determine which generation’s family tree it belongs to, as the middle character has already been assigned by our ancestors. There was nothing to do about it; there was no electricity at that time, and with nothing to do at night, a large number were born. Many of those who survived were of the same age as each other, and there was concern that this would cause confusion regarding the generational order.
We came up with it by looking it up in a dictionary ourselves; it took us a long time to decide: lol:lol
Looking it up in a dictionary? Isn’t this range too broad? Are there also words or something with their own meanings?
A child’s name is just a symbol; it has no impact on moral values – as long as it’s easy to write and remember. As for achieving success through one’s name, one has to wait for the right opportunity.
It’s better to choose a name for your child yourself, by doing it personally.